Rudra_Maha
Active member
This is a question, that has been on my mind for quite sometime.
Note:- Not applicable for the traditionalists. This is for the aspiring progressives.
We have been seeing a lot of fuss regarding marriages and traditions off lately. My question is:-
1. Migration from tradition
Many of us have moved away from our traditional jobs seeking comforts, so we have lost the identity of calling ourselves a brahmin. We have started sacrificing our practices and customs and have also validated this act.
So, if this can be done, why not next step....avoid getting into an institution called marriage.
2. Women empowerment
Corporate to govts, they are forcing a 50% cap on workforce, not sure if they're compromising on work efficiency, but to score brownie points, many flaunt their gender diversity. What difference does it make to an office, whether a job is done by a Man, woman or a trans.
3. Marriages can be risky for the man.
With laws being set against the man, anyone who gets himself into it should think a 100 times cause if it turns sour, the man would stand to lose more than the woman.
4. Less responsibility. More live-ins.
We live in a world of consumerism and capitalism. Everybody is bent on getting gadgets, money, power etc. Very few are into service and thats a dwindling race. Many of us are employed by the corporate which considers people as a resource rather than a potential. No one is sure of when they would be handed the pink slip. So to start a life thinking all would be well tomorrow spells doom for the person.
If each person is to live for himself, why jump into this institution called marriage and make a mess of ourselves.
If a man and woman is mutually attracted, they could live together and if suppose they happen to get a child and when they don't like each other, they can separate, with each supporting the child equally. Isn't that how the west operates. Maybe let the child as the property of the society and not the family.
5. Support systems
Most often, the reason being given to youngsters is, marriage is for a partner when you're old to take care.
But, shouldn't it be like we must create a moral support system in the country when people can get psychological counselling from the govt, rather than get into marrying one person.
Now, if a woman divorces a man, until she finds another source of income, the man will have to pay for her upkeep, sad part is this being misused left right and center and many men are held at ransom.
More than 70% cases reported by ncrb relating to dowry, rape, harassment etc were proven to be fake. This could seriously jeopardize an innocent person. When laws are taken for a ride like this, how will one get confidence in this institution called marriage.
6. Career
This is a priority for all. Why would someone marry a person who doesn't have a bright career. So, when a question of Character/tradition vs career comes, its the career that takes the lead. If a woman can choose a man for providing her with safety and good career, shouldn't the man also have the rights to choose multiple partners.
Say, like the animal kingdom, there isn't a concept of marriage. Partners change. Women take responsibility of the child. Should we buckle up for the situation of Matsya nyaya/ law of the jungle.
On the contrary, although studies have shown that, a stable marriage is needed for a strong economy, better health, children's growth: in a fast paced society, where we don't get to call the shots, is it time to raze down the institution of marriage?.
Opinions are welcome.
Note:- Not applicable for the traditionalists. This is for the aspiring progressives.
We have been seeing a lot of fuss regarding marriages and traditions off lately. My question is:-
1. Migration from tradition
Many of us have moved away from our traditional jobs seeking comforts, so we have lost the identity of calling ourselves a brahmin. We have started sacrificing our practices and customs and have also validated this act.
So, if this can be done, why not next step....avoid getting into an institution called marriage.
2. Women empowerment
Corporate to govts, they are forcing a 50% cap on workforce, not sure if they're compromising on work efficiency, but to score brownie points, many flaunt their gender diversity. What difference does it make to an office, whether a job is done by a Man, woman or a trans.
3. Marriages can be risky for the man.
With laws being set against the man, anyone who gets himself into it should think a 100 times cause if it turns sour, the man would stand to lose more than the woman.
4. Less responsibility. More live-ins.
We live in a world of consumerism and capitalism. Everybody is bent on getting gadgets, money, power etc. Very few are into service and thats a dwindling race. Many of us are employed by the corporate which considers people as a resource rather than a potential. No one is sure of when they would be handed the pink slip. So to start a life thinking all would be well tomorrow spells doom for the person.
If each person is to live for himself, why jump into this institution called marriage and make a mess of ourselves.
If a man and woman is mutually attracted, they could live together and if suppose they happen to get a child and when they don't like each other, they can separate, with each supporting the child equally. Isn't that how the west operates. Maybe let the child as the property of the society and not the family.
5. Support systems
Most often, the reason being given to youngsters is, marriage is for a partner when you're old to take care.
But, shouldn't it be like we must create a moral support system in the country when people can get psychological counselling from the govt, rather than get into marrying one person.
Now, if a woman divorces a man, until she finds another source of income, the man will have to pay for her upkeep, sad part is this being misused left right and center and many men are held at ransom.
More than 70% cases reported by ncrb relating to dowry, rape, harassment etc were proven to be fake. This could seriously jeopardize an innocent person. When laws are taken for a ride like this, how will one get confidence in this institution called marriage.
6. Career
This is a priority for all. Why would someone marry a person who doesn't have a bright career. So, when a question of Character/tradition vs career comes, its the career that takes the lead. If a woman can choose a man for providing her with safety and good career, shouldn't the man also have the rights to choose multiple partners.
Say, like the animal kingdom, there isn't a concept of marriage. Partners change. Women take responsibility of the child. Should we buckle up for the situation of Matsya nyaya/ law of the jungle.
On the contrary, although studies have shown that, a stable marriage is needed for a strong economy, better health, children's growth: in a fast paced society, where we don't get to call the shots, is it time to raze down the institution of marriage?.
Opinions are welcome.