These days it is common news that our community girls marry non-Brahmins, non-regionals and non-Tamilians with or without the consent of their parents to defy customs and traditions and also age-old wisdoms. A decade or so is gone by and in another decade or so the results of such discreet or indiscreet decisions will show. Already fissures are seen as many divorcees are in queue to the marriage unlocking courts.
The reasons for such heart-rending (only to parents) occurrences are either flimsy, deceptive or in a microscopic few, rational. A couple of years ago I submitted to a Swamiji the state of children’s mind these days. He said the parents are responsible. On pointedly asking about the girls, he repeated the same opinion. Yes, he is right, but not wholly. Surely, none would have guided them to be arrogant or defiant. Unlike other communities, our Tamil generation, say parents of the 50s and thereafter, was strict about the limits of their (boys or girls) independence in carrying themselves about socially, but liberal about their education and fashion dressing, moving with the times or cinemas/Tv.
Think of your upbringing and you may tend to think you have been too liberal with your children. Though our liberality might have spoiled them to some extent, you cannot deny it improved their self-confidence and ability to push themselves up in life. But the villain for the deterioration is not so much as our liberalism as the un-Indian education that was imparted to them over the years. Readers, please, do not jump to conclusions. I am not blaming the most valued education, but the manner of imparting, the atmosphere and the system which is prevailing in this field.
The children had been taught to say ‘Good morning’ and to remember to celebrate birthdays of their near and dear ones. Celebrations start for them from there. That has led them to ‘partying’ and then decaying of their choice. After all these, they wear a forlorn look at the sight of their parents as if they are least interested in them or in any thing. They will go for social work, but care hoots for ageing parents, go to mingle with slum kids but would not care to look after kids/siblings in their home or in the neighbourhood. There is a new fashion to adopt child from orphanages, but leave them at the care of aged elders; and care not to remember to enquire after the elders’ health.
Economic compulsions and necessity to survive in the face of threatening starvation and also urge to care for unplanned family, drove many Tamil Brahmins (not non-Brahmins) of whole TN to go out of their State which had become inimical to them. Purely with God’s blessings established themselves elsewhere and could in course of time boast of miniscule family. The offspring of the migrated family could not have the choice of their education. Consequently, they found themselves in schools where the majority was different from theirs. They would have gone through traumatic and nightmarish experience in adjusting themselves against pupils of culture a shade different. They would have undergone subtle ragging and nagging too, for their appearance, language and reserved social behaviour. When needed no succour was available to them. Perhaps the girls were worst sufferers. Many such social experiences would have turned them against their own community. To be frank these children hate anything that is Tamil, thanks due to the DK and its family of other Ks. All the sympathizers of such Ks may bask in the glory of a revolution (?) they have ushered in (would not an ordinary change have made a desirable society?) now, history may look at them in a different light. Only those parents now in the evening of their lives think of the glory of Tamil. I am under constraint but you have umpteen reasons to explain the malady the community is suffering from. I request readers not to entertain the idea that I am exonerating the group of girls.
Now about the ‘undesirable’ boys, traditionally they wear a grave look, intent on their purpose in life less flamboyant than their braggart counterparts outside the South. They are the better performers throughout in spite of being philosophical. Moreover boys of the last 2 decades have grown under mother’s influence, no wonder these boys do more window shopping which was considered before, a feminist style.
Last but not the least, the contention of all anti-Indians/Hindus had been to attack the very culture of India she has always prided in. With the help of enthusiastic (sic) Indian volunteers they have fairly succeeded. Of course it is not the end. The so called “Hinduism” will survive through the ages as it has always been. The purpose of this blog is to provoke the eligible bachelors in our community to think and act without compromising on our ethics or identity. I have got it into my head from where I don’t know, casteism does not apply to ladies. And they wash all their sins by conceiving and delivering more sin or sins. Learned readers can contradict me or criticize all the above opinions.
The reasons for such heart-rending (only to parents) occurrences are either flimsy, deceptive or in a microscopic few, rational. A couple of years ago I submitted to a Swamiji the state of children’s mind these days. He said the parents are responsible. On pointedly asking about the girls, he repeated the same opinion. Yes, he is right, but not wholly. Surely, none would have guided them to be arrogant or defiant. Unlike other communities, our Tamil generation, say parents of the 50s and thereafter, was strict about the limits of their (boys or girls) independence in carrying themselves about socially, but liberal about their education and fashion dressing, moving with the times or cinemas/Tv.
Think of your upbringing and you may tend to think you have been too liberal with your children. Though our liberality might have spoiled them to some extent, you cannot deny it improved their self-confidence and ability to push themselves up in life. But the villain for the deterioration is not so much as our liberalism as the un-Indian education that was imparted to them over the years. Readers, please, do not jump to conclusions. I am not blaming the most valued education, but the manner of imparting, the atmosphere and the system which is prevailing in this field.
The children had been taught to say ‘Good morning’ and to remember to celebrate birthdays of their near and dear ones. Celebrations start for them from there. That has led them to ‘partying’ and then decaying of their choice. After all these, they wear a forlorn look at the sight of their parents as if they are least interested in them or in any thing. They will go for social work, but care hoots for ageing parents, go to mingle with slum kids but would not care to look after kids/siblings in their home or in the neighbourhood. There is a new fashion to adopt child from orphanages, but leave them at the care of aged elders; and care not to remember to enquire after the elders’ health.
Economic compulsions and necessity to survive in the face of threatening starvation and also urge to care for unplanned family, drove many Tamil Brahmins (not non-Brahmins) of whole TN to go out of their State which had become inimical to them. Purely with God’s blessings established themselves elsewhere and could in course of time boast of miniscule family. The offspring of the migrated family could not have the choice of their education. Consequently, they found themselves in schools where the majority was different from theirs. They would have gone through traumatic and nightmarish experience in adjusting themselves against pupils of culture a shade different. They would have undergone subtle ragging and nagging too, for their appearance, language and reserved social behaviour. When needed no succour was available to them. Perhaps the girls were worst sufferers. Many such social experiences would have turned them against their own community. To be frank these children hate anything that is Tamil, thanks due to the DK and its family of other Ks. All the sympathizers of such Ks may bask in the glory of a revolution (?) they have ushered in (would not an ordinary change have made a desirable society?) now, history may look at them in a different light. Only those parents now in the evening of their lives think of the glory of Tamil. I am under constraint but you have umpteen reasons to explain the malady the community is suffering from. I request readers not to entertain the idea that I am exonerating the group of girls.
Now about the ‘undesirable’ boys, traditionally they wear a grave look, intent on their purpose in life less flamboyant than their braggart counterparts outside the South. They are the better performers throughout in spite of being philosophical. Moreover boys of the last 2 decades have grown under mother’s influence, no wonder these boys do more window shopping which was considered before, a feminist style.
Last but not the least, the contention of all anti-Indians/Hindus had been to attack the very culture of India she has always prided in. With the help of enthusiastic (sic) Indian volunteers they have fairly succeeded. Of course it is not the end. The so called “Hinduism” will survive through the ages as it has always been. The purpose of this blog is to provoke the eligible bachelors in our community to think and act without compromising on our ethics or identity. I have got it into my head from where I don’t know, casteism does not apply to ladies. And they wash all their sins by conceiving and delivering more sin or sins. Learned readers can contradict me or criticize all the above opinions.