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Woman's Days special

Raji Ram

Well-known member
Naithru Sir,

Our girls are NOT like us, the older generation!

Even diaper change for babies is shared!! "I have done twice; you do the next two changes!''

First cleaning of utensils, loading in dish washer, floor maintenance,

cleaning the garden, maintenance of cars, showling the snow in winter

are all to be done by 'the man of the house'!

Only Indian oldies still think it below dignity to do household chores!
 

Janaki Jambunathan

Well-known member

Naithru Sir,

Only Indian oldies still think it below dignity to do household chores!
Before 'Whisper' periods women were happy to bleed! I remember my father managing the household gracefully by default though restricted for 3 days - Only Indian oldies did not think it below dignity to do household chores!
The slogan 'No Whisper - Happy to bleed!' - is to get back their lost Freedom!
 

krish44

Well-known member
JJ ji tks for your posting of #36 -Veedu ased on eepas story.

As a person with fond memories of life on banks of kaveri and a house in village agraharam near

kumbakonam [4 km from it] besides some fertile lands and settled in delhi now can relate to the story.

The house which belonged to my family had collapsed due to lack of maintenance and lands given away for a

pittance to local muslims .

Once every two years I used to visit kumbakonam every two years [declared as

home town for LTC] and visit the uppiliappan koil there besides visit the village

Now there are only memories of a byegone era from lantern in houses to electric

lights,dusty tracks to tarred roads and buses to city ,there has been a

transformation.

Now life has changed so much that I would not stay even overnight there and

return to delhi as soon as possible by flight from tiruchi to my home in delhi.
 

krish44

Well-known member
I seem to have stirred a hornets nest by my comment that senior citizens might end up in senior citizens home

{unwanted ,uncared for by their children.]

It appears to be a social reality-

So many senior citizens here responded to it stung by the comment,some saying they are there by choice not

by compulsion.

Recently in chennai, parents in seventies staying in a neighbouring flat would go every day to their childrens

flat nearby during

day and return home in the evening.

They were part time caretakers for their sons children and would go to their flat every day to return in the

evening.

Living by themselves is not a possibility they ever consider.

Becoming dependant both materially and emotionally is a disease they suffer from.

I really wish they would let go.

They are not old by todays standards-only in sixty something.They have lot of life left.

Life has lot to offer.

Retirement is not the end of living......
 

renuka

Well-known member
LOL!
reading posts here makes me laugh.

Life isnt all that complicated though anyone can face problems at anytime in their lives.

But whats all this cock and bull of being liberated etc?
No one is caged or is a slave.

Everyone has their duties and jobs.

The problem is people started using the word career instead of job and started to measure success on a scale that is about live outside of house.

Lets be honest..life isnt about a job alone..oops career..its much more than that...it just seems to me that those who get carried away by a job or career might be having a very low self esteem that they need fulfilment only tru a job.

Thats totally an unbalanced way of life.
A job is just part of our life and even when i go to work..i keep counting the hours when i will go home..

So all this liberation etc are just confused individuals who dont seem to know that a balance in life is liberation.

Liberated women doesnt mean one who forgets her duties as a human and only focuses on her job or partying or socializing etc.

I feel people who just tasted stepping out to the world cant handle it.

Its the Behenji turn modern syndrome..they start to feel being modern is like a dog let loose and they go totally out of control.

Being modern is being intelligent and making the right choices.

Modern is a state of mind.
 

naithru

Active member
Naithru Sir,

Our girls are NOT like us, the older generation!

Even diaper change for babies is shared!! "I have done twice; you do the next two changes!''

First cleaning of utensils, loading in dish washer, floor maintenance,

cleaning the garden, maintenance of cars, showling the snow in winter

are all to be done by 'the man of the house'!

Only Indian oldies still think it below dignity to do household chores!
thanks madam ... The girls of such houses where husband helps them, must be rare,
The girls are lucky, Peace ...
 

tbs

Well-known member
Dear tbs,
Besh Besh, I was thinking wife is a lifepartner, and both will share and it seems she has to slog, taking the stroller with baby she has to carry??, Husband will not lift his little finger to help her?? already cooking, taking care of the children schooling, including the bathrooms , carpet cleaning etc, foregoing a lucrative job to take care of the children in bringing them up a showpiece of children to relatives upholding Hindu traditions etc, and husband is not in india to boss over the wife. why dont you learn from americans how they are helping their partners. Family is Father And Mother I Love You. Do you not vow to share during wedding??
MS
hi sir,

sharing is different from demanding.....even USA boys are better than indian boys.....still they do....

PAANCH DIN NAUKARI....EK DIN GROCERY.....EK DIN LAUNDARY.....this is called life here...
 

naithru

Active member
yes tbs sir I agree. if it is wife its her duty, if it is her husband , it is help, is it not his child?? what is wrong in carrying the stroller?? is it unwritten law the wife has to carry out all house hold jobs>?? does she not scored 99+ and got seat in medical / engg. does she not slog to score from 9th onwards??
I would request you to see a short tamil film "meesai"( available in you tube). It is about smoking by ladies. In a house of all gents smoking she passively the smoke she becomes a smoker, husband ( who too is a smoker) complained where she learnt that practice. please see the end, she says if a man smokes it is affects his health. but a girl smokes it is cultural denigration, is it different yardstick??
 

krish44

Well-known member
LOL!
reading posts here makes me laugh.

Life isnt all that complicated though anyone can face problems at anytime in their lives.

But whats all this cock and bull of being liberated etc?
No one is caged or is a slave.

Everyone has their duties and jobs.

The problem is people started using the word career instead of job and started to measure success on a scale that is about live outside of house.

Lets be honest..life isnt about a job alone..oops career..its much more than that...it just seems to me that those who get carried away by a job or career might be having a very low self esteem that they need fulfilment only tru a job.

Thats totally an unbalanced way of life.
A job is just part of our life and even when i go to work..i keep counting the hours when i will go home..

So all this liberation etc are just confused individuals who dont seem to know that a balance in life is liberation.

Liberated women doesnt mean one who forgets her duties as a human and only focuses on her job or partying or socializing etc.

I feel people who just tasted stepping out to the world cant handle it.

Its the Behenji turn modern syndrome..they start to feel being modern is like a dog let loose and they go totally out of control.

Being modern is being intelligent and making the right choices.

Modern is a state of mind.
Life career balance is every womans dream. Not many achieve it.

Most get carried away having excess of either career or home life.

Most men have to put up with women who keep changing their stance depending on their evolving

preferances .

More and more marriages are under strain leading to temporary flings and living separately due to career

changes.

More seniors face an uncertain future having to put up with separation due to mismatches in needs and

actual fulfillment .

Ultimately most realise that it is a lonely journey each doing his/her own thing and wait for the inevitable

end
 

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