My wife's maternal aunt passed away 4 days back. Her aunt and uncle had conducted our marriage since her father was not alive. Can Golu be kept this year. We also keep kalasam for Golu. The 13th day ends on the 7th day of Navratri. So should Golu be kept after that day. Also can we invite ladies for the Vethalai Pakku during the 10 days Or should it be done after 13th day is over.