Anthyesti anthim karyams

[venkataramanramadass]

Thanks Gopalan sir

 

[gokimca]

Can anybody help me in getting aapasthamba apara prayoga mantras for Tamil Iyer to download? My Sastrikals do different types and claiming they are correct. Our old vaadhyar passed away. Please help in downloading.

 

[anaikuppamkumar]

My paternal grandfather's brother's son's wife ( onnu vitta chitappa's wife) passed away but I got the news only 4 days after her demise. The tenth day is not yet over. Should I do Dayadhi Tharpanam? What is the procedure for Rig Vedakaris?
anaikuppamkumar

 

[Maha2016]

would annadhanam be performed on 27th day masikam or next sodhakumbam?

 

[ushads]

Can first year shraddam of mother be performed in Gaya.

 

[kgopalan]

first year sraaddam should not be done at Gaya.

 

[Ansuya]

Anthyesti anthim karyams

My father-in-laws younger brother passed away. Due to family misunderstanding there was no contact with him. He had not married and hence no children. Since he was not in good terms with his brothers family, he has written all property and asked someone else to do the last rites. we have no knowledge about this person.We were informed of it only after two days by another distance relative, after completing all the initial rites. Since he was my father-in-laws own brother , we are following the 10 days theetu. Please let us know whether we can celebrate and go to temples as usual as we do not know the expired chitappa.

 

[kgopalan]

you should not celebrate and go to temples for one year.

 

[srinibala]

Namaskaram Gopalan Maama,

I have a quick question. My Kollu thatha and my cousin's Kollu thata were brothers. My cousin and me are 4th generation relatives. His mother passed away yesterday in chennai. I am in the US. Should I perform kuzhi tharpanam on the 10th day? Please advise.

Thanks,

Srini

 

[kgopalan]

you can do kuzhi tharpanam at U. S. itself. Kindly contact www.vadhyar.com. they will help you. they are in north america. through skype you can do tharpanam.

 

[krishmanoj]

Namaste...
Who all can be invited for lunch on the 10th day?

 

[kgopalan]

you can invite only on 13th day. nobody on tenth day.

 

[ravcun]

Thank you so much. Awesome posts and immensely helpful.

 

[Raji Ram]

you can invite only on 13th day. nobody on tenth day.

Respected Gopalan Sir,

All the close family members who participate in the 10th day ceremony will take lunch.

Cards with black ink at the corner will be posted or e-mailed to them, as an intimation and NOT as an invitation.

 

[triyav]

My husband's father passed away yesterday in India. We live in the US, and he and his sister have already left for India. My husband is the kartha. Unfortunately, I am unable to travel now due to our young son being sick. Is it possible for him to complete the 13 days of rituals without me being present?

 

[triyav]

My husband's father passed away in India yesterday. We live in the US. He and his sister have already left for India. My husband is the kartha. Unfortunately, I cannot travel because our young son is sick. Can he perform the 13 day rituals without my presence? We appreciate any guidance. We follow Yajur Veda.

 

[kgopalan]

your husband can perform all the 13 day rituals. without your presence.

 

[tbs]

hi gopalan sir.

i did my mother's 10th to 13 days without my wife.....i live in USA...i went to rameshwaram and did all karyams...im the kartha too..

i have question abt oonamasukam/soda kumbam?....i can't do it in USA....CAN i do it with varshabhidhiham?...please guide me

 

[tbs]

first year sraaddam should not be done at Gaya.

hi gopakan sir?

is first year shradham can be done in kasi?

 

[tks]

hi gopalan sir.

i did my mother's 10th to 13 days without my wife.....i live in USA...i went to rameshwaram and did all karyams...im the kartha too..

i have question abt oonamasukam/soda kumbam?....i can't do it in USA....CAN i do it with varshabhidhiham?...please guide me

Sri tbs,

Why is it that you are unable to do oonamasikam and Soda Kumbam etc. in USA?
In most cities in USA there are very well educated Sastrigals available. We have two and they were educated in Veda Patashalas. I assume you can find good Vaddhyars in most places.

It is best to do this with Shraddha if at all possible. It will be expensive for sastrigal to come and do the event.

For both by parents, I ended up doing all events including Varshabdhikam (for 4 days) in USA and had two Vaddhyars at least.

One practice prevalent in USA is that most Sastrigal do not mind playing the roles of Vishvadeva and Pirtus (and have a full meal). It is possible to do all these with full fire ritual and with understanding in USA.

It all depends on where you live and how easy it is to find a Sastrigal to come to your home