Though Brahmins are considered intelectuals, the community in general suffer
from a common malady. The first is dowry, called as Varadakshinai. Of course with the girls become literate the social evil is slowly disappearing.
The other malady with which suffer is that of extravaganza in marriage expenses. The entire load of expenses fall on the brides father. It takes away a life time chunk of his earning. Let us think whether we can reduce this. A progressive community should think of reducing the marriage expenses.
The expenses on Pattu pudavi,(which are hardly used after marriage on any social occasion) could be avoided. Let us think is it so necessary that you spend three days or extravaganza of Janvasam, and reception and book hall for 3 days, especialy when the halls are becoming extremely costly and the shastri, the vadyar charge exorbitantly.
The Vadyars have forgotern their holy role and have become commecialised to the extent of including even catering in their profession.
A normal middle order brahmin family had to shell out not less than 5 lakh for a moderate marriage, the lowest budget for a poor mans family.
The vadyars charge not less than Rs.50,000/-the hall not less than Rs 30000/- per day, the caterers charge minimum of Rs.400/- and for500 persons it will cost notless than Rs.2,00000/-. A substantial chunk of life time earning of the father is just spent on this extravanza. Can,t we not make the marriage simple and use the money effectively.
Let us adopt a simple way of marriage and save the poor father from browing and remain perinialy indebted.
A.R.Sathyanarayanan.
from a common malady. The first is dowry, called as Varadakshinai. Of course with the girls become literate the social evil is slowly disappearing.
The other malady with which suffer is that of extravaganza in marriage expenses. The entire load of expenses fall on the brides father. It takes away a life time chunk of his earning. Let us think whether we can reduce this. A progressive community should think of reducing the marriage expenses.
The expenses on Pattu pudavi,(which are hardly used after marriage on any social occasion) could be avoided. Let us think is it so necessary that you spend three days or extravaganza of Janvasam, and reception and book hall for 3 days, especialy when the halls are becoming extremely costly and the shastri, the vadyar charge exorbitantly.
The Vadyars have forgotern their holy role and have become commecialised to the extent of including even catering in their profession.
A normal middle order brahmin family had to shell out not less than 5 lakh for a moderate marriage, the lowest budget for a poor mans family.
The vadyars charge not less than Rs.50,000/-the hall not less than Rs 30000/- per day, the caterers charge minimum of Rs.400/- and for500 persons it will cost notless than Rs.2,00000/-. A substantial chunk of life time earning of the father is just spent on this extravanza. Can,t we not make the marriage simple and use the money effectively.
Let us adopt a simple way of marriage and save the poor father from browing and remain perinialy indebted.
A.R.Sathyanarayanan.