Dear Kunjuppu Sir,
A simple marriage and a good amount of money to charity would be a good step to improve our society. But when people want
grand gAlA weddings with prices of stuff rocketing sky high, who thinks of charity? The three day wedding is slowly entering
the tambram community, which for some period of time was restricted to one and half days event - Vradham in the morning;
nichiyathArtham to follow; reception in the evening; wedding next morning and pack off after early lunch! But now, the groom
arrives the day prior to Vradham and leaves only after the pAligai event and lunch on the third day. So the hall has to be booked
for full three days. The hard earned money is used ONLY for the wedding expenses and people hardly think of any charity! :tsk:
But, I know one Malayali girl who refused to wear gold jewellery other than a simple thAli chain, two thin bangles and simple
ear studs and donated the cost of about 50 sovereigns of gold, her share, to an orphanage which she was helping regularly. :thumb:
dear raji, good lady,
i agree with you 101% if that is ever possible. in the past 8 years i have been to weddings and i cannot believe the money spent. all these are willingly and boastfully spent - there is no demand from any one side. it is all ego. and not a penny towards charity.
self made men appear to have this penchant to show off. sad. how much better a show off would it be, if they had a registered marriage and announced the gift 50 lakhs towards educating our own poor and footing the medical bills of our elderly indigents. so sad.
the irony of it, is that they started asking me, when it was our 'turn'. inspite of warnings from mrs K, i tell them loudly and clearly, my children's wedding are their business. i would only be a participant. sure enough, my first son got married to his beloved, with only her parents and me, mrs K and our twins attending. then we went to lunch at a local eatery.
5 months later, at a time convenient to us, we invited 50 of our closest friends to our home, to meet the couple. it was a jolly good time all of us had with a lot of honest merry making. without breaking the bank.
stuff like mehendi function which was not even heard of 20 years ago, is now a must, in some weddings like nalangu and kasi yathrai!