Nowadays, especially Brahmin boys are finding it very difficult to find a suitable bride, and most of them ( Repeat most of them ) are not love making type either, they find it very hard.
Even those families who were very strict in horoscope matching before marriage, are gradually changing their mind and not going too deep into horoscope matching.
I am sure the coming generations in about 20 years, especially those who live outside India will not go for this cumbersome procedure of horoscope matching.
PJ,
dont know how old your grand children are. but i am yet to find more than one marriage, here in toronto, which was arranged for any boys or girls here. i mean only tambrams. that includes my children, who long ago, have told their parents, to lay off, and they are capable of finding their own mates.
i can only speak for toronto. all the tambram girls and guys, in the past 10 years, when folks who moved here in the 70s and 80s, their sons and daughters came of marriageable age, all married outside of tambram group. it is not for not knowing tambrams eligibles - there are sufficient number to form atleast pairing but these youngsters have indicated no interest in their counterparts from the same community.
the range is wide - from other south indian brahmin to sikhs, xtian to muslim (1) and whites (who are mostly irreligious). max number i would say is to north indians, mostly punjabis maybe because they are the largest indian non muslim group. surprisingly all the marriages, carried out through their own choices, have been pretty stable and touch wood, no divorces.
the breakups happened in those marriages before 2000, when the first crop married - mostly on parents' insistence - fellow tambrams or indians - and the second marriage was to one of their choice - all whites. tambrams appeared to have this thing against their children marrying whites, but of late that too has gone the way of the naya paisa coin.
in all these cases, the families are orthodox as in tambram orthodox and revert to the old methods and practices the minute they land in india.
the children have done well, most of them high earning professionals. they prefer to choose their own life partners, and parents have accepted it. amazing, how even before the generation is dead, the caste skin is cast off (pun meant here). so it cannot be all that religious would it?
amazingly not one tambram has converted or does that type of thing, which means, that their roots and identity is strong. the only ones who would insist on conversions here would be jews or muslims, and even there, i think, it does not happen all the time. KRS, once married to a jewish lady, might be able to shed some light - re whether this habit differs between orthodox and reformed jews.
if i were in india, probably, judging by what my nieces and nephews have done, it is 100% love marriage, but only within tambram community. the girls are lucky as they had multiple suitors - one particular pretty girl, the future mil president of a large financial organization, literally begged to have this girl as a dil. so tell me, who has the upper hand
but, i am saddened, that as a community, known for its survival skills, we have let away a whole generation of boys, to age without finding them a spouse. ideally, even though i dont like them, the mutts should have stepped in, and instead of preaching, come up with practical ways to find spouses. understanding there are no girls in tambram community, find girls outside..whatever it may take..so sad.
what is the use of mutts, if they cannot come to assistance in times of need, whatever the nature of the need may be?
and even here, in this forum, most of the BB (brahmin bigots) will kick and scream at supposed hatred, but not one of them can coherently think, and help out single folks. i suspect that these BB (bigots) are among the biggest strongholds of the status quo..and they would rather perform a gotterdamerung on the male youth than 'sullify' the bloodline with 'polluted inferior strains' from other castes. so be it.
