Dear Shri Sangom,
According to you: Tamil brahmin girls rightly believe that the hindu beliefs are without substance
What I said : Tamil brahmin girls erroneously believe that the hindu beliefs are without substance.
Actually the situation is more complex than it seems to from my above statement but in my view gives an idea about the reality.
Hindu philosophy basically says that the conquest of the six inner enemies such as lust, anger etc. is the way to freedom from the bondage of the physical world. Our cultural values are drawn from this fundamental premise and represent the timeless. So you really do not need to preserve the values because their truth will be evident at whatever time you use them and after how long you use them. It is up to you to recognize that and follow them for your own spiritual upliftment.
I said Tamil brahmin girls
believe, or have come to regard - and the issue is rather not hindu beliefs, but more specifically, the tabra beliefs. There is no question whatsoever of
rightly or
wrongly, when it comes to matters of belief. It is apparent now that you believe that hindu beliefs are with substance and so, if any girl believes that the hindu belief system is without any substance, then that girl must be erroneously believing. This sort of argument will lead no one anywhere. What needs to be done is to get a first hand idea and then try to find out whether such a belief (rightly, or wrongly) is there and what are the causes thereof.
My limited interaction with some of the employed girls and one or two who have married NB men according to their own selection, makes me conclude that these girls who perhaps have original, out-of-the box, problem-solving. etc., kind of thinking feel that they are mostly irrelevant vis-a-vis the tabra belief system. A few examples put forward are as under:—
- Why are women prohibited from doing the various vaideeka karmas, including srAddhams for her parents?
- Why should women be considered "impure" during menstruation, and why even religious functions like sraaddham are stopped because the wife has her monthly periods, although her role is just holding the grass - a mockery of her individuality, independence and intelligence?
- Why are gender roles so accurately marked out as far as the tabra religious side is concerned whereas, in the secular or real world aspects, girls/women are even encouraged to study, qualify and earn money just in competition to menfolk? Is this not a double standard of sorts?
- In what way are the brahmins superior or more cultured than all the rest of the country's population? Have we any scientific evidence in support of this? If a tabra girl loves a NB boy who is a crorepati, why is the community accepting it as if some honour is coming, whereas if the NB boy is a clerk or junior officer, so much of objections are made?
- Why, on the above lines, when sons & daughters of the upper crust Tabras marry outside brahmin caste and even outside hindu religion, these rich people are not ostracized by brahmins including the vaideekans and the mutts like Kanchi, Sringeri etc? Is it not proof sufficient that out tabra society only worships mammon, and all the rest of this so-called religious blah blah is just that . . . mere blah, blah?
- Why should I/we not therefore choose a boy of our liking either outside the brahmin caste or hindu religion and how can you object to this when the caste's double standards is there for everyone to see?
It is for our tabra society/community, including our revered Mutts, Matadhipathis, etc., to give a fitting answer to such doubts instead of simply saying that the girls
erroneously believe that the hindu beliefs are without substance.
I personally feel that the tabra community has no convincing answers to these and many other equally valid doubts, about our hypocritical belief system, and hence, we have to patiently bear with the rebellion which these girls seem to be making but without saying so. The foolishness of the tabra community consists in the fact that this community has not yet seen these IC and IR marriages as signs of an internal rebellion against this community itself and its misplaced value systems and the members here are trying to treat the patient without knowing how to make proper diagnosis.
