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[Raji Ram]

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Seniors who are in the upper middle class or affluent category are happy in Senior Resorts. :dance:

Please watch the video in this link: Why India's elderly are moving to retirement homes - BBC News

 

[Rudhran]

As it is we have umpteen number of laws protecting the Senior citizens in India

It may be a curse for few and a grace for some.....and this depends on the individual and their mindset

This issue of parents neglected by their own children or parents thrown out of their property, failed to take care of by their children is governed by enactment of various laws both by the Central Government and by the respective State Governments.

In Tamil Nadu one can frequently come across news about poor aged parents approaching the local police and the police initiating legal action against their children.

This also happens and there is nothing wrong in seeking relief through court and there is also provision to extend such service freely.

Just read:
Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maintenance_and_Welfare_of_Parents_and_Senior_Citizens_Act,_2007

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A few senior citizens turn to law to ensure they are not neglected

BENGALURU: Laws may have made provisions to guard against neglect of the elderly, but in practice few senior citizens are aware of or are willing to enforce these laws against children who desert them. This was the focus of a regional conference on age care issues, organised in Bengaluru on Thursday.

The legal issues that the elderly face as well as lack of access to healthcare and absence of government schemes for them were among the many topics discussed at the seminar organized by Nightingales Medical Trust and National Institute of Social Defence (NISD). More than 60 participants from Karnataka, Kerala, Puducherry, Lakshadweep and Andhra Pradesh attended it.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/...ey-are-not-neglected/articleshow/54968495.cms

 

[tbs]

hi krish sir,

is the same PONDICHERY PROJECT OF SERNITY GROUP?.....as mentioned in the article...

 

[Raji Ram]

... is the same PONDICHERY PROJECT OF SERNITY GROUP?.....as mentioned in the article...

Or is it the one near the burning ghat, mentioned by J J ji!! :fear:

 

[DPANI8]

Sir, Please share the address and phone number. I wish to get one for my and my wife.

 

[DPANI8]

Sir, Please share the address, Phone Number and other details to me as I need for me and my wife.

 

[Raji Ram]

There are many horror stories about abuse of elderly persons but this on is THE worst!

Last year, in the southern city of Hyderabad, the well-off family of a 75-year-old cancer patient decided to burn her alive

at a crematorium because they did not want to pay for further treatment. She was saved when the crematorium staff

noticed her stir and called police.

The same page also says:

Elderly parents being abused and abandoned is not just an urban phenomenon. In rural India, the family system

is eroding, with the younger generation increasingly heading off to cities with their spouses and their children to

start a new life – without their parents or grandparents.

Source: Why India's youth are abandoning their elderly parents

 

[Rudhran]

This news was published in today’s TOI.

There may be lot of such sad incidents happening around.

One cannot blame the young generation alone for all this, IMHO parents are also equally/partly responsible as it concerns with parenting.

Parents cannot abandon their responsibility. There are spoiled Brat also............

தீதும் நன்றும் பிறர்தர வாரா........

No action against doctor who tried to kill her father

CHENNAI: Nearly eight months after the Chennai police chargesheeted a doctor for trying to kill her 82-year-old father a heart patient on medical support in an ICU of a city hospital by pulling the plug after getting his thumb impression on a set of papers, the doctor continues to practice medicine because officials of the Tamil Nadu Medical Council have not issued orders debarring her from practice.

On Friday, a group of elected members said the disciplinary committee constituted by the Tamil Nadu Medical Council recommended that Coimbatore-based Dr Jayasudha Manoharan be debarred, but the order is pending as the general council hasn't been able to meet. "There is a court case pending on who should be the president of the council. We are 10 members in the council and at least seven members to approve any business. That has never happened," said former president K Prakasam, who is a member of the general council. In February 2016, Dr Jayaprakash lodged a complaint alleging Dr Jayasudha tried to kill his father Dr E Rajagopal

He also submitted CCTV footage that shows Dr Jayasudha visiting her father in her brother Dr R Jayaprakash's Aditya Hospital in Kilpauk, Chennai, removing the line delivering life-saving medicines through a vein in the neck.

Click here to read more:

 

[mkrishna100]

It might be wiser to take it on rent for a year before buyout.

No sense in locking money in property purchase in this economic environment

It is better to buy one as the children in due course will also become senior citizens and this house can be handy for them LOL .

 

[krish44]

It is better to buy one as the children in due course will also become senior citizens and this house can be handy for them LOL .

This kind of plans are made in indias planning commission who plan for 2050 more than thirty years in advance.we will forward your suggestion to them

 

[Janaki Jambunathan]

Or is it the one near the burning ghat, mentioned by J J ji!! :fear:

Now a retirement home in Paravai near Madurai is coming up on an burial ground encroached - can have skeleton in the cupboard for companion!

 

[Rudhran]

[h=1]Though there are lot of reasons attributed for Senior citizens to decide in favour of moving in to Senior Citizen Homes, some are averse with neighbourhood becoming crowded and noisy….[/h][h=1] Buy a retirement home five years in advance[/h]
These homes offer services that help lead a smooth retired life. They can be bought, leased or taken on a pure rental basis.

Dr Sharad Apte, in his early 80s and a Mumbai resident, decided to shift to Pune a few months ago. Apte, along with his wife, moved to a project specifically designed for senior citizens.

Better security and medical facilities, a less polluted environment and the opportunity to live with people of their own age group were the chief reasons for the relocation.

"Our old neighbourhood had become crowded and noisy, and there was an increasing sense of loneliness, as many of the neighbours we had grown up with had moved out. With our children settled in the US, we were also worried about who would take care of us during a medical emergency," says Apte.

Read more at: http://www.rediff.com/money/report/...ement-home-five-years-in-advance/20150706.htm

 

[krish44]

Tata housing ,brigade,paranjape have bangalore presence.

Paranjape retirement home in bangalore in whitefield attracts marathis more.

Tata housing is cosmopolitan.

Brigade is primarily a bangalore builder . All cater to different clientele.

Tamils would be better off with serenity or covaicare who have many tamil residents and their food menu caters to them

 

[Rudhran]

[h=1]For Govt. Servants of Assam, now it becomes mandatory to take of their parents, otherwise the Government will deduct a part of their salary and pass it on to the neglected parents. How is this…?[/h][h=1]If Failing To Take Care Of Parents, Prepare For A Salary Cut: Assam Govt To Govt Staff[/h]Assam Budget 2017

A new law is set to be introduced in Assam that would make it mandatory for government employees to take care of their parents. If anyone is found not taking care of their parents, a part of their income will be deducted and used for the welfare of the parents.

The Finance Minister of Assam, Himanta Biswa Sarma, while presenting his first full Budget in the Assembly, announced that the government has decided to link geriatric (relating to elderly) care to their employees’ pay from the 2017-18 fiscal. If an employee does not take care of their parents, then the government will deduct a part of their salary and give it to the neglected parents for their sustenance.

“Employees working in the government, state PSUs and companies will be expected to take care of their elderly parents in a desirable manner. In case of non-compliance, the proposed legislation would mandate that a certain portion of the salary of such employees would be deducted to be given to their respective parents,” Sarma said.

To read mre click here

 

[dhikshita]

ருத்திரன் ஜி,

முதியவர் இல்லத்தில் சேர்ந்து விடுவது என்று நினைத்து விட்டால் அவர் 100%
மனைவியை இழந்தவராக இருக்க வேண்டும் என்பது எனது அபிப்பிராயம்.
இரண்டாவதாக நான் நினைத்துப் பார்க்கிறது எனது தந்தை/தாய்மை அன்புடன் மதிக்க தெரியாதவனுக்கு இருந்து இருக்கலாம் அல்லது ஒருவனுடைய விதி யாகவும் இருக்கலாம்
இன்னும் பிற ஆணித்தரமான காரணங்களும் மனதில் தோன்றுகின்றன .

 

[tbs]

ருத்திரன் ஜி,

முதியவர் இல்லத்தில் சேர்ந்து விடுவது என்று நினைத்து விட்டால் அவர் 100%
மனைவியை இழந்தவராக இருக்க வேண்டும் என்பது எனது அபிப்பிராயம்.
இரண்டாவதாக நான் நினைத்துப் பார்க்கிறது எனது தந்தை/தாய்மை அன்புடன் மதிக்க தெரியாதவனுக்கு இருந்து இருக்கலாம் அல்லது ஒருவனுடைய விதி யாகவும் இருக்கலாம்
இன்னும் பிற ஆணித்தரமான காரணங்களும் மனதில் தோன்றுகின்றன .

hi

பல சூழ்நிலைகள் இருக்கின்றன....சில நேரங்களில் மருமகள் பிரச்சினை .....அல்லது ஒரே மகன்

வெளிநாட்டில் வாழ்கிற பிரசினை....அல்லது individual needs more freedom too....

நான் ஒரு உபந்நியாசத்தில் கேட்டேன்.....மகனுக்கும்/மகளுக்கும் கொடுப்பினை வேண்டும்.....தாய் / தந்தைர்களும்

பாக்கியம் செய்துருக்க வேண்டும்...இதில் இரண்டு பேருக்கும் பாக்கியம் இருந்தால் தான்

பெற்றோராகுலும் மகனும் /மகளும் சேர்ந்து வாழ வாய்ப்பு உண்டு....

 

[krish44]

Tbs Garu
My upvote for the above post.

It is indeed an all india phenomenon now that parents are less likely to live with their children in changed modern circumstances where all want individual freedom.

More than distance limitation it is the mindset which has got changed.

We look at daughter in law , son in law as people we have to tolerate and suffer their company.

They in turn see parents in law as burdens.

Very few look at positive side of life.

All are excellent resources ..... Even if they have no fine feelings for each other , still they can be more tolerant of each other.

At instead of trusting strangers for baby sitting and other duties , they might as well depend on inlaws.

Grand children many times get abused by strangers.

They are the victims of modern marriages.

And this my parents and your parents fights among young couples.

Both young couples and parents need to be more wise.

 

[tbs]

Tbs Garu
My upvote for the above post.

It is indeed an all india phenomenon now that parents are less likely to live with their children in changed modern circumstances where all want individual freedom.

More than distance limitation it is the mindset which has got changed.

We look at daughter in law , son in law as people we have to tolerate and suffer their company.

They in turn see parents in law as burdens.

Very few look at positive side of life.

All are excellent resources ..... Even if they have no fine feelings for each other , still they can be more tolerant of each other.

At instead of trusting strangers for baby sitting and other duties , they might as well depend on inlaws.

Grand children many times get abused by strangers.

They are the victims of modern marriages.

And this my parents and your parents fights among young couples.

Both young couples and parents need to be more wise.

hi

thanks...

 

[Rudhran]

ருத்திரன் ஜி,

முதியவர் இல்லத்தில் சேர்ந்து விடுவது என்று நினைத்து விட்டால் அவர் 100%
மனைவியை இழந்தவராக இருக்க வேண்டும் என்பது எனது அபிப்பிராயம்.
இரண்டாவதாக நான் நினைத்துப் பார்க்கிறது எனது தந்தை/தாய்மை அன்புடன் மதிக்க தெரியாதவனுக்கு இருந்து இருக்கலாம் அல்லது ஒருவனுடைய விதி யாகவும் இருக்கலாம்
இன்னும் பிற ஆணித்தரமான காரணங்களும் மனதில் தோன்றுகின்றன .

Dikshita Ji,

It is my two cents

To cite an example I can say that in my place, there were two families, both are Brahmin families and they are all senior citizen.

When age grows energy diminishes and they become prone to age related ailments.
Both families have no children to take care.

They are left with no option except to sell their house properties located in prime location of my town and settled with retirement homes comfortably now.

Going by their narrative of experience, one can conclude that they live now in an happy atmosphere with a team of members taking care of their requirements, need and assisting them to lead a happy life.

There are senior citizens who like to live in a calm surrounding, with habits of pooja, temple prayers, celebrating festivals and carrying on the tradtions..

You visited my ‘House warming ceremony” and may be knowing that some my collegagues who attended the graha pravesam remarked that it is a very nice place to live in after retirement.

And there may be few who long to live in a company of ‘LIKE-MINDED’ people discussing subjects of interest and sharing opinions, experiences, etc

And there may be few with likeness to live in a small compact house that meets their just requirement of space to live in instead of a spacious house with number of rooms, hall, etc which may require lot of work to ensure neat and cleanliness throughout. Se think that maintenance of their house should be quite manageable job and they cannot be looking after a gardener, or a lumber, or an Electrician, etc etc every day. It will be nuisance getting them fix everything to their taste and comfort.

Some may be fed up with the environment of a very bustle of busy working young generation, and the round-the lock screaming sound of playful children and above all some are averse teen agers mischievousness and result of cupid’s influence in their life, etc and not to talk about the nuisance of vendors, beggars, marketing representatives bothering now and then

Some have the mind set of moan and groan…

Trying and managing to live among such group requires a mindset to adjust, compromise on lot of things.

Above all maintaining a cordial relation with all our near and dear also that matters.

 

[Raji Ram]

........ We look at daughter in law , son in law as people we have to tolerate and suffer their company.

They in turn see parents in law as burdens...........

My observation:

Females think their parents in law as burden where as males are NOT allowed to think like that! :nono:

Most of the parents of guys buy their flight tickets to the U S of A because they come to ENJOY the company of grand kid(s)!

The same guy buys the tickets for his parent in laws because they come to HELP to take care of grand kid(s)!

That is the 'modern' logic! :lol:

 

[krish44]

Most males under influence of wife are forced to accept her parents as she feels she can trust only them to look after her kids and not inlaws.

Males succumb and console themselves that these inlaws are after all resources to take care of his kids.

He thinks economics and buys domestic peace by doing what wife wants.lol

 

[dhikshita]

ருத்ரன் அவர்களே,

 

[Raji Ram]

Most males under influence of wife are forced to accept her parents as she feels she can trust only them to look after her kids and not inlaws.

Males succumb and console themselves that these inlaws are after all resources to take care of his kids.

He thinks economics and buys domestic peace by doing what wife wants.lol

:thumb:

This is Women's Empowerment! :whip:

 

[athimber]

While going through the contents this thread, it just clicked to me that since most of here are interested in sort of a retirement home, why can't we try and form a co-operative group and built one for ourselves. Of course it may not be an easy job but not impossible either. I have a little cooperative background and am ready to share my experience for our own welfare. In case there are takers, we may start discussing about it. It will be purely a collective effort.

 

[tbs]

While going through the contents this thread, it just clicked to me that since most of here are interested in sort of a retirement home, why can't we try and form a co-operative group and built one for ourselves. Of course it may not be an easy job but not impossible either. I have a little cooperative background and am ready to share my experience for our own welfare. In case there are takers, we may start discussing about it. It will be purely a collective effort.

hi athimber sir,

i agreed...its good idea...im interested in nice places other than chennai/coimbatore....my most preference is pondichery....

bangalore is ok... but some problems...very costly....most congested....even in nice agraharam type in kaveri karai

near trichy ...its should be gated community will all basic requirements..