Smt Raji,
Actually even if one were to accept IC/IR marriages as Brahmin marriage it is a mathematical certainty of extinction in 50 years if a couple do not end up having more than two children on an average.
France is projected to become Islamic in about 25 years because Muslims are told to have many children by their prophet and they comply (about 4 to 5 on an average) while local French couples averages less than 2.
In any case, transmitting culture naturally is a hard thing. For example if we did not send our children to Southern India every summer during their childhood years, taught them to read and write Tamil and many more things they could not be talking in Tamil easily or appreciate small cultural aspects like enjoying filtered coffee, eating properly in a banana leaf, think how important curd rice is or learn to do Talam etc to Carnatic music etc..I know culture is far more than this but these are starters
In IC/IR marriages it will be unfair if a child is not exposed to both *cultures* even if they practice Hinduism.
In my small sample of visits, I find most youngsters of upper middle class families (TB ) in India mostly aping the west, clicking on iphone or ipad, talking in some psedo-assumed-English, clueless about many of the customs . They are least likely to propagate TB culture in a generation or two.
I know there are many families that are preserving the TB cultural aspects even in IC/IR marriages. But unfortunately it is a simple question of mathematics.
On both my father and mother side the number of siblings were 8 or more. After two generations, minimal children in each of the cases, my son now is the only one in the lineage of our family. This issue has nothing to do with IC or IR marriage or even going to USA or anything. It is simply a matter of just numbers. Most had no children or one child (daughter) .
That is the point I was trying to stress.
