How many of us perform the vaidika portion in marriage ceremonies by correctly reciting the Sanskrit mantras and by being correctly told about the sanctity of each and every ritual ???!!!!! I do appreciate the need to perform the vaidika portion appropriately. But a critical review of the art of performing marriages spread over more than a couple of days and also on convergence of various school of thoughts so as to perform the marriage customs in a simple yet appropriate manner needs to be done by elders in our society and the Vaidikas.
What about the need for Jaana vasam/Mappilai Azhaipu? Is it relevant and is it being performed in the way it ought to be ?
What about Kashi Yatra's relevance ? Modern day Kaashi yatras during marriages are with Stylish Umbrellas with rose petals showered on the bridegroom when the umbrella is opened, hand-fan (Vishari) with lot of decorations and even the walking stick (Vadi) in fashionable outer coverings. Can we not have Kaashi yatra without such pomposity / comforts ? Are we taking Customs for a ride in the name of grandeur ?
What about Mangalya suthra dharanam/Thalikettu being performed by the bride sitting on the lap of her father? I heard that this
was performed because in olden days during Saisav Vivah / Child marriages, the girl had the tendency to run away and hence the practice which is still being followed.
In another marriage, I saw that the brides parents were not allowed to be near the bride during the Thalikettu/Mangalya suthra ritual because as per the vaidika after the 'Dhara Ceremony/Dhara vaathu kodukkal' the parents of the bride have lost their right to be beside her. Quite strange when one goes through all this.
Yes, there is a need to follow rituals/tradition but without losing its relevance, without unnecessary pomp and splendour and with refinement.
I do not certainly wish to hurt the sentiments of anyone.
Let us continue with a frank and purposeful discussion.
Rattan Kumar.R.
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