Dear Renu and Balagopal,
When it comes to a tough question to answer, we all usually say "That's a good question". In this case, i would say, your questions are very good ones, dearest Renu
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When i was little, i used to ask my parents this question, "What if one day i love a foreigner and want to marry him?", and i would proudly say i am such a lucky girl to have lovely parents who answered "As long as you two truly love each other and respect each other's tradition and culture, nothing can be a problem in that"...Their answer is still the same as of now, which obviously means i don't need to worry about falling in love with a foreigner in terms of different race, religion, language and culture...
Adapting to a new culture doesn't mean that i am leaving my own culture, i believe. It's just like you have a daughter and she's getting married soon. We won't take it as "I am losing my daughter" but as "I am going to have a new son", right?
...My culture has been in my blood since i was born and no matter where i go, what i do, i am still a Vietnamese in my inner self...If i am lucky enough to be his wife,...then it just makes me a wife and daughter-in-law of Indian yet still a daughter of Vietnamese
. You see,...i am not losing anything but being able to be a part of a new community, getting to know a new culture and having more roles and titles.
Being able to approach a new culture, especially my beloved's culture, is a good thing actually. It's way too romantic to say "No matter how hard it is, i will do it all just to get to know all about him and to be a part of his life", but that's how i tell myself to take it in an easier way. It's love that leads the path and makes things seem easy, Renu. Taking changes is hard, but isn't impossible...Nevertheless, it's all about perception. Personally, it's impossible for me to spend the rest of my life living with someone i don't love...So i would rather let love govern me, though it's arduous, it's worth
