This was a topic that I long yearned to write & there were many in our group who wanted to share their experiences...I am going to share something that happened recently ...The couple has not divorced but are having irreconcilable differences now & may be on verge of a separation
I had attended a Tambrahm marriage a year ago! We were happy that they were marrying within the community...Boy was well educated and had worked in MNC's..The girl too was convent educated & on her way to become a Cost Accountant...The marriage was all pomp & show...It was an arranged marriage to boot!
The first 6 to 8 months of their married life all looked normal...But we heard a shocking news that they are living separately..The boy who lives with his dad (his mother died a few years back) was putting unrealistic demands on the hapless girl...He was egoistic & self centered..He made the girl run around and manage the house..He stopped the cook...She had to buy all provisions, do the cooking & serve the duo..The boy will ask her to accompany him any time and she has to drop dead & stop her activities (even brushing her teeth)..The girl was tolerating all this..But soon realized her folly of giving into his unrealistic demands!!
Is he psychotic? Is he depressed? No one knows...All mutual talks have so far failed to reconcile the differences and bridge the gaps
Someone mentioned that may be he is gay? We do not know that yet & so I am unable to comment upon that
What sort of a boy who is living in a make belief world who cannot support his dear wife & almost torturing her day in & day out?
Sad to note that a community which is already suffering the ignominy of his inter caste & inter religion marriages (25% as per last count), low birth rates has to suffer the consequences of a failed marriage..
Please share your experiences
I had attended a Tambrahm marriage a year ago! We were happy that they were marrying within the community...Boy was well educated and had worked in MNC's..The girl too was convent educated & on her way to become a Cost Accountant...The marriage was all pomp & show...It was an arranged marriage to boot!
The first 6 to 8 months of their married life all looked normal...But we heard a shocking news that they are living separately..The boy who lives with his dad (his mother died a few years back) was putting unrealistic demands on the hapless girl...He was egoistic & self centered..He made the girl run around and manage the house..He stopped the cook...She had to buy all provisions, do the cooking & serve the duo..The boy will ask her to accompany him any time and she has to drop dead & stop her activities (even brushing her teeth)..The girl was tolerating all this..But soon realized her folly of giving into his unrealistic demands!!
Is he psychotic? Is he depressed? No one knows...All mutual talks have so far failed to reconcile the differences and bridge the gaps
Someone mentioned that may be he is gay? We do not know that yet & so I am unable to comment upon that
What sort of a boy who is living in a make belief world who cannot support his dear wife & almost torturing her day in & day out?
Sad to note that a community which is already suffering the ignominy of his inter caste & inter religion marriages (25% as per last count), low birth rates has to suffer the consequences of a failed marriage..
Please share your experiences