Divorce rearing its ugly head among Tambrahms

[praveen]

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Let me answer your before mentioning that this will be final warning to you.

How long more should I wait for your response, please?

1. If the question needed an answer you would have got it immediately.
2. I respond depending on the situation and depending on the query raised. If it needs an immediate answer, you will hear from me immediately.
3. Sharing messages that had been discussed in private on a public forum is totally uncalled for and def a breach of the trust that the other person had on you.

Grateful for your kind clarification that this disclaimer does not apply to you, Mr Praveen, but that you do represent the official policy and view of the TamilBrahmins.com Website.

I suppose as the owner of the website and being the admin, i suppose i do represent the website. That is one of the reasons why i do not actively participate because people confuse my views as the official stance of the site.

Sir, every moderator and administrator can moderate all they want -- nobody has called them incapable -- but is it too much, and a bannable offence, to hope that they will tell us why: for general guidance to all members of what is not permitted?

Few posts were accidentally deleted because of a human error. There is no way to bring them back.

I hope this answers all your questions.

If you have any more clarifications, do send a message and if it is something that requires an answer you will hear from me.

If not, asking about that in a public forum is a breach of the rules that you agreed before participating. And for that your account can be suspended.

I hope i am clear.

 

[S Narayanaswamy Iyer]

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Originally Posted by S Narayanaswamy Iyer

"So I wrote to Sri Prasad1 in the thread "Divorce rearing its ugly head among Tambrams"."

Response by Prasad1:





"That is a breach of my PM to you. That was confidential information and you can not share it in public. "

What on earth is going on in this thread, indeed in this forum, I wonder? What I had originally written to Mr Praveen was:-

'So I wrote to Sri Prasad1 in the thread "Divorce rearing its ugly head among Tambramsa'. He said you were very busy and were looking after your mom, and I should wait. Am still waiting.'

In his retort, reproduced above, Prasad1 falsely claimed that he had sent me a PM, when HE HAD NOT. In fact he had sent me IN AN OPEN POST in this thread the information that Mr Praveen was very busy and was looking after his mom.

So I posted an open rebuttal in this thread, pointing out the truth and that Prasad1's last PM to me was in MAY 2017 and concerned my reference to a forbidden name.

My questions:

(1) Why and by whom was Praad1's open post in this thread saying Mr Praveen was very busy and was looking after his mom deleted?

(2) Why and by whom was my open post in this thread in response, setting out the true facts deleted?

(3) What on earth is going here?
​

S Narayanaswamy Iyer

 

[renuka]

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Originally Posted by S Narayanaswamy Iyer

"So I wrote to Sri Prasad1 in the thread "Divorce rearing its ugly head among Tambrams"."

Response by Prasad1:





"That is a breach of my PM to you. That was confidential information and you can not share it in public. "

What on earth is going on in this thread, indeed in this forum, I wonder? What I had originally written to Mr Praveen was:-

'So I wrote to Sri Prasad1 in the thread "Divorce rearing its ugly head among Tambramsa'. He said you were very busy and were looking after your mom, and I should wait. Am still waiting.'

In his retort, reproduced above, Prasad1 falsely claimed that he had sent me a PM, when HE HAD NOT. In fact he had sent me IN AN OPEN POST in this thread the information that Mr Praveen was very busy and was looking after his mom.

So I posted an open rebuttal in this thread, pointing out the truth and that Prasad1's last PM to me was in MAY 2017 and concerned my reference to a forbidden name.

My questions:

(1) Why and by whom was Praad1's open post in this thread saying Mr Praveen was very busy and was looking after his mom deleted?

(2) Why and by whom was my open post in this thread in response, setting out the true facts deleted?

(3) What on earth is going here?
​

S Narayanaswamy Iyer

Dont worry too much...memory lapses are common.
So cool...its all in your mind.

 

[Raji Ram]

1. A member is FREE to delete his / her post, on second thoughts, within a period of time. (24 hrs, I think)

2. After deleting the original post, he / she can request the moderator to delete a reply to it, by any other member.

P.S: When such deletions happen, the post # in the thread will change!

Hence it is always better to quote a line of the post, while writing a reply!

 

[Raji Ram]

​:focus:

A pretty girl from a very orthodox family chose her 'soul mate' - a N B senior from her institution, and got married to him,

without the permission of her parents. That guys parents were very much aware of the registered marriage, which had only

the couple's friends as witnesses. But, they never mentioned about this to the girl's parents! :tape:

For a few years, the father of that girl wanted her to get a divorce from that guy and re-marry a brahmin guy. Of course,

the girl refused and stayed disconnected from her parents, living abroad. Now, after a child is born, the father feels sad for

NOT helping his daughter during her delivery and convalescence!
It is rightly said: ''Time heals every wound''! :clock:

 

[auh]

When there is a contrary view, try to present them with erudition and with more sugar coating..

Good advice. Nobody is against a contrary view but that it should only be presented properly.

I will also add that a contrary view should not attack the poster. We are only debating views here and, comments or inferences about the individual, based on their postings, are unwarranted.

 

[Raji Ram]

.........We are only debating views here and, comments or inferences about the individual, based on their postings, are unwarranted.

'Posts' or 'Postings', Auh Ji??

 

[Vaagmi]

​:focus:

A pretty girl from a very orthodox family chose her 'soul mate' - a N B senior from her institution, and got married to him,

without the permission of her parents. That guys parents were very much aware of the registered marriage, which had only

the couple's friends as witnesses. But, they never mentioned about this to the girl's parents! :tape:

For a few years, the father of that girl wanted her to get a divorce from that guy and re-marry a brahmin guy. Of course,

the girl refused and stayed disconnected from her parents, living abroad. Now, after a child is born, the father feels sad for

NOT helping his daughter during her delivery and convalescence!
It is rightly said: ''Time heals every wound''! :clock:

Wounds may heal. Scars remain for ever.

 

[renuka]

Wounds may heal. Scars remain for ever.

Aesthetic Surgeon may help.

But seriously..shouldnt parents be happy at least their child married a good person who keeps her happy.

I am surprised that the girls father expected her to ruin her own marriage and divorce her husband just becos he is not of the same caste.

So how can this family be orthodox if a father can suggest a divorce that too when there is no problem in the daughters marriage.



Isnt a husband everything for a Hindu woman?
Isnt she barred from heaven if she doesnt serve husband?


Kya story yaar.
Total unorthodox hain.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Renu,

In my close circle, two such marriages have happened. In both the cases, mothers wish to unite with their children,

after the initial break up, where as the fathers object! Male ego?? :noidea:

 

[krish44]

Some parents start counting scars for every action of child not conforming to their wishes.

Rana Sangha a rajput king had more than 80 battle scars on his body. He was considered brave.

Tb parents get scarred even with a minor action of children defying them.

They can stop being over sensitive and accept decisions of children

 

[Raji Ram]

Don't try to arrive at a conclusion based on the stories narrated here more particularly in this Forum by few active members

It has become habit for few to cite perhaps imaginary characters like CASINO Mami and SPENCER Mama..

FYI, no one has written about Spencer Mama or Casino Mami. :nono:

We HAD a mama, who visited many Casinos all over the world and won a lot of money too.

Now, I should NOT talk about him because he has left this world. :rip:

For heavens sake, don't :blah: again about the characters YOU imagine!

 

[Raji Ram]

Some parents start counting scars for every action of child not conforming to their wishes.

Rana Sangha a rajput king had more than 80 battle scars on his body. He was considered brave.

Tb parents get scarred even with a minor action of children defying them.

They can stop being over sensitive and accept decisions of children

Dear Krish Sir,

Marriage is NOT a minor action and you should think of the feelings of an orthodox parent, to understand their pain! :ballchain:

Anyway, after some time, it is good to accept the children, because we KNOW only this life and should try to be happy.

 

[biswa]

Dear Krish Sir,

Marriage is NOT a minor action and you should think of the feelings of an orthodox parent, to understand their pain! :ballchain:

What about the pain of a child who has an orthodox parent?

Anyway, after some time, it is good to accept the children, because we KNOW only this life and should try to be happy.

​Correct.

 

[Raji Ram]

What about the pain of a child who has an orthodox parent?

Dear Biswa Sir,

You have asked this Q; Yes! Children of orthodox parents suffer when they are NOT keen being orthodox.

They learn a lot from their friends during teenage and start rebelling. I have heard a teenager lament to me,

"Why am I born to MY parents?" :Cry:

 

[prasad1]

Dear Biswa Sir,



"Why am I born to MY parents?" :Cry:

That is the ultimate failure for the parents.

 

[Raji Ram]

When the teenager lamented, 'Why am I born to MY parents?', I thought he is like 'Adalharp'!!

Anyone ?? I meant reverse of 'Prahlada'!

 

[S Narayanaswamy Iyer]

"Comments or inferences about the individual, based on their postings, are unwarranted." -- auh Veteran

True?

Matthew 12.34 - O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. (Jesus Christ: "Sermon on the Mount")

Hugh Fitzgerald in New English Review, "By Their Words Ye Shall Know Them" Aug 2008 - "By their world-view, and their words, ye shall know -- and judge -- them (US politicians and Presidents)."

Luke 6.45 - A good man out of the treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good, and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil; for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. (Jesus Christ: "Sermon on the Mount")

Matthew 7.15-20 - Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravening wolves. Ye shall know them by their fruits (words). For a good tree bringeth forth good frui9t, but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. Every tree that bringeth not good fruit is hewn down and cast into the fire. (Jesus Christ: "Sermon on the Mount")

"Sathyam vada" - Yajur Vedam

S Narayanaswamy Iyer

 

[Raji Ram]

Ada Rama!! Jesus Christ seems the THE saviour!!

Let us sing:

''தேன் இனிமையிலும் இயேசுவின் நாமம்
திவ்விய மதுரமாமே - அதைத்

தேடியே நாடி ஓடியே வருவாய்,
தினமும் நீ மனமே''

ray2:

 

[zebra16]

Ada Rama!! Jesus Christ seems the THE saviour!!

Let us sing:

''தேன் இனிமையிலும் இயேசுவின் நாமம்
திவ்விய மதுரமாமே - அதைத்

தேடியே நாடி ஓடியே வருவாய்,
தினமும் நீ மனமே''

ray2:

I heard there is even a Gayatri for Jesus which goes something like this:

JesuralanAthAya vidmahE, Mary putrAya Dheemahi
tanno yeSuH prachhodayAt

 

[Raji Ram]

I heard there is even a Gayatri for Jesus which goes something like this:

JesuralanAthAya vidmahE, Mary putrAya Dheemahi
tanno yeSuH prachhodayAt

Wow!!!

 

[Raji Ram]

Chant the Jesus Mantra - YouTube

OMG! I am NOT going to do it! :nono:

I have learnt hundreds of KeerthanAs to pray Hindu Gods and Goddesses. ray:

 

[Raji Ram]

Ada Rama!! Jesus Christ seems the THE saviour!!

Let us sing:

''தேன் இனிமையிலும் இயேசுவின் நாமம்
திவ்விய மதுரமாமே - அதைத்

தேடியே நாடி ஓடியே வருவாய்,
தினமும் நீ மனமே'' ..

​The member who gave a

to my post in the quote, did NOT get the point! :sad:

I wrote this because respected Iyer Sir has taken 3 quotes of Jesus, to prove his point!

So, Jesus SEEMS to be the saviour! :spy:

 

[S Narayanaswamy Iyer]

Wonder whether the objector to Jesus would prefer quotes from the Koran? Or the Shia Revival? Or the Bahai Bible? If so, we can rely on the self-radicalised quotes from of the Hadiths and decrying our shaashtraas and puranaas.

My point that words reveal the man (or woman) is totally missed.

S Narayanaswamy Iyer

 

[Raji Ram]

I got the point Sri Iyer Sir!

Was wondering why drag Jesus for support, when we have very many Hindu Gurus! ray: