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A thought on Respect and Civility

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zebra16

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Post # 50 in this thread was posted on 19.08.2015.

After nearly a year, on 03.08.2016, this thread was resurrected from the ashes vide post # 51. I cannot find any continuity or common purpose between the posts upto # 50 and posts # 51, 52, 53 etc. For that matter, all posts in the new era of 2016 can only be very tangentially connected to the main purport of the thread.

What am I missing ?
 

Raji Ram

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Sticky threads live for ever, Narayan Sir! :)
Just relax and if possible, enjoy reading the posts! :ranger:
 

raysundar

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Post # 50 in this thread was posted on 19.08.2015.

After nearly a year, on 03.08.2016, this thread was resurrected from the ashes vide post # 51. I cannot find any continuity or common purpose between the posts upto # 50 and posts # 51, 52, 53 etc. For that matter, all posts in the new era of 2016 can only be very tangentially connected to the main purport of the thread.

What am I missing ?
Thank you for pointing that out Zebra16. I am the culprit, a new comer to the TB forum a that time. I was reading another thread about qualified Tamil Brahmin and I had mistakenly typed my answer to that forum over on this thread. I apologize for apparently derailing this forum. I could not figure out how to retract what I had typed in at that time. I can try and delete it now if possible.
Please ignore that and continue with stimulating discussions on respect and civility.
 
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prasad1

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Please ignore that and continue with stimulating discussions on respect and civility.
raysunderji, there is no need to apologize.

Any thread that is open is always available for posting. Instead of opening a new thread on a similar topic, it is better to revive an old thread.
 
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V.Balasubramani

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I had mistakenly typed my answer to that forum over on this thread. I apologize for apparently derailing this forum. .

Raysunder Ji,

It is very nice of you for having come here to admit your mistake of posting your text in a wrong thread. It shows that you have absolutely no intention of derailing this thread

Unlike other threads, this one is started by the owner of the Forum himself to emphasis members about maintaining self-respect, discipline, ethics etc.


 
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tks

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Why revive the message of this thread at this time?

In my view, it is good to be reminded periodically the first line of the first post of this thread


The primary aim of this forum is to provide a platform wherein one can have a talk (debate) on various topics under the sun in a civil manner whereby one respects the views of others - however and whatever it might be.
I understand the above to mean that there is a common sense expectation of certain decorum in our posts here.
Such a self discipline and self respect by each of us enables us to have all kinds of discussions under the sun which is a privilege.

In my understanding, It does ask NOT anyone to change their mind or even change their pride and prejudices. But it does mean that certain behavior is expected regardless of the worldview one may choose to hold.

I do not know if there is a proper response when a poster is repeatedly not living to the norms of the expectations. Let me share my approach to this problem.

In a professional setting or work place setting, I have learned to respond with sufficient force to stop repeated offenders from being effective. One needs that kind of skill to survive and thrive in certain environments where satvic response is viewed as a weakness allowing the gamesmanship to continue.

However, in this forum we are all guests here. I have come to believe that the best way to deal with offenders here is to ignore them genuinely. My regard for such people's posts and views goes down and I have no further interest in what they have to say anymore.

It is easy then to skip their posts and not even read them or feel the need to respond. Now I do not harbor any ill feelings towards anyone because their posts need not affect my disposition. If the offending poster begins to have respectful engagement then it is easy to re-engage.

Pretending to ignore a repeat offender's posts is a game which they may thrive in. It is a change of mind that is needed first. Then it is easy to ignore and engage with other posts that are more interesting.

Now there is no correct response to uncivil and disrespectful posts. I shared my approach because it leads to least expenditure of energy. There is a ignore option available in our profile that can help hide certain member's posts. This way we need not react to a person's post.
 

Raji Ram

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........ There is a ignore option available in our profile that can help hide certain member's posts. This way we need not react to a person's post.
Dear TKS Sir,

Even if the posts are NOT hidden, we can still ignore some posts without responding! :cool:
 

renuka

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Doctor Mam,

I would like to bring to your kind notice posting No.4 of this very same thread dated: 12.01.2015:




I am not in any mood to give up.

I would like to prove that I am slightly different from others who have become inactive in this Forum, unable to face the gang and its ferocious consistent attacks.

Cheers. :)

Dear Sir,


Good that you have fighting spirit but sometimes its futile to be a rebel without a pause.

The constant contemplation on the squad or brigade makes you deify them in your mind.

Without you realizing they have taken over your mind..they have invaded your personal space...there is no where to run..you only keep running to them and to their each and every post.

They have made you addicted to them...you need them..you can't survive without them..your very existence in forum revolves around them.

Haven't you realized they have spun a web around you?

For them its not addiction to you but they keep collecting prey as they grow in size.

Sir...Yad Bhavam Tad Bhavati...I am afraid you have succumbed to the squad.
 
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auh

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There is no "they" and "we"... people who adopt this attitude are only seeing ghosts in the dark.
 

GANESH65

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Without you realizing they have taken over your mind..they have invaded your personal space...there is no where to run..you only keep running to them and to their each and every post.

They have made you addicted to them...you need them..you can't survive without them..your very existence in forum is enshrouded by them.
Very true. Some years back, I also prey victim of this! I had to part with some one for no fault of mine, but I used to get a feeling of the presence of this person very often around me and it was very difficult to behave normal for few days immediately after the incidence. It took almost six month to get back to usual routines.
 

renuka

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Very true. Some years back, I also prey victim of this! I had to part with some one for no fault of mine, but I used to get a feeling of the presence of this person very often around me and it was very difficult to behave normal for few days immediately after the incidence. It took almost six month to get back to usual routines.
True...its mostly reverse psychology being played in a very devious manner...the best part is the perfect skill that it leaves no evidence to even point of finger to the other person.

All reactions are seen only in the victim and at any time the other person can claim that the victim imagined it.
 

krish44

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Sometimes some imagine that others are out to get them.They are in fact paranoid and feel others are ganging up to do them in.

This in many cases is because of many past incidents not necessarily related to post in this forum.

For such people it is best they take rest , divert their mind to other things and return with renewed vigour.
 

Raji Ram

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Very true. Some years back, I also prey victim of this! I had to part with some one for no fault of mine, but I used to get a feeling of the presence of this person very often around me and it was very difficult to behave normal for few days immediately after the incidence. It took almost six month to get back to usual routines.
Dear Sir,

Like the movie 3?? Just kidding. :)

Ignoring is the best way out, imho!

Kamsa was thinking more of Krishna than Krishna's real bhakthAs!

Hope you get the point!
 
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V.Balasubramani

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But Krishna never spared Kamsa...................
:)

I think the members of the Forum know pretty well how Kamsa, the demon was killed by Krishna.

Krishna who came to the wrestling ring, jumped into it , seized Kamsa, knocked off his crown first and dragged him to the wrestling mat by his hair and easily killed Kamsa.
:Cry:

This is the fate of wicked mind people.
:sad:
And members know who are the wicked minds of this Forum too.
:laugh:

And the Almighty will not spare anybody even if it is Kamsa...... LOL


 
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renuka

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Arey yaar...what is all this Mahabharat going on?

I don't think there are any wicked minds here in forum..its just that we have different minds.


So there is no need to even think that the Almighty will not spare anyone...how are we so sure would be spared by the Almighty?

None of us are perfect...lets learn to fight effectively.

We are actually quite a weird lot...naah...not wicked at all!
 

renuka

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Pyar bant the chalo.

Na hindu no musalman.

Sab hain bhai bhai.
All these Bhai Bhai has become Bye Bye!

Who cares for Pyaar these days...

All they sing is :

Marjaani marjaani!
Marjaani marjaani!
Marjaani marjaani!
Oye kashmanu khaye marjaani


Translation: Go to hell, go to hell (The hell with them)

Go to hell, go to hell (The hell with them)
Go to hell, go to hell (The hell with them)
They can go to hell (2x)



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V.Balasubramani

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Arey yaar...what is all this Mahabharat going on?

I don't think there are any wicked minds here in forum..its just that we have different minds.


So there is no need to even think that the Almighty will not spare anyone...how are we so sure would be spared by the Almighty?

None of us are perfect...lets learn to fight effectively.

We are actually quite a weird lot...naah...not wicked at all!
Wicked is something morally wrong.

Do you mean to say that everyone is morally right.

There are wicked. When you say that no one is perfect then that establishes the existence of wicked minds.

It is the other member who brought the Kamsa and Krisha case..

She may be suitably instructed to fight effectively
 

renuka

Well-known member
Wicked is something morally wrong.

Do you mean to say that everyone is morally right.

There are wicked. When you say that no one is perfect then that establishes the existence of wicked minds.

It is the other member who brought the Kamsa and Krisha case..

She may be suitably instructed to fight effectively
Dear Sir,

I can safely say we members are pretty nice guys and gals..none of us are morally so corrupt..none of us have evil intent on causing harm to others.

Also who am I to judge another when I might not be perfect myself.

I am a fairly nice person myself..so I prefer to see the good in others most of the time.

You have to see the context in which that member wrote about Kamsa and Krishna...one member was saying how that it took him a few months to get back to normal routine becos of an unpleasant encounter.

So another only advised him to ignore that person who caused him stress cos there is no use contemplating on a person who is causing us harm.

But in case of Kamsa at least even though he hated Krishna he had the Bhagyam of contemplating on Krishna more than even His Bhaktas..hence Kamsa attained liberation by confrontation.

But in the case of Forum..none of us are Krishna or any saint ..so no use contemplating on anyone cos there would be no liberation...all of us might just land up in the same plane to hell!LOL
 
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Raji Ram

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Dear Renu,
The subtle meaning of a post under a particular context, needs a bit more IQ to understand! :decision:
I am ignoring meaningless arguments! :couch2:
 
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