The importance that you give "to find ways and means as much as possible, so that such things (IC marriages) doesn't happen." is the majorpoint of difference between us.The tabra society has gone in very different direction/s and it is now nearly impossible to control or put some 'fatwas' against IC marriages of our girls. Nor will suggestions like marrying off girls before they attain a lower age, etc. work. As Shri Brahmanyan says women's independence is the most important cause for our girls preferring to choose or to fall in love with Non-brahmin boys and this freedom just cannot be questioned now, because the law is also on the girls' side. From my talking to a few girls who have IC love marriages, what I understand is that they feel stifled under the hypocrisy of brahmin parents who do not practise what they preach, and secondly, they don't find anything so valuable in following the brahmin way of life. It is kind of revolt and the sad part is that many male members here (including your good self) do not seem to have had the opportunity of interacting with girls who have gone for IC marriage.
Some of the IC and IR marriages fail, some are not smooth, etc., but this is true of same-caste marriages and arranged marriages also.
Last but not least, this topic has been discussed many times in this forum but no workable decisions could be reached. Tabra girls continued their own way. Hence, it is "dogs may bark, but the caravan goes."
I am stopping my posts in this thread because there has to be some end to அரைத்த மாவையே அரைக்கிறது also.
So, any thread topic on these lines, expressing concern over existing of Brahmin community, to see if possible solution can be found by openly finding faults with parenting, spirituality etc would be utter foolishness & childishness, leading to waste of cyber space of this Forum?
So, this forum, with the help of Reform Brigades, can not be pro-brahmin because of "desirable ground reality"?
As such, this TB forum can be good enough only for Mirch Masala discussion on politics, economics, Mathematics, Physics, Chemistry, Language etc..etc, in this General Discussion forum?
May be this will help in non existence of any ill-will among the members!!!
Wowww, what a magnificent community!!!