Dear Dr. Renuka Ji,Dear Sir,
It might seem that it is finally about a point of focus.
Whether its " Who am I" or " Who is God" or " What lies beyond", "How would heaven be like".."How is it be with God...all make the mind focus on just one point.
From that the whole process of knowing starts in any school of thought or religion itself.
Coming to " controling the mind"..usually its not really a " control" but rather allowing the mind to be in a conducive balancing norm may be by sadhana/ prayers/ meditation or seeking jnaana.
Over time the mind adopts the new norm of having less waves to identify with and eventually one is able to be in the eternal NOW.
Then one takes one step back and develops Sakshi Bhava ( the ability to be a witness).
One may see thoughts traverse the mind but one does not become that thoughts.
The mind then becomes like any other organ which runs in the background..for eg we dont try to control our kidneys..we simply let it function in.a parasympathetic format.
So here we let the mind do its actual function of Viveka without our ahamkara hijacking it.
The " Who am I " question may not really have an answer if its going to go through our intellect ..even an answer like Aham Brahmaasmi could just be recycling familiar concepts.
So may be the question of Who am I is just to kick start the whole process of " Be and it is"
It need not have an answer and may be the need for the question was just part of the plan and not actually as important and may be "That "itself wont really " exist" as being able to " experience" it or " perceive" it...cos it would go back to plurality of having " That"..the one who experiences the "That" and the process of experiencing the " That".
I think I understand what you are saying. Looks like you are well read and thought out the mechanisms.
Right now, what I am doing is aiding me. I like very simple, easy to follow methods, tailored just for my mental make up.
Thank you for your thoughtful response.