My wife doesn't want to wear Madisar for any ceremonies

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I am having constant conflicts with my wife regarding some traditions.

My wife who is a madhwa and I am an iyengar. It is custom to wear 9-yards during rituals. We were having a discussion about on the occasions she might have to do so. She was soo against it wearing it and we broke out into a long argument.

She is ok with participating in any ritual in the future and has nothing against rituals itself but just hates wearing 9-yards.

Does the ritual loose meaning without 9-yards? I caught between her and my parents. Any attempts convince her makes her think we are stripping away her freedom of choosing what to wear.

Have any of you guys faced this?

 

[prasad1]

The ritual does not lose its spiritual meaning because of a garment, but it may lose its traditional completeness in the eyes of elders or orthodox practitioners. Most modern guidance suggests that harmony in the family is more sacred than the specific yardage of a saree.

 

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I am having constant conflicts with my wife regarding some traditions.

My wife who is a madhwa and I am an iyengar. It is custom to wear 9-yards during rituals. We were having a discussion about on the occasions she might have to do so. She was soo against it wearing it and we broke out into a long argument.

She is ok with participating in any ritual in the future and has nothing against rituals itself but just hates wearing 9-yards.

Does the ritual loose meaning without 9-yards? I caught between her and my parents. Any attempts convince her makes her think we are stripping away her freedom of choosing what to wear.

Have any of you guys faced this?

hi

if any problem in wearing 9 yards...now even ready made madisar available...you can try....or if she feel

comfort in normal sarees....we should not force much....its my words..

 

[prasad1]

I am having constant conflicts with my wife regarding some traditions.

My wife who is a madhwa and I am an iyengar. It is custom to wear 9-yards during rituals. We were having a discussion about on the occasions she might have to do so. She was soo against it wearing it and we broke out into a long argument.

She is ok with participating in any ritual in the future and has nothing against rituals itself but just hates wearing 9-yards.

Does the ritual loose meaning without 9-yards? I caught between her and my parents. Any attempts convince her makes her think we are stripping away her freedom of choosing what to wear.

Have any of you guys faced this?

All customs are Manmade. Nothing is sacrosanct. One must respect the wishes of the spouse. If you can't convince her of your wishes, please accept her wishes, and OWN it.

 

[renuka]

I am having constant conflicts with my wife regarding some traditions.

My wife who is a madhwa and I am an iyengar. It is custom to wear 9-yards during rituals. We were having a discussion about on the occasions she might have to do so. She was soo against it wearing it and we broke out into a long argument.

She is ok with participating in any ritual in the future and has nothing against rituals itself but just hates wearing 9-yards.

Does the ritual loose meaning without 9-yards? I caught between her and my parents. Any attempts convince her makes her think we are stripping away her freedom of choosing what to wear.

Have any of you guys faced this?

I dont have knowledge on rituals..but if your relationship with your wife is good otherwise, then just let her decide what she wants to wear.

Dont spoil a good relationship on this.
Our body itself is a garment we change from live to live..so its better to value a good spouse.

Let her explain to your parents her reasons.