renukaji
I do not want this folder get involved in endless arguments ! However once, i will answer you.
Your remembering someone calling Karna Suta Putra is right, but it was not Yudhistra
Here is the story:
Suta Putra –
The main reason Karna supporters cite for his pathological hatred for Pandavas and Draupadi – especially Draupadi, is because they called him Suta-putra..
In those days, everyone – EVERYONE – was given a name that told you their jati or parentage. Krushna was called a cowherd, Vidur dasi-putra, Dharatarashtras for being sons of Dhurtarashtra, Pandavas for being sons of Pandu etc. It was not an insult, it was simply the way people addressed each other in those days.
Even now, your surname tells people where you came from, what job your ancestors may have done, what honours they may have earned etc. This is the same in the east as west – hence you have plenty of Patels, Shahs, Trivedi, Singh, Hajji, Gazi, Yamin, Khan, Smith, Knight, Huntley, MacMillan, Cohen, Levi etc. So when you call a CEO of a financial company “Mr Smith” – are you insulting him by reminding him his father was a blacksmith ? Ofcourse not ! It is a term of reference as to who he is. Suta-putra was a term of reference as to who Karna was brought up as.
People often say that just because Draupadi chose not to marry Karna, she was too haughty and too proud. Why presume that ?
Draupadi first saw Karna at the svayamvar. As a princess, at her svayamwar, she was given the chance to choose who she marries. She chose not to become a Mrs Suta. She didn’t like that surname. Her choice. She was entitled to it ! As a young woman, she chose not to marry the haughty Karna who thought the world owed him for being wrongly called a suta-putra ! Maybe she didn’t like the way he looked. Maybe she didn’t like what she heard about him from others. Her friends would have given her the “bio-data - resume” of all the suitors at the svayamvar for sure. Remember – Karna was there when the Kauravas tried to conquer Panchal and were defeated and maybe she didn’t like what she heard about him from that war.
When you were looking for a wife, if your relatives tried to arrange a “meeting” and the woman rejected you – for whatever reason – would you take it out on her years later by asking the people of your building to strip her and incite them to rape her just because she turned you down all those years ago ? Or would you take it out on a girl who refused to dance with you at a college party or refused to share a bus seat with you because she didn’t like the way you were looking at her – or whatever her reasons for rejecting your advances ?
To feel the “insult” of the svayamwar years later and to take it out on her by saying – strip her in public and ask her to sit on your naked thigh – is way below what a man of honour would do.
http://www.pushti-marg.net/bhagwat/Mahabharata/karna2.htm
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