Why I posted my 'last post'......(It is not the 'last' anymore, anyway...
Sri, KRS Sir,
Greetings. As I mentioned earlier, I am explaining here the reasons for submitting my 'last post', which is not the last anymore. Firstly, I am happy to see you taking part regularly in the forum. I sincerely wish you all the very best.
My reasons -
1. I did not get angry or get hurt in the forum. Sometimes, the conversations becames a bit more hotter than usual; owing to the subject discussed, it is quite understandable. If one cares to notice, one would have noticed that I did not react in kind. No, I am not saying this to talk highly of me, but far from it; I see getting a rather forceful reaction for a simple conversation shows my misgivings in my own communication skills. I only took it that way. (Sri.Sangom took the extra initiative to contact me in my e-mail Id; he wanted to know the reasons for the way I behaved. I explained him how I did not accuse anyone at anytime; how my conversation, although pointed, was nothing out of the ordinary. After going through my explanations, Sri.Sangom accepted that I had a point. I am sure, he would have felt, I should have explained them in the forum. I did not explain because, I did not want to start a bigger fight. I am more than happy to explain my points to you or to any interested members; but, not in the open forum).
How ever, I was not too happy to see the lack of reactions from this forum. Actually, as of today, I am not happy. But, over the period, I realised....a.people may not react at all; b. May not show their reactions; c. may not give a hoot anyway. Well, I react. I react as much as possible in a positive way. So, that settles it. As a moderator, there is nothing expected of you as far as I am concerned; if there is a concern from anyone else, I am more than happy to address, preferably in PM or in public.
2. In this forum, one should have the right to take part and explain their belief .....and be able to walk away in one piece. For example, if I believe in the divinity of 'Sky Bunny', I believe 'Sky Bunny' created the earth, all the life forms and the cosmos, I should be able to basque in such romantic belief .....until I realise the truth on my own steam, at my own pace. But that does not happen here. Including myself, one or many of us converge on a newcomer. When I stepped back and noticed it, it made me feel ashamed. I could explain (a+b)^3 = a^3 + 3a^2b+ 3ab^2+b^3, even if I am drunk or half-asleep; because, I learnent it well; but if I crowd someone, if I try to drive that derivation in someone's head when someone is not ready, someone is likely to a.runaway from me, b. someone is likely to run away even altogether from algebra.
My point is, it is absolutely okay to have romantic beliefs. Why not? it does not hurt anyone. If it hurts, then it can be addressed.
3. It is very nice to see so many progressive thinking persons in this forum. Almost, all the members taking part in discussions are progressive minded. Mind you, anyone not interested in progressive thoughts will not take part in any of these discussions; they would stay away from any discussions, keep their heads buried in the sand.
My question is, why there should be so much fight, arguments between members? Can't you guys see, an orthodox person would see this fight as 'the fight between so-called progressive minds'? Such a person would not hesitate to brand the whole lot as 'un-cultured'. That is why I feel depressed when I read all these arguments and debates. What is the point? It is only the degree of the progression that differs amoung the members.....it is a pity, they can't even see that.
By the way, speaking about progression, this forum is not progressed much...not as much as 10 percent of progression exhibited by my (late) grand mother or my mother. No, I mean literally. I am more than happy to prove it too (not the 10 percent though... but can show the huge difference in progression taking into considerations of the time period, their education, their feminine situation....). So, it is not a bad idea to tone down the volumes of our arguments....by a very long way.
4. This forum is called 'Tamil Brahmins Forum'. What is the contribution to the Tamil Brahmin community from this forum? I know, most members would be involved many social services either on their own accord or through other avenues; what are the efforts from this forum? It is all very well to talk ill about the brahmins of the past. But the poor and needy of the brahmins of the presents are just that....poor and needy. If we can't see them as any other human being, if we can't help them as a community, what is the point of this gathering?
I know this forum has a huge data base for music, sastras, prayers, songs, discussions.... But, if I am struggling for my next square meal, if I can't pay my school fees due to poverty, if I can't buy books since I seldom see 500 Rupee currency......pray tell me, how am I going to afford to browse all these vast information; or how am I going to continue to follow the 'progressive minded' discussions everyday?
When I lamented about lack of contribution, I meant this kind of contribution, in real sense to the real people in the community. I was upset I could not do it from this forum. Sri.Praveen addressed this concern; but it does not have a solution.
I humbly request Sri.Silverfox to address this (point #4 ) either in the forum or in my PM please.
I was frustrated with all the above concerns. I sent two PMs to Sri.Praveen. On the hindsight, those PMs could have been much nicer. I even suggested to split the forum in two; one forum frequented by 'progressive minds' and the other forum 'free of progressive- minds'..(No, I am lying. I actually used one member's name in that suggestion. No prize for guessing that member's name though. I wanted everyone be able to voice their opinions, no matter how romantically absurd it may be; at the same time, I did not like to see the progressive-minded person ( that particular member in that instance, restricted in anyway).
So, Sri.KRS Sir, after going through so much frustrations, I did not know how to express my concerns. (I know, my communication skills are not that great anyway). So, I thought it would not make sense to stay somewhere, where I don't enjoy it so much.
I don't enjoy the 'discussions' (or more like argulents/debates) because, the members involved all are progressive minded; but, not able to agree on few simple things. Funny though, most of the 'hot topics' discussed are not even curent....dead and buried long back!
Can you kindly bring the forum back to the present times, please? Thank you.
I have outlined some of the concerns that I could remember now. If there is anything more to add, I will add more to the long post, anyway.
I humbly request the members to comment on the concerns raised in my long post, please. I look forward to read Sri.KRS's and Sri.Silverfox's feedback, please. Thank you.
Cheers!
