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OK, but how does this fit in in your post #20 above?
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OK, but how does this fit in in your post #20 above?
guruvayurappan
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dear sangom sir !
it is in continuation of post 18 &20. i will here after wards post the reply with post number okva ?
with regards,
guruvayuarappan
guru,
truly you have hitten upon a seldom spoken truth. the youth of today are better informed, knowledgeable, and i would say, more mature than i was in their age - i mean from 16 though 22 - the prime teen years and immediately there after.
ofcourse, we could say, that they have the internet which we did not have. + the cell phone ofcourse.
come to remember, my uncle used to tell my dad his brother, whenever he saw me mouthing off, as something that my dad should not be concerned, as the point a parent having done a good job, is the instant, when the parent understands the son knows more than him...or something like that...
to sum up, i guess, with the 20th century and the rapid growth of knowledge, the shrinking of distances, we are experiencing an explosion of thought ideas and knowledge, and mercifully more and more kids the world over are benefitting. truly a flat world, though not quite !!
truly you have hitten upon a seldom spoken truth. the youth of today are better informed, knowledgeable, and i would say, more mature than i was in their age - i mean from 16 though 22 - the prime teen years and immediately there after.
ofcourse, we could say, that they have the internet which we did not have. + the cell phone ofcourse.
come to remember, my uncle used to tell my dad his brother, whenever he saw me mouthing off, as something that my dad should not be concerned, as the point a parent having done a good job, is the instant, when the parent understands the son knows more than him...or something like that...
to sum up, i guess, with the 20th century and the rapid growth of knowledge, the shrinking of distances, we are experiencing an explosion of thought ideas and knowledge, and mercifully more and more kids the world over are benefitting. truly a flat world, though not quite !!
I believe the same thing is probably said to tambrahms and other south vegetarians especially by NV eating people. Food habits, a nerdy culture and maybe even height are some of the ways people "tease" men. I've heard only good things about the ladies though. I wonder why ladies seems to be let of the hook? not that i'd want it any other way 
sangom
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Thank you. Somehow I seem to have omitted to read # 18.
sangom
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Shri Kunjuppu, Shri appan,
I have the feeling that today's youngsters have a huge mass of information and familiarity with technology but, when it comes to knowledge and street smartness (by which I mean the ruggedness to face obstacles, bad days, etc.) they are at a disadvantage as compared to my days. In short today's youngsters will be very good at answering quiz programmes but if they have to work in a factory with less than ideal conditions, they will start withering fast. And a life like the one in கள்ளிக்காட்டு இதிஹாஸம், will make them commit suicide at the very first opportunity.
K Sir, The probs with trading classes were always the same everywhere, i beleive, either north or south. Nowadays some forums (elsewhere) are about long-working husbands (as well as wives in the IT field), in this modern-day scenario, so such a situation does not apply to trading classes alone and certainly not gujjus alone. It was not nice for TOI to publish such a news report (as though such things do not happen elsewhere), and have people targetting one linguistic group alone.sangom, amala,
seriously folks, and without any hurt or humiliation intended, i have heard similar comments about gujju men on many several occassions - the reason being that their primary effort and most of their energy expended in making money and everything else takes a distant secondary spot.
like all generalizations, this one is faulty too, i believe
Amala, if am not wrong, there is nothing negative ever said about B women, atleast so far always heard positives only. Contrary to what you say, people like to become Veg these days, not the other way around, becoz everyone is concerned for their health with animals eating paper, shit, injecting hormones, and we eating such animals. For B men also, have always heard positives..given a choice everyone i know of wud rent out places to Bs because they are 'disciplined, pay rent on time, hassle-free, maintain house well, etc, etc'...all the negative comments you hear is actually out of angst at being given a low position or outcasted in the very religion to which people belong, and hurt/anger that comes out of it. Its about the ideology, not the people, and the wish that people holding on to the ideology will help change things for a better future for everyone...I believe the same thing is probably said to tambrahms and other south vegetarians especially by NV eating people. Food habits, a nerdy culture and maybe even height are some of the ways people "tease" men. I've heard only good things about the ladies though. I wonder why ladies seems to be let of the hook? not that i'd want it any other way
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guruvayurappan
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dear kujuppu sir !
once again i feel happy to hear from people like you. my opinion is based not only on my sons and daughter ,but also observing my grand daughters . my 3 yr old pethi will call me in skype clicking on my photo and she is expert in taking photo with mobile phone.she will clear very complicated puzzles in no time when we grown up will take 20 -30 min.the world is for survival of the fittest
with regards,
guruvayurappan
once again i feel happy to hear from people like you. my opinion is based not only on my sons and daughter ,but also observing my grand daughters . my 3 yr old pethi will call me in skype clicking on my photo and she is expert in taking photo with mobile phone.she will clear very complicated puzzles in no time when we grown up will take 20 -30 min.the world is for survival of the fittest
with regards,
guruvayurappan
guruvayurappan
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dear sangom sir !
for lack of
street smartness (by which I mean the ruggedness to face obstacles, bad days, etc.) they are at a disadvantage as compared to your days. is the fault of parents and not the children .when the parents are offering all modern equipments , they are not ready to take risk for development of skill you refered.In. olden days the no of child to the couple were >3 and in present day it is limited to one and two is rare. & hence the child is brought up in a sophisticated manner. if situation warrants they will rise to the occasion .necessity is the mother of all invention . why to starve today anticipating no food tomorrow
with regards,
guruvayuarppan
for lack of
street smartness (by which I mean the ruggedness to face obstacles, bad days, etc.) they are at a disadvantage as compared to your days. is the fault of parents and not the children .when the parents are offering all modern equipments , they are not ready to take risk for development of skill you refered.In. olden days the no of child to the couple were >3 and in present day it is limited to one and two is rare. & hence the child is brought up in a sophisticated manner. if situation warrants they will rise to the occasion .necessity is the mother of all invention . why to starve today anticipating no food tomorrow
with regards,
guruvayuarppan
This happens in school even today
Girls and teachers will not respect the guys who are tall and dark are sitting in the back benches.
Let me narrate this incident:
I was writing the public board examination in a school in alwarpet, chennai. The principal was an anglo indian and i was writing my maths exam, she came to me and said see ur paper and write and dont copy. I immediately flung my paper and asked her " If she could prove that i have copied from X or Y or Z". I was tall, had a light meesai and beard. Skin color was our indian color. The others teachers in the hall tried to pacify me and i just left the hall. I never in my life attempted to clear that paper and it still remains. The remark by the principal was unwarranted.
Girls and teachers will not respect the guys who are tall and dark are sitting in the back benches.
Let me narrate this incident:
I was writing the public board examination in a school in alwarpet, chennai. The principal was an anglo indian and i was writing my maths exam, she came to me and said see ur paper and write and dont copy. I immediately flung my paper and asked her " If she could prove that i have copied from X or Y or Z". I was tall, had a light meesai and beard. Skin color was our indian color. The others teachers in the hall tried to pacify me and i just left the hall. I never in my life attempted to clear that paper and it still remains. The remark by the principal was unwarranted.
. Kamesh,
Did you realize the long term consequences of your action? Losing your temper for one second, may have, I don’t know, seriously impacted the progress of your life, on the job front.
Very few times, we are given the opportunity for damage control.
I always tell my children, ‘never to lose their temper’, but to sit back, and plan your repartee. You should believe that time is on your side, and perhaps, if you had waited, you could have responded with greater vehemance at the principal. Also, did you wonder, why he should pick on you? maybe it a was a lifetime lesson, for if you know, that some manner of your actions or behaviour, is viewed unfavourably, you can modify it, to attain your goals. No?
Never lose your temper. This is one ‘never’ that is good on all occassions.
Another example: with great difficulty, and with lots of begging, my dad got my cousin a job in a big company. This young man, then 18, one day got offended, when the boss called him to his room, and asked him get tea for him & visitor, which my cousin felt insulted as it was peon’s job (cousin was a junior clerk). He shouted at the boss, and left the company. Today 40 years later, he still regrets it, for the way it turned out, his replacement, within 5 years got 2 promotions, and with 10 years ended up being the store manager for this large MNC. For my cousin, it took another 2 years before he found a job, and it was nothing like what he lost. all because of a short temper
Did you realize the long term consequences of your action? Losing your temper for one second, may have, I don’t know, seriously impacted the progress of your life, on the job front.
Very few times, we are given the opportunity for damage control.
I always tell my children, ‘never to lose their temper’, but to sit back, and plan your repartee. You should believe that time is on your side, and perhaps, if you had waited, you could have responded with greater vehemance at the principal. Also, did you wonder, why he should pick on you? maybe it a was a lifetime lesson, for if you know, that some manner of your actions or behaviour, is viewed unfavourably, you can modify it, to attain your goals. No?
Never lose your temper. This is one ‘never’ that is good on all occassions.
Another example: with great difficulty, and with lots of begging, my dad got my cousin a job in a big company. This young man, then 18, one day got offended, when the boss called him to his room, and asked him get tea for him & visitor, which my cousin felt insulted as it was peon’s job (cousin was a junior clerk). He shouted at the boss, and left the company. Today 40 years later, he still regrets it, for the way it turned out, his replacement, within 5 years got 2 promotions, and with 10 years ended up being the store manager for this large MNC. For my cousin, it took another 2 years before he found a job, and it was nothing like what he lost. all because of a short temper
Kunjuppu sir, - I do realise it and yes it was a mistake but still i am so proud of what i did
Back Bench theory is the worst in india. It is still there.
I studied in so called brahmin school in mylapore alamelumangapuram. I studied CBSE and the state board school of the same management has been very famous for years.even before pre independence era.
Some one lost his pencil box and a parent went and complained. the saddest portion was all back benchers and 5 of the tallest guys in the class were called and asked and checked. We did report this incident to our parents at that time. The school said be here or get out..we dont care
The so called fair brahmins had a say in everything. But their actions were worst
As Kamal says in Anbe sivam...terrorists these days look nice..they are well dressed
Back Bench theory is the worst in india. It is still there.
I studied in so called brahmin school in mylapore alamelumangapuram. I studied CBSE and the state board school of the same management has been very famous for years.even before pre independence era.
Some one lost his pencil box and a parent went and complained. the saddest portion was all back benchers and 5 of the tallest guys in the class were called and asked and checked. We did report this incident to our parents at that time. The school said be here or get out..we dont care
The so called fair brahmins had a say in everything. But their actions were worst
As Kamal says in Anbe sivam...terrorists these days look nice..they are well dressed
கத்திரிக்காய் வாங்க போன அவளோட புருசன் லாரி அடிச்சு செத்து போயிட்டாராம்.
அய்யோ பாவம், அப்புறம் என்னாச்சு.
வீட்டுல இருந்த முருங்கைக்காயை வச்சு சாம்பார் வச்சாளாம்.
பிச்சைகாரன்: அந்த சினிமா போஸ்ட்டரை ஏன் இவ்ளோ நேரமா உத்து பார்த்துகிட்டு இருக்க?
பிச்சைக்காரன்: ஒன்னும் இல்லை, ரெண்டு வருசத்துக்கு முன்னாடி அது நான் தயாரிச்ச படம்.
அய்யோ பாவம், அப்புறம் என்னாச்சு.
வீட்டுல இருந்த முருங்கைக்காயை வச்சு சாம்பார் வச்சாளாம்.
பிச்சைகாரன்: அந்த சினிமா போஸ்ட்டரை ஏன் இவ்ளோ நேரமா உத்து பார்த்துகிட்டு இருக்க?
பிச்சைக்காரன்: ஒன்னும் இல்லை, ரெண்டு வருசத்துக்கு முன்னாடி அது நான் தயாரிச்ச படம்.
I regularly meet a group of iyer guys - They have just finished college and are waiting to join some companies...They have told me the following on seeing iyer girls of today
Never approach for iyer girls for any relationships since majority of them want only non brahmin guys..If an iyer guys speaks of tradition then he is branded as AMBI
Dark skinned iyer is a rogue of the 1st order...fair skinned iyers are more genuine am
Never approach for iyer girls for any relationships since majority of them want only non brahmin guys..If an iyer guys speaks of tradition then he is branded as AMBI
Dark skinned iyer is a rogue of the 1st order...fair skinned iyers are more genuine am
I regularly meet a group of iyer guys - They have just finished college and are waiting to join some companies...They have told me the following on seeing iyer girls of today
Never approach for iyer girls for any relationships since majority of them want only non brahmin guys..If an iyer guys speaks of tradition then he is branded as AMBI
Dark skinned iyer is a rogue of the 1st order...fair skinned iyers are more genuine am
what a generalization!! exciting one at that..but like all generalizations, probably flawed. none of my nieces in chennai would say such things.. all of them married their classmates - some of them nerds, but all iyers.
renuka
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I regularly meet a group of iyer guys - They have just finished college and are waiting to join some companies...They have told me the following on seeing iyer girls of today
Never approach for iyer girls for any relationships since majority of them want only non brahmin guys..If an iyer guys speaks of tradition then he is branded as AMBI
Dark skinned iyer is a rogue of the 1st order...fair skinned iyers are more genuine am
This is so funny Ok..you know there is something called Falling In Love.I guess B girls do fall in love with NB or B guys too.
Dont tell me B guys dont fall in love with NB girls.
Come to Malaysia and see B guys marry even Malays and Chinese!!
I have noticed in forum many times its sort of implied that NB guys are Remo and B guys are Ambi.
Hey guys when I was in India I noticed Remo types among B guys and Ambi types even among NB guys.
There are equal numbers of Ambis and Remos among both B and NB guys but I never saw Anniyan yet!!LOL
As far as i know many brahmin guys want to marry only B girls
MAy be the fair skinned ..konjam rich IT guys would have done that...
The generalizations still continue...Do u remember the small girl who acted as murugan in the serial velan and she would also come in the chandramukhi and esp in the song ATITHOM ...she came and tv and said " My amma has told me not to talk these guys ABCD because they are bad... Ada paavigala....at the age of 5 she has been taught by her mother...EKSI
Tall and Indian Color Brahmin guys are the worst:
There was a pious brahmin in our quarters: We had a dog in our house and some one had called his daughter and gave a blank call and one time they heard a dog dark and he thought it was me. He came and asked us and thankfully on that day i was in trichy...My parents took that mama to task ..he was challenged to complain and also get the records from BSNL and if it was proved that it was my house number then my father said he will take me to task... We checked and it was wrong..it was some other number.... poor mama he was blasted in full public view... His daughter studied in aptech and i never seen her talking to girls and even for films she would go with males. When she would be at home appadiya Seeta vesham dan....Veetala SETHU ABHITA....
MAy be the fair skinned ..konjam rich IT guys would have done that...
The generalizations still continue...Do u remember the small girl who acted as murugan in the serial velan and she would also come in the chandramukhi and esp in the song ATITHOM ...she came and tv and said " My amma has told me not to talk these guys ABCD because they are bad... Ada paavigala....at the age of 5 she has been taught by her mother...EKSI
Tall and Indian Color Brahmin guys are the worst:
There was a pious brahmin in our quarters: We had a dog in our house and some one had called his daughter and gave a blank call and one time they heard a dog dark and he thought it was me. He came and asked us and thankfully on that day i was in trichy...My parents took that mama to task ..he was challenged to complain and also get the records from BSNL and if it was proved that it was my house number then my father said he will take me to task... We checked and it was wrong..it was some other number.... poor mama he was blasted in full public view... His daughter studied in aptech and i never seen her talking to girls and even for films she would go with males. When she would be at home appadiya Seeta vesham dan....Veetala SETHU ABHITA....
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At the risk of even getting excoriated by some (many), may I say that none of us, nay, no parent in general, can measure or even sense what is passing through their daughters' minds! This is more so when it comes to matters regarding love. And my general impression has been that parents, at least in the average middle and upper middle class tabra homes, do not have that much of a closeness with their daughters as to elicit their mind in this matter (of their love).
But what is there as an open and indisputable fact is that loving, marrying, even eloping - if need be - with non-brahmin boys is more observed in the case of our girls than tabra boys selecting NB girls. This may not be a universal truth but my observation from the maximum area of my acquaintance.
I however, personally feel (though I am an old tabra man virtually at the 'exit gate' - and not a youth who can authoritatively reflect the thoughts and sentiments of the youth today) is that whereas we tabras have willy nilly allowed (or is it conscious and deliberate?) our young girls, all kinds of freedom - education, professional courses, modern dress and make-ups, two wheelers, freedom to be away from home till reasonably late in the night (provided some reason is given for that) and even if we find a known young girl together with her male friends (or guys looking like her friends), we now do not question nor inform the parents. நமக்கேன் வீண் வம்பு? attitude because the girl's parents are sure to first pounce upon us and justify their daughter's innocence.
Due to many such reasons, our tabra girls get more chance to mingle with dashing young NB boys whereas tabra boys are, for some inexplicable reasons, either too docile "ambis" or too out-of-the ordinary rowdy looking characters which will put off any girl, imho. Hence, the elders of the community have to deeply consider how best they can improve the bringing up of their sons. May be some specialist's advice is needed. (I am aware many tabra parents consider their son/s as most perfect, dashing, a darling of the girl classmates and so on, and may object to this, but what is material is how those girls rate them as husband material.)
But what is there as an open and indisputable fact is that loving, marrying, even eloping - if need be - with non-brahmin boys is more observed in the case of our girls than tabra boys selecting NB girls. This may not be a universal truth but my observation from the maximum area of my acquaintance.
I however, personally feel (though I am an old tabra man virtually at the 'exit gate' - and not a youth who can authoritatively reflect the thoughts and sentiments of the youth today) is that whereas we tabras have willy nilly allowed (or is it conscious and deliberate?) our young girls, all kinds of freedom - education, professional courses, modern dress and make-ups, two wheelers, freedom to be away from home till reasonably late in the night (provided some reason is given for that) and even if we find a known young girl together with her male friends (or guys looking like her friends), we now do not question nor inform the parents. நமக்கேன் வீண் வம்பு? attitude because the girl's parents are sure to first pounce upon us and justify their daughter's innocence.
Due to many such reasons, our tabra girls get more chance to mingle with dashing young NB boys whereas tabra boys are, for some inexplicable reasons, either too docile "ambis" or too out-of-the ordinary rowdy looking characters which will put off any girl, imho. Hence, the elders of the community have to deeply consider how best they can improve the bringing up of their sons. May be some specialist's advice is needed. (I am aware many tabra parents consider their son/s as most perfect, dashing, a darling of the girl classmates and so on, and may object to this, but what is material is how those girls rate them as husband material.)
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Dear Shri Sangom
The reply I am going to give is not really targeted just to you, it is targeted at all the others out here who think that the reason a B girl loves and marries a NB boy is just because he is 'dashing' in looks or because he is really really rich!!!
As far as I have seen (I have seen many love marriages across B and NB and also between NB and NB) the NB boys who the B girls married are neither richer than the girl's family nor they are so.... handsome looking! Infact, there have been so many many people asking what made these B girls marry such a NORMAL person.
1. This is one very very rich girl financially and both socially. Her father is in a top position in Air Force. She married a ST boy who is very dark skinned, not at all good looking (according to what we would normally say), had premature gray hair but studied very hard and got a good degree and a decent job! She was also a very well educated girl and working! In her Uni days and working days she would have very well seen many many B boys who studied hard, got a good degree and a decent job!
So, why did she insist on marrying that ST boy?
I don't think that this a million dollar question and I have already said the reason in this forum in one of my first few naive posts!
2. My Periappa's daughter married a NB (one of the FC NB). The guy is very average looking and not at all what one would say 'Handsome' and his family is very average compared to her family! He was supposed to marry his elder sister's daughter! There was much angst with his elder sister and her husband and that man even commented this to her 'அவன் என்ன பெரிய மன்மதக் ***** இன்னு நீ அவன கல்யாணம் பண்ணிண்ட?'
Ok, so these are the examples and reasons I have seen in my little life. If people tell that B girls marry NB boys based on the money and handsomeness, sorry guys, I have not seen such examples.
Kind regards
P.S. Dear Shri Sangom, you just mentioned that B girls get more chance to mingle with dashing NB boys, but I think relating to the context of the post, it also means that 'they get more chance to mingle with dashing NB boys, fall in love with them and elope with them'. If you did not mean that - I am sorry. But I think my post is relevant in addressing the point why B girls love NB boys. Thanks Sir.
The reply I am going to give is not really targeted just to you, it is targeted at all the others out here who think that the reason a B girl loves and marries a NB boy is just because he is 'dashing' in looks or because he is really really rich!!!
As far as I have seen (I have seen many love marriages across B and NB and also between NB and NB) the NB boys who the B girls married are neither richer than the girl's family nor they are so.... handsome looking! Infact, there have been so many many people asking what made these B girls marry such a NORMAL person.
1. This is one very very rich girl financially and both socially. Her father is in a top position in Air Force. She married a ST boy who is very dark skinned, not at all good looking (according to what we would normally say), had premature gray hair but studied very hard and got a good degree and a decent job! She was also a very well educated girl and working! In her Uni days and working days she would have very well seen many many B boys who studied hard, got a good degree and a decent job!
So, why did she insist on marrying that ST boy?
I don't think that this a million dollar question and I have already said the reason in this forum in one of my first few naive posts!
2. My Periappa's daughter married a NB (one of the FC NB). The guy is very average looking and not at all what one would say 'Handsome' and his family is very average compared to her family! He was supposed to marry his elder sister's daughter! There was much angst with his elder sister and her husband and that man even commented this to her 'அவன் என்ன பெரிய மன்மதக் ***** இன்னு நீ அவன கல்யாணம் பண்ணிண்ட?'
Ok, so these are the examples and reasons I have seen in my little life. If people tell that B girls marry NB boys based on the money and handsomeness, sorry guys, I have not seen such examples.
Kind regards
P.S. Dear Shri Sangom, you just mentioned that B girls get more chance to mingle with dashing NB boys, but I think relating to the context of the post, it also means that 'they get more chance to mingle with dashing NB boys, fall in love with them and elope with them'. If you did not mean that - I am sorry. But I think my post is relevant in addressing the point why B girls love NB boys. Thanks Sir.
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Whether the girls mentioned by you are fair looking?
Whethey they are having cordial and paceful family background before their marriage?
Whether you enquired them what is the reason in marrying them?
Dear Sir
1. Yes, the girls are very very fair looking and looked like angels when they married. (Sorry, I can't give you the photo proof though I have them!)
2. Both had a good family background, but then, who decides whether it is cordial and peaceful? Ok, if you think, aboout
a. drunken daddy - NO
b. spenthrift daddy or mummy - NO
c. Normal every other family - ofcourse YES and it was very very true in the first case who married the ST
3. Reason for marrying them - MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION sir, and you want to know it as easily!!!
1. Yes, the girls are very very fair looking and looked like angels when they married. (Sorry, I can't give you the photo proof though I have them!)
2. Both had a good family background, but then, who decides whether it is cordial and peaceful? Ok, if you think, aboout
a. drunken daddy - NO
b. spenthrift daddy or mummy - NO
c. Normal every other family - ofcourse YES and it was very very true in the first case who married the ST
3. Reason for marrying them - MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION sir, and you want to know it as easily!!!
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For rent [Property for Rent] 2 bhk for rent2 bhk rent in Thiruvanmiyur chennai- tbs (+0 /0 /-0)
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Wanted Wanted female Brahmin cook and caretaker in CoimbatoreNeed a female Brahmin cook and caretaker in Kovaipudur, Coimbatore
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Wanted [Want to Buy] Property close to Perumal TemplePlanning to create a nandavanam for pushpa kainkaryam of Perumal.
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