Sri Vadivelu,
My responses are in maroon italics.
Hi just telling fact.. brahmin women a status symbol . many tell deiveega kaadal etcs . actually we only look for more beautiful girls and status symbols. no point in you people getting angry at me. I answer person called lotus qartz question1. Would you be equally interested in marrying any white skinned woman ? No. reason is other community people in India will not accept. example muslim women don’t marry outsiders . Their men wont allow them to .
I will let Lotus Quartz answer this part.
But Brahmin women easy to move with and easy to marry . so no problem.
So first you say that Brahmin women are good looking and next you are saying they are easy to move with - what are you trying to say?
2. You do not seem much interested in non-white Brahmin woman. Why ?Some Brhamin women not white but mostly they are beutifuller than non brhamin woman . so will go for them if butiful fair woman not there. But not interested in girls who are not good looking or fair. Iam only telling the truth here. Others may lie telling we look at heart. But it is not true.Men go for girl’s looks . girls go for men with power and money. This is truth.
With due respect, this is only a partial truth. There are some people who do this but many, many others who go for true value.
We make up our opinions about the world based on the people we know. How many people can one really know? Family? Immediate family? A few friends? Usually any person arrives at an opinion about the whole world based only on this circle of people.
If your circle of people have made you believe this that is truly sad.
3. Is complexion the only aspect of your persoanlity and lifestyle where you feel the need to change ?Brhamisn ruled us for long.
Who said this? Who are you believing? Did you care to examine whether the person making this statement made a careful analysis of BOTH sides of the argument?
Is the person who made this statement benefitting by your belief in this statement? i.e., for example, if it is a political personality, is the person getting more votes because you believe this?
Please refer to my posts on the thread Hinduism vs. Rest - II. I have written a piece on the history of our culture in response to a person called Thangaraj (page 9, post #82; page 11, posts #108 and #109). Do read that and come back of you have more questions.
Marrying brhamin woman makes us feel better. We r not lower caste anymore. makes us feel we are rulesr now.
I am sorry you feel that way. I am sorry that revenge makes you feel better.
So not just complexion but must be good lokking at least.
Forget the Brahmin, non-Brahmin sentiment here for a moment.
I am just curious - is this what women mean to you Vadivelu? Just a body that has color, complexion and looks?
4. If tomorrow some magic medicine or cream is invented which can help you in changing the complexion towards fairer shades, would you still be interested in marrying only white brahmin woman ?
Confusing question. What are you asking?
Marrying Brhamin women means we are now bettter than them. So makes us higher caste like them now. So equality in society.
I am sorry that you think Brahminism is measured only by skin color.
Other women not interested so.
The women in your community/caste must feel really sorry to hear this.
I think whatever caste you belong to, is a good one. I am sure your forefathers were involved in some occupation which was based on values such as hard work, honesty and service to society.
I am also sure that some of your ways, not all, perhaps benefitted you in some way.
I would like to see everybody's culture preserved while changing our attitudes toward treating everybody equally.
That medicine may take another 100 years bythat time all of us dead and gone. So just enjoy what you get now.
Do you think this is how personal happiness gets built?
5. Would you like women from your community to marry fair skinned Brahmin men ?Don’t know. our women dont like going other culture. They respect our culture. and our women also don’t like acting against their father and brothers likes.Personally , my sister already married to our aunts son. My sister respeact our culture and not liking going other culture. She is comfortable with our caste people only.
Thank you for this information about your caste.
Our caste women will not trust bramins because they know that they oppressed us many years.
Please read the posts I referred you to and come back with more questions.
6. How do you propose going about the task ?Reservation is the way to bring euuality –makes us get power and money. So we get brhamn women and it completes our going up.It is very easy to move with brhamin women and many of my friends married brahmin women already . It was very easy. Just smile and keep talking to them and spend a lot of money . go to movies . go ouside city to other places for 2-3 days. That’s all. they say no problem expected from girls family. Even problem, register marrage. . Ok to adjust with non veg - only condition they don’t cook it at home. That’s all.
Your opinion of Brahmin women is quite eye-opening. Thank you.
I hope you also recognize that not all Brahmin women are like that.