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Undesirable Tamil Brahmin Bachelors

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These days it is common news that our community girls marry non-Brahmins, non-regionals and non-Tamilians with or without the consent of their parents to defy customs and traditions and also age-old wisdoms. A decade or so is gone by and in another decade or so the results of such discreet or indiscreet decisions will show. Already fissures are seen as many divorcees are in queue to the marriage unlocking courts.

The reasons for such heart-rending (only to parents) occurrences are either flimsy, deceptive or in a microscopic few, rational. A couple of years ago I submitted to a Swamiji the state of children’s mind these days. He said the parents are responsible. On pointedly asking about the girls, he repeated the same opinion. Yes, he is right, but not wholly. Surely, none would have guided them to be arrogant or defiant. Unlike other communities, our Tamil generation, say parents of the 50s and thereafter, was strict about the limits of their (boys or girls) independence in carrying themselves about socially, but liberal about their education and fashion dressing, moving with the times or cinemas/Tv.

Think of your upbringing and you may tend to think you have been too liberal with your children. Though our liberality might have spoiled them to some extent, you cannot deny it improved their self-confidence and ability to push themselves up in life. But the villain for the deterioration is not so much as our liberalism as the un-Indian education that was imparted to them over the years. Readers, please, do not jump to conclusions. I am not blaming the most valued education, but the manner of imparting, the atmosphere and the system which is prevailing in this field.

The children had been taught to say ‘Good morning’ and to remember to celebrate birthdays of their near and dear ones. Celebrations start for them from there. That has led them to ‘partying’ and then decaying of their choice. After all these, they wear a forlorn look at the sight of their parents as if they are least interested in them or in any thing. They will go for social work, but care hoots for ageing parents, go to mingle with slum kids but would not care to look after kids/siblings in their home or in the neighbourhood. There is a new fashion to adopt child from orphanages, but leave them at the care of aged elders; and care not to remember to enquire after the elders’ health.

Economic compulsions and necessity to survive in the face of threatening starvation and also urge to care for unplanned family, drove many Tamil Brahmins (not non-Brahmins) of whole TN to go out of their State which had become inimical to them. Purely with God’s blessings established themselves elsewhere and could in course of time boast of miniscule family. The offspring of the migrated family could not have the choice of their education. Consequently, they found themselves in schools where the majority was different from theirs. They would have gone through traumatic and nightmarish experience in adjusting themselves against pupils of culture a shade different. They would have undergone subtle ragging and nagging too, for their appearance, language and reserved social behaviour. When needed no succour was available to them. Perhaps the girls were worst sufferers. Many such social experiences would have turned them against their own community. To be frank these children hate anything that is Tamil, thanks due to the DK and its family of other Ks. All the sympathizers of such Ks may bask in the glory of a revolution (?) they have ushered in (would not an ordinary change have made a desirable society?) now, history may look at them in a different light. Only those parents now in the evening of their lives think of the glory of Tamil. I am under constraint but you have umpteen reasons to explain the malady the community is suffering from. I request readers not to entertain the idea that I am exonerating the group of girls.

Now about the ‘undesirable’ boys, traditionally they wear a grave look, intent on their purpose in life less flamboyant than their braggart counterparts outside the South. They are the better performers throughout in spite of being philosophical. Moreover boys of the last 2 decades have grown under mother’s influence, no wonder these boys do more window shopping which was considered before, a feminist style.

Last but not the least, the contention of all anti-Indians/Hindus had been to attack the very culture of India she has always prided in. With the help of enthusiastic (sic) Indian volunteers they have fairly succeeded. Of course it is not the end. The so called “Hinduism” will survive through the ages as it has always been. The purpose of this blog is to provoke the eligible bachelors in our community to think and act without compromising on our ethics or identity. I have got it into my head from where I don’t know, casteism does not apply to ladies. And they wash all their sins by conceiving and delivering more sin or sins. Learned readers can contradict me or criticize all the above opinions.
 
Very Sad and painful but true. Also partly because of parents upbringing. This could be reduced to some extent, if we start living unitedly in a close community instead of scattered. We used to live in agraharams. now it is gone. But we could take some bold step and create a gated community which would improve our cultural identity and heritage as well as avoiding intercaste marriages also.
 
Shri Iyyarooraanji,

Really a Thought-Provoking post. Very well written.

Nice quote:

"What we know is just handful & what we do not know is the remaining of Earth"

With Respect and Regards,
Rajasekhar
 
Yes, you are right. But we have come too far. It is only a day dream; because night dreams some times might come true. The bane of our community is that we would like to compete not with other communities, but with our own brothers and sisters and each one of us will cut our own nose to spite their faces!?
 
Shri Iyyarooranji,

Excellent Thought. Absolutely agree with you. One of the main causes for the downfall of the Brahmins is lack of unity; a brahmin neither respects nor trusts other brahmin. Petty knowledge and religious privileges have made some of them Ego-maniacs; who ill-treated illiterates like worms. Now the entire Brahmin Community is bearing the brunt. "Every Cause has its Effect." - Gautama Buddha/Adi Shankaracharya.

lured by name/fame/wealth many Brahmins have left the feet of God; taken up animalism, propagating hedonism. Some of them, to safe-guard their social status (like The Hindu) have kept the religion/community at stake.

Thanks to the state sponsored Anti-Brahmanical/Anti-Hindu hatred and negative stereotypes propagated about Brahmins by leftist/communist/atheist/cruel haters/christian missionaries/islamicfundamentalists/Materialist/hedonists/Buddhists/opportunist western educated brahmins - - -forces ; acting as a powerful unifying force among all brahmin communities by CRUSHING THEIR EGO.

With Respect and Regards,
A Brahmin by Birth yet striving to become a True Brahmin by Virtues


Yes, you are right. But we have come too far. It is only a day dream; because night dreams some times might come true. The bane of our community is that we would like to compete not with other communities, but with our own brothers and sisters and each one of us will cut our own nose to spite their faces!?
 
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Shri Iyyarooranji,

Excellent Thought. Absolutely agree with you. One of the main causes for the downfall of the Brahmins is lack of unity; a brahmin neither respects nor trusts other brahmin. Petty knowledge and religious privileges have made some of them Ego-maniacs; who ill-treated illiterates like worms. Now the entire Brahmin Community is bearing the brunt. "Every Cause has its Effect." - Gautama Buddha/Adi Shankaracharya.

lured by name/fame/wealth many Brahmins have left the feet of God; taken up animalism, propagating hedonism. Some of them, to safe-guard their social status (like The Hindu) have kept the religion/community at stake.

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With Respect and Regards,
A Brahmin by Birth yet striving to become a True Brahmin by Virtues

student, can you please explain what you understand as 'lured by name/fame/wealth many Brahmins have left the feet of God; taken up animalism, propagating hedonism.' also how you intend to avoid such pitfalls, in your quest to become a true Brahmin (& what this means).
 
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