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Age difference for best married life

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krish44

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Even in single member earning families where the male is the earning member, Female partner normally keeps some money in kitchen rice or dal dabba to be used at

her discretion.Housewives are wise. They store separately some money into which they dip when needed.Men also stash away some money secretly to buy liquor , cigarettes and

sundry expenses.
 

krish44

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Should we talk of age difference instead of differences that crop up between couple on aging.

Yesterday I wrote about an old lady who took potshots from a gun at her husband after drinking with him for a few hours in a restaurant in bangalore.

Many get into a murderous rage over small things , age having something to do with it.

When there is more age difference between married boy and girl , there are more chances that the older will be more mature and fights will be less.
 

Raji Ram

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......... When there is more age difference between married boy and girl , there are more chances that the older will be more mature and fights will be less.
:nono: Krish Sir; can't generalize!

Have we NOT seen mAmAs who are more than a decade older than their mAmis and still driving them like a slaves? :whip:

Maturity has nothing to do with age alone!! :lol:
 

Raji Ram

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One of my maternal uncles had saint yOgam in his horoscope! Mom was worried.

A clever astrologer got him a match, whose horoscope had the yOgam to attract the spouse. :hug:

:cool: He will soon celebrate his 90th birthday with the happy mAmi, three sons and families! :thumb:
 

renuka

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Physical age and maturity do not always go hand in hand.

Some older ones are irrational and fight mongers!LOL
 

Raji Ram

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Physical age and maturity do not always go hand in hand.

Some older ones are irrational and fight mongers!LOL
Yeah! But fight mongers better be careful in our dear forum. :peep:
Or, their account shall be :lock1: !
 
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Falcon

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Yeah! But fight mongers better be careful in our dear forum. :peep:
Or, their account shall be :lock1: !


Our dear Forum has saw so many Fight Mongers... just visit achieves....

But it is the mischievous mongers who are to be very careful though not with the Forum Moderator but with their own conscience....
 
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Falcon

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New avtar, so soon!! :cool:


It is like 'Maggi' two minutes noodle.lol

It just take 'two minutes'...!

They may ban the product....

But again it is in the market....

One cannot overcome temptations....

The product has managed to enter every Indian home meeting the challenges

It is an interesting experience to come out with new avatar everytime.... like new waves in the ocean...
:cool:

 

renuka

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Our dear Forum has saw so many Fight Mongers... just visit achieves....

But it is the mischievous mongers who are to be very careful though not with the Forum Moderator but with their own conscience....

Dear Falcon,

Welcome to Forum.

Glad to meet you!
 
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Falcon

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This time I caught, it. LOL


One cannot be a 'Tube light' all the time.LOL

I have this thing to share....

Bruce-Lee.jpeg

Soure: Google images.
 
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Falcon

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Dear Falcon,

Welcome to Forum.

Glad to meet you!


Oh …Thank you so much Doctor Mam,

Just read in another thread about your most friendly responses

You are proving it again and again…

Let me also take this opportunity to thank our Moderator for the opportunity

It is indeed a pleasure to spend time among friends with lot of difference of opinion, instead of like-minded ones.

After all who is to decide as to ‘who is right and who is wrong’ …?

We are seeing in our daily life that cases which were convicted in the lower court, ends in acquittal in the higher courts vice-versa..

It is better to embrace the difference which is also good IMHO. :)
 

krish44

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I do not know what is bothering him.

Probably has been seeing the film navarathri of shivaji ganesan in nine roles.
 
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Falcon

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I do not know what is bothering him.

Probably has been seeing the film navarathri of shivaji ganesan in nine roles.

Nothing bothers...

But the only thing is about the disturbed mind coming here and talking long and tedious sermons untireingly.
 
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PasupathykovilPanjami

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The girl becomes a 'teen' at the very start thirteen. For obvoius reasons.
The boy is just a boy till he completes nineteen. For him 'Teen' starts at the end of nineteen!
The difference if you notice, is SEVEN years.
A thirteen-year-girl and a neneteen-year-boy will have similar expectations, desires and dreams for life.
The same state continues years after years.
This, probably, is the origin of the saying "seven is heaven".
I hope this adds another dimention to 'age-difference' for married couple.
Will do more of soliloque.
Luv.
M P Haran.
 

prasad1

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Les Francaises, they are not like us. French President-elect Emanuel Macron is married to a woman 24 years his senior, 64-year-old Brigitte Trogneux Macron. She used to be his (married) high school drama teacher. Her oldest daughter was one of young Macron’s classmates.

And in France, this is not that big a deal.

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he number of married couples with wives who are at least two years older than their husbands has jumped 67 percent in the last 50 years, according to a new analysis by the National Center for Family & Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University.
[FONT=proxima_nova]“I do think it’s notable,” Susan Brown, co-director of the center, told TODAY.[/FONT]
[FONT=proxima_nova]“It speaks to the ways in which marriage has become more flexible and individualized. So these traditional notions about whom we can marry — who would be an appropriate husband or wife — have gone by the wayside and we’re now more accepting of different types of partners and mates.”

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[FONT=proxima_nova]Meanwhile, the number of marriages with husbands who are at least five years older than their wives declined from almost one-third of all couples 50 years ago to just one-quarter today.[/FONT]
[FONT=proxima_nova]“As we see more flexibility in mate selection and defining who is an appropriate spouse, it means that women have more options now,” Brown said. “They don’t have to marry a man who’s older than them. They can pick someone who’s a few years younger, and that will be acceptable and viable.”

http://www.today.com/health/share-marriages-wives-older-husbands-rise-t39781





Of Course Sunil Dutt, Sachin Tendulkar, Abhishek Bachchan, Raj Kundra, Dhanush, Saif Ali Khan and many more married older women.
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prasad1

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A study published in 2008 in the journal Psychology of Women Quarterly found that women 10 or more years older than their partners report being more satisfied and committed to their relationships than women who are the same age or younger than their partners. That could be because the power dynamic in those relationships is more equitable, said social psychologist Justin Lehmiller, co-author of the study, or because only the most solid partners pursue age gap romances given the stigma.

People in age gap couples perceive more prejudice against their relationship than same-sex or interracial couples, Lehmiller's research has found. Women bear the brunt of the criticism regardless of whether they're on the younger or older side of the spectrum, with the cougar or gold digger labels reflecting a deeply rooted sexism that judges women's sexual activities far more often than men's are judged, said Lehmiller, who teaches at Harvard University.


Though the double standard persists, acceptance has come a long way. A 2003 AARP study found 34 percent of women older than 40 were dating younger men, with 8 percent seeing men 10 or more years younger.

Helen Piper, a 60-year-old retired paramedic living in Harrisburg, Penn., said age was a nonissue when she married a man nine years her junior six years ago; she and church friends in similar relationships joke that they're in a cougar club. For her husband, Jeffrey Piper, 51, a retired state police trooper, the confidence that came with Helen's age was attractive because he likes women who say what they want.
Compare that with when Felicia Brings was 31 and dating a 25-year-old man in the 1970s and so feared losing her job over it that she kept the relationship a secret. "I was so ashamed," recalled Brings, now 65 and living in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. "At that time, if the guy was younger, you were considered a pervert."

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/...20120919_1_age-gap-age-difference-age-matters
 
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prasad1

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What would a star couple have in common with the Iyers?
Like Bollywood stars Abhishek Bachchan and Aishwarya Rai, Gitanjali and Subodh Iyer, bank professionals from Mumbai, also have an age difference of three years.
Gitanjali is older than Subodh.
Talk to them about this and they laugh. "It doesn't matter any more," says Gitanjali, "We had almost forgotten about these small things."
But was it a 'small thing' when they got married? "It wasn't," she admits.

Both of them came from traditional families. Gitanjali is a Sindhi and Subodh a South Indian. They met in State Bank of India and fell in love. When the couple decided to get married, they realised it was not going to be an easy journey.

They had to decide on a strategy to tackle their respective parents. "We sat and discussed how we are going to go about it," says Subodh, "It was not a conventional marriage. Firstly, it was an intercaste match. And then, I was younger than the bride."The maturity levels of both the partners can make or break a marriage. That was the case with Ernest and Yasmin Remedios. Yasmin, a writer and yoga teacher, met Ernest, who works for E-serve, an IT company, while on a hiking trip.


The romance blossomed despite the age difference. "Our age was never a problem," says Yasmin. "Ernest is more mature when it comes to finance, home, and I don't think I would be able to manage without his support," she feels.


It also helped that they got the support of their respective families. She says their ethnic backgrounds are close (Yasmin is a Parsi and Ernest is Christian), as such both their parents were ok with the relationship.


Marriage counsellor Ratna Khemani says, "We've grown up with the traditional idea of a husband protecting the wife, caring for her, earning for her after they are married. That has changed today because both are qualified and earning." However, Ratna cautions that a big age disparity has led many couples to separate.
"If there is an eight to nine-year gap, the chance of it working out seems less bright. The first few years of bliss will be replaced by tension resulting from the insecurities that often creep up in a woman's mind," she says. Something as common as friends too can widen the rift between couples, as both sets have different mindset.

Stress too plays a role in the breakdown of these marriages.

"Today marriages between older women and younger men don't often work because of stress in everyday life. Criticism over expectations, fears and a suspicious nature add to the problems," she says. Financial disparity also plays a very key role, she adds.
Surprisingly, child bearing is never considered a problem because many high-powered couples do not even think of having a child these days.

Despite all these disparities, however, Ratna says these marriages can work if:


  • Both want it to work.
  • Both love, trust, and respect each other.
  • Adjust to and understand each other's needs, and
  • Are there for each other.
http://www.rediff.com/getahead/2007/jan/23rel.htm

It is 10 years old article, things are different now.
 
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