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No White Elephants - Cash please!

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auh said:
Her reasons are perfectly practical... we should leave it to her to decide what is best for her and refrain from condescending comments.
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Returning the gift is in bad taste..She could have sold the BMW to some one else and taken the money..Now she has put the onus on the benefactor to give her cash!!
 
vgane said:
Returning the gift is in bad taste..She could have sold the BMW to some one else and taken the money..Now she has put the onus on the benefactor to give her cash!!
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She could have very well done so many other things, but we cannot judge her actions by our standards. That is all.
 
It is reported that the decision was due to maintenance problem viz no Service Centre nearby, lack of availability of good driver and bad roads, etc.

Rio star Dipa Karmakar asks for cash instead of BMW presented by Tendulkar

"There is no showroom or service centre of BMW car in Tripura. If the car developed any technical snag during driving, how would I repair this? There are also not sufficient suitable roads in Agartala and other places of the mountainous state to ply the luxury car," Dipa told IANS.


"Sir (her coach Bisheshwar Nandi) discussed these matters with V. Chamundeshwarnath. He agreed to deposit money equal to a BMW car cost to my bank account. We would be happy whatever amount they give instead of the BMW car," she added.

Dipa, who hails from the state capital of Agartala, said she did not take the decision solely by herself, and the issue was decided collectively by her coach, parents and other family members.IANS

Read more at: http://www.greaterkashmir.com/news/...ead-of-bmw-presented-by-tendulkar/230723.html
 
I once opted for Cash instead a of round trip free air tickets to Malaysia since I was advised by Doctors to avoid the trip! The gifts are returned not due to its value or quality but when it is of no use and accept equal value in cash!

Daanam kodutha mattai pallai pidichu parthanam" does not arise
 
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I too agree with the comment by J J ji in the OP. Dipa is sensible.

Cash award is better than spending on maintaining a car and a driver. :)


 
This is a dilemma for the award giver.
A car company gets the advantage of being associated with the sportsperson and the sports, in the process it also gets some advertisement. So it is part of business.

A recipient should not demand the price and quality of gift.
look a gift horse in the mouth
To be critical or suspicious of something one has received without expense.

The modern way is to expect Cash, I have started to accept that, it also makes it easier for the givers.
But we do not have any "mementos", an object or item that serves to remind one of a person, past event, etc.; keepsake; souvenir. There is some expectation of remembrance of the giver.
May be that is sentimental, but it also keeps the recipient from blowing up the money on Drugs, cigarettes, and other harmful products.

Here in USA the recipient (In weddings etc) register with a store and select the gifts they would like, the givers can buy it for them.
 
Dear Prasad Sir,

Even four decades earlier, there was a practice of pooling up money and giving a gift, which would be useful to the newly weds.

In our company, the computer dept and industrial engg. dept pooled up money and I chose to get a dressing table and a sewing

machine, costing 300 and 750 respectively. I use them even now. It is much better than getting tiny gifts, mostly like a clock

or divinity pictures and give them to someone else, later on! :)
 
prasad1 said:
This is a dilemma for the award giver.
A car company gets the advantage of being associated with the sportsperson and the sports, in the process it also gets some advertisement. So it is part of business.

A recipient should not demand the price and quality of gift.
look a gift horse in the mouth
To be critical or suspicious of something one has received without expense.
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It is also the responsibility of the gift-giver to look into practical aspects while deciding the type of gift. Suppose somebody gifts an elephant to a person who is a daily wage earner, he can neither afford it nor can he afford to put efforts to sell it.

In this case, it is advertisement for the brand of the car, bonus points for the sportsman who presented the gift, and a prestige symbol for the recipient of the car (provided they know to use it). Just so that it is given free does not impinge the recipient's right to question its suitability.
 
In our village, a poor brahmin was insisted to receive a cow as dhAnam and he cleverly sold it to a land lord

for a good amount. Without a good servant, the land lord had tough time maintaining it. After a lot of nagging
by his wife, who was allergic to smell of the cow dung, he gave it as dhAnam to a milkman. :peace:
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Prasad Sir,

Even four decades earlier, there was a practice of pooling up money and giving a gift, which would be useful to the newly weds.

In our company, the computer dept and industrial engg. dept pooled up money and I chose to get a dressing table and a sewing

machine, costing 300 and 750 respectively. I use them even now. It is much better than getting tiny gifts, mostly like a clock

or divinity pictures and give them to someone else, later on! :)
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The gift of Divinity pictures or vigrahams is the most troublesome one. How many vigrahams or photo frames of the divinity can one keep after all?

Not too long ago I was just tired of re-cycling the "smiling Buddha" stuff :)
 
auh said:
It is also the responsibility of the gift-giver to look into practical aspects while deciding the type of gift. Suppose somebody gifts an elephant to a person who is a daily wage earner, he can neither afford it nor can he afford to put efforts to sell it.

In this case, it is advertisement for the brand of the car, bonus points for the sportsman who presented the gift, and a prestige symbol for the recipient of the car (provided they know to use it). Just so that it is given free does not impinge the recipient's right to question its suitability.
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You do have a point, and it is a sensible solution. There can be more sensible solutions.
The recipient could sell it, donate it etc. That is a better solution than throwing the gift back.

We were invited to house, as usual my wife bought a flower arrangement. The host very politely told us that they do not accept gift. If that was the case they should have told us with the invitation. I took it as rude.

A well known recipient of a gift here in USA, turned that car into huge pile of cash for a charity, by autographing the gift and auctioning it. That way no one was offended and at the same time it gave others to contribute to the charity.
 
zebra16 said:
The gift of Divinity pictures or vigrahams is the most troublesome one. How many vigrahams or photo frames of the divinity can one keep after all?

Not too long ago I was just tired of re-cycling the "smiling Buddha" stuff :)
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Dear Narayan Sir,

You might be surprised to know that even blouse bits and coconuts are recycled during Navarathri.

I pack the blouse bits in zip lock bags (my d i l brings a lot!) in a special way, with a 5 rupee coin and

kumkum - turmeric packets. When I went to a function in my extended family, I got one back safe! :)

Some years back, there was a rumour in Sing. Chennai that stolen laughing Buddha is very lucky; two

of the laughing Buddhas in my collection vanished!! :cool:
 
Dear Prasad Sir,

It is a bit different in Sing. Chennai. One NRI family wrote in the invitation 'No gifts please' and we took it seriously!

During that wedding reception, Ram and I were the only couple who went without a gift. Luckily, I had a few new

envelopes in my handbag and hastily packed some money as gift.
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Prasad Sir,

It is a bit different in Sing. Chennai. One NRI family wrote in the invitation 'No gifts please' and we took it seriously!

During that wedding reception, Ram and I were the only couple who went without a gift. Luckily, I had a few new

envelopes in my handbag and hastily packed some money as gift.
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It is not unique to Sing. Chennai.

Such things are universal.

In Delhi we had an Officer who will send a circular during the last week of every calender year conveying his mind that he is against anyone calling on him personally to greet Happy New Year with gifts,etc

And if anyone take this circular seriously and obeyed it by not greeting the Officer, he will definitey have a tough time.

P.S: Seniors know that such circulars are nothing but reminders to get one prepared for the event.
 
Raji Ram said:


You might be surprised to know that even blouse bits and coconuts are recycled during Navarathri.

I pack the blouse bits in zip lock bags (my d i l brings a lot!) in a special way, with a 5 rupee coin and

kumkum - turmeric packets. When I went to a function in my extended family, I got one back safe! :)
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Karma-What-goes-around-comes-around.jpg
 
prasad1 said:
You do have a point, and it is a sensible solution. There can be more sensible solutions.
The recipient could sell it, donate it etc. That is a better solution than throwing the gift back.

A well known recipient of a gift here in USA, turned that car into huge pile of cash for a charity, by autographing the gift and auctioning it. That way no one was offended and at the same time it gave others to contribute to the charity.
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That is the expected thing of people who think of Charities - But some times Gift are given to well known people who have different ideas with these gifts received!

https://www.google.co.in/url?sa=t&r...punhLU9HiZHbn4eLg&sig2=UHVP7LrxNs9mmb28rSHpBw
 
There is an adage in Tamil: 'pAththiram aRindhu pichchai idu'. Anything donated should be useful to the receiver.

So are gifts. Even when the token gifts given by me circulate and reach me, I get ONLY a good one which I had given

earlier! :cool:, right?
 
A man asked a beggar what he will do if he gets one crore rupees in a lottery. :popcorn:

The beggar replied, 'I will get a golden bowl, studded with diamonds and go to beg!' ;)
 
குதிரை குப்புறவிழுந்தமில்லாமல் ஒரு குழியையும் பறித்துவிடுவது தான் பழமொழி .:laugh:
 
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