Fathers and Sons, Post-Retirement strategies

[jchintamani]

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We can always dream of retirement life and probably achievable in India and I have seen many of my relatives and friends enjoying it but some us living in the US, it is still a dream with commitments, debts,never-ending mortgage payment and so on.

 

[sarang]

Our asrama dharma 'vanaprasta' is relevant here. Those ready for vanaprasta must give up loukika responsibilities and try to lead a simple religious and spiritual life; it is the duty of children to take care of their parents' essential and basic comfort needs. The parents must not interfere in the activities of their children.

Today, some parents put this in practice by continuing to live in the place they have spent their working life, some retire to their native places for a peaceful fulfilling life. Visiting and holidaying with children abroad has its own plus and minus points - sometimes it involves complex logistics for the boy's and girl's mother in laws with so many children needing their services and support.

In pune, maharashtra, parents of NRI have formed an association to simplify their life. They meet regularly, visit other members for keeping an eye on their welfare, and even have arranged a special credt card for use in emergencies and hospital admission.

In simple terms, parents must leave the children alone and the NR children must do all they can to ensure decent, comfortable life for the parents and must not raise avoidable demands.

 

[natpushpa]

Dear Sri Kunjuppu, (Post #21 ), Well said. I like it & I appreciate your view. What a great man ! What a great & opt thinking. Natpushpa.

 

[natpushpa]

Dear Sri Subramanian Natarajan, (Post #22 ), : Really it is a gift to settle in a village near Thenkasi. You are lucky to settle in such a nice picturesque village. There is a beautiful Temple of Dhakshinamoorthy and ashram of Swami Onkarananda at Theni to feed your mind. Kurtralam falls is also nearby to rejuvenate your physical body. What a fantastic location Sri Subramanian Natarajan , I envy you .Wishing you Health & Happiness. Natpushpa.

 

[natpushpa]

Our asrama dharma 'vanaprasta' is relevant here. Those ready for vanaprasta must give up loukika responsibilities and try to lead a simple religious and spiritual life; it is the duty of children to take care of their parents' essential and basic comfort needs. The parents must not interfere in the activities of their children.

Today, some parents put this in practice by continuing to live in the place they have spent their working life, some retire to their native places for a peaceful fulfilling life. Visiting and holidaying with children abroad has its own plus and minus points - sometimes it involves complex logistics for the boy's and girl's mother in laws with so many children needing their services and support.

In pune, maharashtra, parents of NRI have formed an association to simplify their life. They meet regularly, visit other members for keeping an eye on their welfare, and even have arranged a special credt card for use in emergencies and hospital admission.

In simple terms, parents must leave the children alone and the NR children must do all they can to ensure decent, comfortable life for the parents and must not raise avoidable demands.

Dear Sri Sarang, Well said . The first and last paras are very good Natpushpa..

 

[natpushpa]

Our asrama dharma 'vanaprasta' is relevant here. Those ready for vanaprasta must give up loukika responsibilities and try to lead a simple religious and spiritual life; it is the duty of children to take care of their parents' essential and basic comfort needs. The parents must not interfere in the activities of their children.<br>
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Today, some parents put this in practice by continuing to live in the place they have spent their working life, some retire to their native places for a peaceful fulfilling life. Visiting and holidaying with children abroad has its own plus and minus points - sometimes it involves complex logistics for the boy's and girl's mother in laws with so many children needing their services and support.<br>
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In pune, maharashtra, parents of NRI have formed an association to simplify their life. They meet regularly, visit other members for keeping an eye on their welfare, and even have arranged a special credt card for use in emergencies and hospital admission.<br>
<br>
In simple terms, parents must leave the children alone and the NR children must do all they can to ensure decent, comfortable life for the parents and must not raise avoidable demands.

Dear Sri Sarang, Well said . The first and last paras are very good Natpushpa..

 

[B Suresh Kumar]

It is very difficult for any one to lead Vanaprasta after retirement.
We cannot think of a detached life after retirement.
We will have to think of leading a life which will make the life of the retirees and also that of his son and daughter peaceful and cordial.
Once the retired person becomes dependent on his children the misery of his life starts.
It might be financial dependency or physical dependency.
The son or daughter have their own priorities and that has to be respected and at the same time they are also interested in the well being of their parents.
The financial dependency will be less in case of those who enjoy pension. Those who do not receive pension will have to prudently invest their superannuation benefits in such a way that atleast their day to day requirements are met.
The physical dependency will not arise if a person is hale and healthy.
The health problem arises if your mind is idle and starts worrying about the future.
It would be better if the retired person is engaged in any activity after retirement. It need not be with monetary benifits. If it is with monetary benefits it is well and good. With rising inflation some additional income is always an advantage.
I have read earlier in this thread that a person can retire to his native village and start gardening and or farming. It might be difficult if a person enters farming after retirement. It depends on whether he has such financial independence to face the natural calamities. getting workers to work in the field is also not easy as many of the localities have migrated to cities in search of greener pastures.
There is nothing wrong in helping ones sons and dauhgters but it should not result in depending on them.
There is a proverb thanaku minji thaan dhanamum and dharmamum.
If a person understands this his life will be happy and can be with his sons and daugthers comfortably.

 

[natpushpa]

DEAR SURESHKUMAR, (Post:32). Line by line , it is absolutely correct. Almost all possibilities have been explored. Very good. I like it. Natpushpa