If you can not participate in the ritual every month, But you may also adopt certain restrictions on those days of Maaasigam & Sothambam days every month by not taking NV items, not drinking and eating only one-time like... and also donate to some poor as you wish on those days. It is believed that, donations given on these days to poor (really the poor and needy who will bless you heartily- not the one who will always demand whatever you give without satisfaction like modern day sastrigals)) will directly reach the departed souls for their journey to other world.
