Iyer-Iyengar Marriage

[rukmini_mami]

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Namaskarams to all.

We are an Iyer family settled abroad for 2 generations. I am currently the eldest sumangali of my pukkaam.
My daughter expressed interest to us to marry her Iyengar friend.
I have dilemma about this.
If we approve for this union, is it right to invite her after her marriage, to our family's annual sumangali prarthana where I will be the kartha?

The gothram has to be different (which it is) and the married daughter of the house should be invited post marriage... but i have never witnessed Iyengars being invited to Iyer sumangali Poojai and vice versa...

Please advice. Also welcome opinions about any other rituals (especially pithru karma related) where such a union might not be favourable.

 

[Balumeena]

Maami days are changing. Is it not better than intercaste marriage.

 

[praveen]

Don't complicate life. Will you stop loving your daughter because she married an Iyengar boy?

The current generation are not bothered about all this. Only a very small percentage do but beyond that the world has moved on.

World has changed and is changing.

Stop worrying too much. As Balumeena said it is better than an intercaste marriage.

 

[sravna]

Madam,

What naturally attracts forms the best complement. But as always one has to be careful it is not a lure but genuine attraction.

 

[sravna]

Madam,

What naturally attracts forms the best complement. But as always one has to be careful it is not a lure but genuine attraction.

 

[prasad1]

Here is good post in this regard.

Iyer-Iyengar marriage ceremonies

I am just curious, are there any significant differences between Iyer and Iyengar wedding ceremonies? I know Iyer marriage ceremonies can last upto 3 days if all traditions are followed. In case an Iyer man marries an Iyengar woman, which side's priests will officiate at the ceremony, and which...

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