Generally , before any auspicious occasion in the family , like marriages , poonals etc,
there is a culture of the womenfolk in the family to gather and conduct the mangali pondugal , which is to seek the blessings of all the sumangali predecessors to make this function a success and keep the women sumangali's.
In our custom , the women always want to reach their ends as sumangali's - Their contract will be over then !
But I remember my grandpa complaining , she left me without even teaching me to make coffee ! Oh How many grandpa's in our community feel deserted this way , thanks to the blessings of the sumangali's !!
They cannot , at this stage find comfort by the service of their daughter-in-laws, grandchildren as they miss the spoon feeding that their spouses provided !
That's my take on Pondugal - right or wrong ???