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Can some one let me know valid reason for not conducting Tamil Brahmin marriage in Margazhi month.

 

[renuka]

Why Marriages are not held in Margazhi month or Tamil Margali Masam?

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Why Marriages are not held in Margazhi month or Tamil Margali Masam?

Hindu Blog is a 15-year-old Spiritual and Devotional Daily Magazine Dedicated to Hindus Hinduism and Truth about Hindu Religion.

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Is there a scientific reason?

 

[renuka]

Is there a scientific reason?

In the Gita, Shree Krishna says that among the months I am Margasirsha.

Most probably the month is conducive for spiritual activities.

Its usually around November -December( which is late autumn..autumn ends on winter solstice.
The meaning of
Margasirsha ..Marga( path), sirsha( top most, vertex).

If we observe the nature of autumn, the trees start to shed their leaves, then in the Northern Hemisphere animals sense winter is approaching..the prepare to store food and some go into hibernation.

It looks as if nature gets ready to sing a silent tune of non attachment in preparation to go into a state of Samadhi, to shed all the leaves of desire and prepare for a state of being dormant which seems bare to the world but full of potential to re-emerge in Spring.

Going by this it does seem the human too should sense that nature wants us to slow down in this month and experience the samadhi like state hence we focus on spirituality in this month.

What I wrote is my personal observation.
I have stopped looking at books for answers because sometimes knowledge is out in the open, we could sense it by being in tune in nature.
Science is actually an experience but sadly we mostly know it as intellectualization.

 

[prasad1]

In the Gita, Shree Krishna says that among the months I am Margasirsha.

Most probably the month is conducive for spiritual activities.

Its usually around November -December( which is late autumn..autumn ends on winter solstice.
The meaning of
Margasirsha ..Marga( path), sirsha( top most, vertex).

If we observe the nature of autumn, the trees start to shed their leaves, then in the Northern Hemisphere animals sense winter is approaching..the prepare to store food and some go into hibernation.

It looks as if nature gets ready to sing a silent tune of non attachment in preparation to go into a state of Samadhi, to shed all the leaves of desire and prepare for a state of being dormant which seems bare to the world but full of potential to re-emerge in Spring.

Going by this it does seem the human too should sense that nature wants us to slow down in this month and experience the samadhi like state hence we focus on spirituality in this month.

What I wrote is my personal observation.
I have stopped looking at books for answers because sometimes knowledge is out in the open, we could sense it by being in tune in nature.
Science is actually an experience but sadly we mostly know it as intellectualization.

It is plausible. But not entirely true.
If it was true it should valid all over the universe. People marry in that month all over the world, so there is no basis for that. In Tamil Nadu, the winter is non-existent, or very mild so again that postulation has no basis.
Marriage is (I suppose) auspicious so why can it be not performed in Margai month. Krishna in Geeta said Margai is auspicious, he did not say you cannot marry in that month. So the reference to Krishna in this context is red herring (misleading).

In the west
Peak wedding season (aka the most popular time of year to get married) varies slightly from year to year, but typically, summer and early fall are the most popular times to get married. According to our 2021 Real Weddings Study, 80% of all weddings took place between May to October. To be specific, the most popular wedding months are June (13%), August (13%) and October (22%).

It's no surprise that fall weddings were the most popular among couples getting married. According to our data, 40% of all couples exchanged vows during pumpkin spice season. The cooler months offer temperate weather (not too hot and not too cold), pretty fall foliage and fun food and cocktail opportunities. According to our data, the most popular month to get married was October, as 22% of all couples exchanged vows then. Early fall continued to be popular among couples, as 11% of them also got married in September.

https://www.theknot.com/content/is-there-an-off-season-for-weddings#:~:text=When%20is%20wedding%20season%3F,-NICOLE%20BALSAMO%20PHOTOGRAPHY&text=Peak%20wedding%20season%20(aka%20the,place%20between%20May%20to%20October.

For promoting the longevity of marriage and make it more hassle-free, it was traditionally believed that every auspicious occasion should take place on a certain date and at a certain time. However, the variations in beliefs are different in different places throughout India across regions and religions.

Also, on a wider perspective- love has no season.

If you are getting married to the right person, the one you love, every season and every month of the year can be auspicious.
Wedding season in India. India’s wedding season peaks from late October to early December each year as couples choose to wed in these auspicious months. The Indian wedding traditionally starts with a procession which sees the groom riding or drawn by a carriage with a white horse, escorted by close family and friends,
Although there are variations in beliefs among different regions of India, the popular months for wedding season according to most Hindu beliefs are October to December, mid-April to May. The rainy seasons are not favorable for weddings. However, the dates and months vary from region to region.

 

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[renuka]

It is plausible. But not entirely true.
If it was true it should valid all over the universe. People marry in that month all over the world, so there is no basis for that. In Tamil Nadu, the winter is non-existent, or very mild so again that postulation has no basis.
Marriage is (I suppose) auspicious so why can it be not performed in Margai month. Krishna in Geeta said Margai is auspicious, he did not say you cannot marry in that month. So the reference to Krishna in this context is red herring (misleading).

In the west
Peak wedding season (aka the most popular time of year to get married) varies slightly from year to year, but typically, summer and early fall are the most popular times to get married. According to our 2021 Real Weddings Study, 80% of all weddings took place between May to October. To be specific, the most popular wedding months are June (13%), August (13%) and October (22%).

It's no surprise that fall weddings were the most popular among couples getting married. According to our data, 40% of all couples exchanged vows during pumpkin spice season. The cooler months offer temperate weather (not too hot and not too cold), pretty fall foliage and fun food and cocktail opportunities. According to our data, the most popular month to get married was October, as 22% of all couples exchanged vows then. Early fall continued to be popular among couples, as 11% of them also got married in September.

https://www.theknot.com/content/is-there-an-off-season-for-weddings#:~:text=When%20is%20wedding%20season%3F,-NICOLE%20BALSAMO%20PHOTOGRAPHY&text=Peak%20wedding%20season%20(aka%20the,place%20between%20May%20to%20October.

For promoting the longevity of marriage and make it more hassle-free, it was traditionally believed that every auspicious occasion should take place on a certain date and at a certain time. However, the variations in beliefs are different in different places throughout India across regions and religions.

Also, on a wider perspective- love has no season.

If you are getting married to the right person, the one you love, every season and every month of the year can be auspicious.
Wedding season in India. India’s wedding season peaks from late October to early December each year as couples choose to wed in these auspicious months. The Indian wedding traditionally starts with a procession which sees the groom riding or drawn by a carriage with a white horse, escorted by close family and friends,
Although there are variations in beliefs among different regions of India, the popular months for wedding season according to most Hindu beliefs are October to December, mid-April to May. The rainy seasons are not favorable for weddings. However, the dates and months vary from region to region.

Fair enough...but I dont really have the map of ancient India when the world was a big mass of land and how high was it up in the Northern Hemisphere..so no idea what was the temperature back then and how significant Autumn was.

Ancient people lived aligned with nature and autumn is a season where one has to store food, ferment food to pull through winter when the land was not fertile till spring.

So would people want to actually get married and over indulge in the 'as it is lesser grains and food' available instead of saving it for winter?

So we might not know what were the exact reasons since the mechanics behind any practice isnt passed down and usually only the tradition is inherited and since it was divorced from the explanation of the underlying reason ,certain practices began to be termed as superstition.

But there is one thing we can all agree upon.
To sum it up both you and I are not sure why marriages are not conducted in Margasirsha.
We might not know what affects who.
So best is we dont discourage anyone trying to follow it.


Coming to the Southern Hemisphere countries..autumn is surely not Margasirsha.
Since seasons differ, the rules could differ.

Shree Krishna was introducing spirituality in the Gita through various modes of Yoga.
Hence we didnt find marriage mentioned.

 

[prasad1]

Nowadays destination weddings and wedding season in any part of the world do not make sense.
If you have money and do not mind spending it, you can find a venue and a sastrigal to conduct it any time of day or year.

We had a Tamil wedding on a Sunday at 4:00 PM muhurtam, and the sastrigal had an explanation for it.

What was inconvenient 50 years ago is not inconvenient anymore.

We were in India in March well before the Mango season. But Amazon was able to deliver Alphanso, Biganpalli, and other types of mango well before the season.



So if you have the resources you can fix the marriage anywhere and anytime. Secondly, if you pay for your guests they will not complain about inauspiciousness. The rest of the society does not matter.

As the cost of LED lights and other technology drops, more produce will be grown indoors.


It's a chilly, wet October day in Langley, B.C., and Colin Chapdelaine, president of B.C. Hothouse Foods, is standing in a warm field of cucumbers. He's surrounded by the plants — and a complex system of LED lights, irrigation, walls and a roof.




According to Chapdelaine, the cucumbers are ready to pick just 18 days after small plants are put into their substrate-filled containers in the facility. A day later, the cucumbers will be in stores.




The best part? They can be grown all year.
So seasons be dammed, we create our own environment.

 

[prasad1]

The reason for not conducting marriages during Margazhi (not strictly followed by all Hindu communities) is bit philosophical - the reason is that the month is the dawn period for Devas and people do not want to engage in any other auspicious activities other than worship of Gods. They want to stay away at least in this month from worldly affairs and concentrate only on worship and religious activities like chanting of Thiruppavai.

The Sabarimala Mandala Vratham for going to Sabarimala temple also ends in this month. It is also one reason why for not conducting auspicious functions.

Why Marriages are not held in Margazhi month or Tamil Margali Masam?

Hindu Blog is a 15-year-old Spiritual and Devotional Daily Magazine Dedicated to Hindus Hinduism and Truth about Hindu Religion.

www.hindu-blog.com