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Varshabdikham related question

kpss

New member
My father passed away last year and his varshabdhikam falls on first week of July 2020. I live in the USA. My older brother (the eldest) will be doing the function in India. I'll try my best to get there, but can't tell due to lockdown. My question is, if I'm not able to go to India, do I have to perform any ritual for the four days? Someone mentioned that on the Abdhikam day I have to do Sradham, others said varshabhhikam is only for the Jyeshta puthran to do. Appreciate your kind advice on this question.
 

sankarcs

Member
To my best of knowledge, Srardham has to be performed by every son. General rule is number of kitchens = number of shrardham. In ancient days, single kitchen taken care of all sons Hence shrardham by jyeshtan alone. Now it is not so. If separate kitchens are maintained even in a single building, then separate separate shrardhams need to be performed.
 

C H Mahadevan

New member
My father passed away last year and his varshabdhikam falls on first week of July 2020. I live in the USA. My older brother (the eldest) will be doing the function in India. I'll try my best to get there, but can't tell due to lockdown. My question is, if I'm not able to go to India, do I have to perform any ritual for the four days? Someone mentioned that on the Abdhikam day I have to do Sradham, others said varshabhhikam is only for the Jyeshta puthran to do. Appreciate your kind advice on this question.
Only the eldest son has the right to perform Varshaabdikam.Because you will not be able to travel to India,trying to participate virtually through Skype or Google Duo on that day.
But the problem will be the difference in the time-zone.When the ceremony is performed in India ,it will be night time in USA.Best practical option will be To fervently participate with mental dedication at that moment observing fast till the ceremony is over.From the next year onwards,you can plan your participation in annual ceremonies or can independently perform annual ceremonies.Once you start performing annual ceremony independently,you may need to continue doing so in future also.
 

kgopalan

Well-known member
sir, varushaaptheekam must be done only by eldest son. you need not come here, you need not do anything. from next year onwards each and every brother must do the annual ceremony separately. even though they are living in the same house in ground floor and first floor. only joint family people can do together.. this is the rule framed by vaidhyanatha deekshitheeyam.
 

drrsuresh

New member
All response conversations are in the correct direction.
Being far away and having a feeling unable to participate shows your sradhdha. Srardham is basically on shradhdha (meaning involvement with faith). As quoted Sradhdhehi idhi srardhaha.
Varushaapdhiham ritual will have to be performed by the eldest son who might have performed the rituals on his father's death day and lit the fire to burn his eternal body remains. As far as possible, you can keep thinking of that departed soul and do and keep fasting till the varushaapdhiham ceremony is completed and brahmans leave after taking food in your Tamilnadu house. Time difference may also help you in this regard I suppose.
From the next year as senior members advised here, srardham may be performed by all sons independently if they are not living together as an undivided family with a common kitchen.
These are all hearsay information from my childhood. I submit that I am neither a purohit nor I know srardha mantras in full.
 
My opinion is that the Eldest son must perform varshaabdikam. But, Yearly shraddam to be performed by all sons, either together or separately. The bottom line is that no son is absolved of not performing /or participation in shraddam
 

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