thanks mm for your oct 2 note to me.
you, ramaa, saab appear to be comfortable in the content, context and process of those cut n'paste posts. you find it educational and informative, is what i gather from your reply.
i, for one, tend to disagree. i have given enough reasons, and you have to re-read those reasons, to know where my focus is. i, for one, will not be comfortable exposing my teenage children or grandchildren to such heavy worded documents, for the reasons, that i have already explained.
perhaps, you would feel it is perfectly alright for your children or grandchildren to read these notes, work themselves up and commit some act of violence which ends in tragedy. i am not imagining such trains of actions, as this has happened to me, and i caught myself, just in time. teenagers do a lot of things without their parents' knowledge.
i suspect, there are our teenagers, browsing through this forum. i perfectly respect your right and privilege to hold your views. what i queried about, was the appropriateness of the language presented, in light of our potential young audiences. please understand, that is all, my focus was. rest of your arguements and beliefs are perfectly welcome.
i also noted your remark re funny logic. i will treat this term with a kinder interpretation and i wish to let you know, that i meant the statement in seriousness and without any humour or intended mockery. that is not my way of expressing humour or logic in a public forum.
i was only stating something that i believe is currently prevalent in our tamil brahmin community - re education, employment and a chance fo self fulfillment have opened up to our women only recently. i think i am ok in stating that this is more of the norm in our community now, than the exception.
i stated what i believe is a fact of today's life. along with it, i gave my resounding approval for the same.
from your note, i gather, that you disapprove. that is ok. whatever works for you and your family. i infer from your tone, that the females of your family are proudly homebound mothers inculcating solid values to your children. good for you.
personally, i think, that parenthood and career are two different and unconnected skillsets. one can be good in both or neither. nowadays, in households like mine, we are two active parents, and i find as much fulfilment in my role as an active parent, as distinct from that of a distant father, which my male parent was. different times, different places, different generation.
i would never denigrate my parents' model. however i am also proud of my situation. please appreciate that there are different strokes for different folks.
if you understood otherwise, ie that i implied, that by entering the workforce, women are a developed (whatever that means, but i suspect none too flattering) lot - nothing could me farther than what i intended. i cannot accept a narrowand confining definition that a 'working woman' is the equivalent to an enlightenment era, a freedom, a concept, which we the men have taken for granted (and infact pampered for so long) but which we deliberately denied to our women folk, under the guise of socio religiosity. it takes more than a few doses of humility and introspection to appreciate that.
i am with bharathiar when he dreamed such in his verses. nowadays, atleast among my kith and kin, if a girl has just passed high school and stayed at home doing nothing, eyebrows are raised. it is interesting to know that this is not universal among our community. i like variety and so be it.
finally, back to the posts of ramaa & saab.
i have sometime ago suggested that they summarize their posts, instead of 'cut n'paste' long articles/comments written by third party.
on september 30th, in the 'echos of partition' thread, our moderator, silverfox has opined to another individual, the following: (post #787)
.. Instead of cut-and-paste, why don't you give the news and express your views, within the guidelines set by this forum (#3)..
i think this applies to all of us. i have additional reasons for supporting our moderator
- server disk space costs money. we do not pay anything to participate in this forum or contribute to defray costs. it is only decent that we use space optimally.
- there is a web link feature available, so that the url of the articles can be referred to elegantly through one click on the website
- these cut n'paste posts are so long, that personally i tend to skim them, always looking for summaries and personal views, which i would appreciat and find useful; if intrigued further, i can always go to the provided link
we all know that this forum is only sparsely moderated.
however, now that the moderator has clearly stated his views, i expect, that unlike those proverbial mice when the cat went away, we would conduct ourselves with more sense of responsibility towards this forum and desist cut n'post as a method to express our views.
that is my take on the moderator's note. let us not abuse their generosity and goodwill, and exhibit due respect and honour, as this forum rightfully deserves.
thank you.
