Mr s007bala,
After a long deliberation, i have chosen to write this note to you.
This forum is dear to me because i have personally gained a lot in terms of improving my writing abilities, learning to agree to disagree and importantly to step back and be a spectator when the occasion demands.
Thru this forum, i have come across some of the finest people that one could be fortunate enough to come across during a life time and a few relationships developed herein have blossomed offline too.
So hopefully this explains why i am bothering to write this note.
There was a time when there were 5 to 10 posters who were regulars and most of the traffic was generated among them. For whatever reasons (mostly demands on time), the traffic dwindled and the forum did go into a lull.
It was during such a time that you entered the forum along with Mr Sesh and for the best part of the initial period brought lot of life to the forum. I can see that you have started many threads and participated in as varied topics as one possibly could.
Frankly later, i think you went into a tailspin (will explain) and oflate you are, I think, suffering from COS or CPS - Compulsive Opinion/Posting Syndrome.
I can say this with certainity since in another forum, I am fighting hard to resist the urge to respond to every post. It is an art and let me candidly admit that i am no good in it, but I am aware of my shortcomings.
If i can make a guess, I think this is your first participation in any online forum and hence you are wanting to give vent to all the knowledge / opinions / frustrations that you have accumulated over years.
It is natural but it is in actually controlling the urge that one would climb the rungs of quality in participation.
In the last 2/3 months you are "reacting" and not "responding".
Frankly speaking, None of your jibes are even "remotely funny" and a lot of them are not even logical. A few of them are surely beyond the boundaries of decency whatever justification you may be inclined to provide.
It is part of our ethics and culture that inter-gender discussions are founded on strong principles of decency and I am of the view that you havent quite lived up to those principles.
To tell you something about me, I have been involved in bitter exchanges with atleast 3 members in another forum but I am not proud of it. The circumstances were different and being a eclectic group with a 'dravidian bias', I couldnt have hoped for patronage for some of the views. It took me some time to realize this, but once i did realize, i started moderating myself.
But this forum is different. I tend to believe that this is a homogenous forum genuinely interested in the wellbeing of our community.
I am not a tamilian myself (I bet i can write better tamil than most tamilians) but I consider myself part of this identity.
I can offer the following suggestions, which you may ofcourse dismiss in entirety.
a) Set a personal limit for number of posts per day
b) Try to collect your views/opinions and combine into one post
c) Evaluate how many posts are veering away from the topic
d) Review your current participation and think how many posts you can be truly proud of. (Personally speaking, i dont think i can be proud of more than 10% of all my posts)
e) Open a word file and try to indulge in shadow posting. At the end of the day, re-read them and only post those which you think pass muster
f) Most importantly start a blog which will give you necessary vent for your frustrations
g) Cut down on humour (actually on what you "think is humour")
h) Dont indulge in addressing anyone in 'singular terms'. It may be acceptable to you but it may not be to many and justifiably so.
I am still of the view that you are a good poster and can share good things but in coming across as you are doing presently, you are not going to win too many friends here.
Lastly i will only submit to you : Since you have a personal relationship/access to the present Shankaracharyas, how do you think they will view some of your recent posts ? In my opinion, this is the litmus test that you should conduct by yourselves.
Just some of my thoughts and let me assure you that i have no intention of 'evaluating' you or 'advising' you. But it does bother me to see the quality of the forum suffer for reasons adumbrated herein before.