dear bala !
yes .A woman have a role of devoted mother with pious and take a role of mother-in-law with bias and vociferous.she will be more affectionate to his son-in-law than her own sons .
guruvayurappan
Its just human psychology, some woman when they never had as good time as a daughter in law they do not treat their own DIL well when its their turn to be a MIL.
and this type of pattern goes on as a vicious cycle and a never ending story.
Seen this pattern of thinking even while I was an intern..I remember we intern doctors used to get "tortured" by the senior ones and life used to be hell.
but the same interns when they became seniors start bullying the juniors and the cycle continues.
Only very few of us used to teach and guide the junior ones how to handle the work and how to prevent being bullied by other senior docs and sometimes even help out the junior by covering for them.
Many senior doctors used to tell me and others who were kind to juniors "why are you helping them out...let them get it like how we got it from the consultants".
We use to say..."this has to stop somewhere..revenge is not the name of the game and stressful working conditions wont bring out the best in a doctor"
So if women think and feel that since "we went tru a hard time as a DIL we will make sure our DIL wont suffer" and make a change,the world will be a better place.
Actually its not too hard to be a good MIL.
Most important is to mind our own business and let son and his wife lead they life best suited to them.
But how many women can mind their own business?
Thats why I always tell my husband that when my son gets married..I would like him to stay on his own and be happy with his wife..I wont want to interfere in anything.
Thats why I bring up my son to be independent and not be a mummy's boy cos
most mummy's boys dont make good husbands.
My duty is to bring up my son to be a good person and eventually a good husband for his wife.
I dont have to bring him up to be a good son cos he is already my son biologically and thats good enough for me.