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Intercaste marriage is it possible?

Jaykay767

Well-known member
JK ji..
Its not about insulting any caste here.
I just felt one post was very insulting to Ms Priyanka.
Whatever said and done no one has the right to character assassinate another human being.
Renukaji,
It is both. By insulting the OP, they are also insulting other castes.
I mean, why shouldn't our next gen marry other castes ? What is so wrong ? That they have to bash the OP so much.

This is what I said in my earlier post, any discussion on such topics of caste, politics, religion, immediately descends into hatred and abuse. One can encourage the OP to marry within the same community without directly or in this case indirectly absuing other communities. and castes.

JK.
 

renuka

Well-known member
Renukaji,
It is both. By insulting the OP, they are also insulting other castes.
I mean, why shouldn't our next gen marry other castes ? What is so wrong ? That they have to bash the OP so much.

This is what I said in my earlier post, any discussion on such topics of caste, politics, religion, immediately descends into hatred and abuse. One can encourage the OP to marry within the same community without directly or in this case indirectly absuing other communities. and castes.

JK.

Yes...it was insulting other castes too but that i felt was his opinion becos i have seen videos on FB where other caste insult TBs too.

So i gather that is general behavior seen in TN where there are some issues with each other

Also its very normal male behavior to feel angry when another community male gets their girls becos they feel a woman is their property...but same rules dont apply for males...that is a male can marry anyone!

Like how we see Bollywood movies..Indian guy lovvu Pakistani girl but u wont find movies Pakistani guy and Indian girl! Lol

So some amount of such opinions is understandable if the poster is young.
With time and decline in hormones all of us mature and become more sensible.
 
Priyanka,
It is a life's decision which you are making. So any decision that you are taking you alone would be responsible for that decision. So think a lot before taking any decision.
I am not inclined to give an opinion whether it is good or bad. These are very subjective and entirely personal decision.
I can tell you from the experience that I have seen with some of my friends who have gone for intercaste or interreligion marriages. Some of them have completed more than 25 years of marriage.. Some feel they should not have.. while some take it on their stride.
If you are belong to a very orthodox family and if you are brought up like that, you may find it difficult to adjust initially. As some others have pointed out especially in eating veg/ non veg etc.
Marriage itself is based on compromises. Both the husband and wife come from different families, different ways of upbringing, even if they belong to the same caste. It is not the case all the same caste marriages are successful. Again success of marriage is very subjective.
We need to appreciate that two people from different backgrounds will have differences in every thing. The effort is how to make it a life of happiness by arriving at a consensus.
Earlier days women were not financially independent. So they had to go by whatever their parents said, whether they liked the boy or not for marriage. That doesn't mean that arranged marriages are bad. I am only saying it from point of view of decision making.
The present generation parents are very broad minded and they take life as it comes. One of my friends brought up his daughter as a typical Brahmin girl, learning music, dance and very good at studies, etc. she went to USA and there met an American boy who is a Christian and they are married now and have a child also.
Therefore, there is nothing wrong or right in any decision in life. Only time can tell us whether we went in the right direction or not.
But the point that I want you to realise is that whatever decision you are taking you alone will be responsible as there is no point in blaming others. Having said that, life should be seen in a positive manner and hope that everything will be alright.
Pl discuss frankly with the boy whatever your concerns are regarding life after marriage. After that give some thoughts to yourself, then take a decision. Either way dont take a hasty decision. Give some time to think.
Believe in God ! All the Best ! God Bless!
 

teshil

Member
Let me make it brief!
1. If you can feel the love of the other person and vice versa, then all problems are solvable for the same reason. Where there is love, there is also respect!!
2. Irrespective of what you feel, it is highly recommended that you learn to stand on your own legs and have the freedom to choose, at all times. Such approach is an insurance policy in case of unexpected change.
3. You should be able to practice your faith and customs if #1 is true.
4. Your children will largely emulate the life that they see around them during their formative years. What they will emulate, therefore, will be in your collective hands.
5. Above all, while we all have the free will, every one who come across and the challenges that we face have reasons that we can't understand fully, in this life.

The most important among the five above, is #2. That will help you to make your decisions work irrespective of whether right or wrong.

I believe that everyone must stand on their own legs; particularly the women so that they can be free.

My 2 cents; good luck!!
 

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