maybe 80 days total, 40 days contiguously, twice a year, without sex is too much for some girls. better be honest upfront. i guess... if these are really true ayyappamaars.
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maybe 80 days total, 40 days contiguously, twice a year, without sex is too much for some girls. better be honest upfront. i guess... if these are really true ayyappamaars.
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women pronounces as "we men " lol 
I actually have a perfectly sane explanation of women domination. I have noticed that TamBrahm women often have quite strong personalities. And so of course they will repel masculine domination which may be construed by traditional males as a kind of reverse domination.
Well-developed personalities are usually caused by a high degree of education, so blame education, I say!
Well-developed personalities are usually caused by a high degree of education, so blame education, I say!
Ok if a high degree of education causes well deveoped personality, then surely our TamBrahm men who have been in as high a degree of education for wayyyy longer than our womenfolk should be having an even more well developed personality and wayy stronger personalities right? following your logic
Is that a reason to reject a prospective good match.. if she does not understand mythology, her could have made her aware of the story, it is not about the birth of Lord Iyappa, it is basically he came to destroy evil.. all mythological stories are based on good over evil.. in these modern days, it seems, children growing up outside India seem to have good grip on what they want out of life..
anyway, I thought it is silly of that particular girl to be so superficial.. sad
Exactly. Hence the personality clash. It is only recently that the women have started protesting or "fighting back".
Oh and another thing: I think there is a slight chance of the personality to "bleed through" from the father to the daughter.
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Any kind of domination is not to be blamed on education, it is certainly the personality of the individual makes one being in that position.. Education opens horizon and you look at the world, with whole new eyes.. I know Punjabi women to be quite dominating and some of them do not have college education.. there are so many Andhra women who are quite dominating and not necessarily highly educated..
It is not just a tamil brahmin lady who is dominating.. in fact, as far as I know there is more of male domination among tamil brahmins, It does not matter in which part of the world you are, too many things make someone dominate, it is upbringing and their own personality. so don't blame education.. that is the best which can happen to anyone.. Be educated and be informed..
By the way, what goes around comes around.. I guess you get my drift.
First of all, I hope you didn't think I was suggesting to turn the clock back on education. In fact to be explicitly clear I think Education is the strongest asset of anyone, man or woman. In this circumstance, I don't blame education, I credit education.
Ok now back to the topic: I don't think you can dominate somebody if you don't think you are their equal or superior. Let's take caste, region etc out of the equation because they are peripheral. Do you think if an IIT educated male marries an 8th std pass female from a village, she will have any chance of dominating him?
Why the thread starter asked this question now and why this lament was not common 50-100 years back? I think that is because women were shielded into interiors, were not allowed to educate themselves and usually could not earn money on their own. Again let me be clear: That was not a good thing. The men could do all that and used it to enhance their position in the household.
In this day and age, educational and money making opportunities are getting to be equal. That gives each partner equal chance to <STRIKE>dominate</STRIKE> cherish the other. That is how it should be.
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biswa, what is it that you mean with "That is how it should be"? For each partner to dominate the other at one time or another, with equal chance?
From whatever little I have read of your posts I am confident you don't mean that. I think what you mean is there is parity between the partners and therefore what really matters is the love between them, not the education or earning capacity that may result in one partner dominating the other even if unintentional.
Cheers!
Yes, that is what I meant. Thanks for putting it more eloquently.
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Amalaji,
It is so but today the youth in the marriage queue have to contend with a situation of short supply; demand far exceeds and so the commodity becomes more precious for those who get and also for those who haven't yet gotten! "dilli ka laddoo", once again, those who ate were very privileged and those who could not, lamented
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raji ,thanks.hope i can move on and be not depressed and lose my kool.wish i had a magic wand :dance:
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Amalaji,
It is so but today the youth in the marriage queue have to contend with a situation of short supply; demand far exceeds and so the commodity becomes more precious for those who get and also for those who haven't yet gotten! "dilli ka laddoo", once again, those who ate were very privileged and those who could not, lamented
amala and i thot you were telbrahm hee hee :dance:
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It is surprising! Which were the signs which led both of you to such a conclusion? As you know, at least now, I am a Kerala Pattar, though only Palghat (Kunjuppu) actually qualifies 100% for it, I suppose.
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There are many more, Sir, in this forum... Our (mam VR and me) ancestors were from Kerala. But our parents' families
were in Burma till the second world war! Even now people find out a touch of 'Kerala accent' when we speak, though
we are born in Tamil Nadu and brought up in Anaimalai village in Coimabore district. :couch2:
Was not born a pallakkad brahmin but was raised as one and also was married to one.. so I am in sync with the molagootal, poduthuval, erischeri, mambazha moorekootaan.. chakkai etc,
Whenever I came home, I used to make some north indian without the garlic.. my uncle would get so upset, even if we made it with just using onions.. that habit was so imbedded in me I never used onions in anything.. but now it is another story..
I have to say nothing like the pallakkad thamizh.. I love the chozhai and the lilt in the language.. my children can speak only that kind of thamizh..)
Whenever I came home, I used to make some north indian without the garlic.. my uncle would get so upset, even if we made it with just using onions.. that habit was so imbedded in me I never used onions in anything.. but now it is another story..
I have to say nothing like the pallakkad thamizh.. I love the chozhai and the lilt in the language.. my children can speak only that kind of thamizh..
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Now back to domination.
I just heard the most hilarious news article: Robot-To-Robot Chat Yields Curious Conversation : NPR
Click in to see how the Indian female robot Shruti totally dominates the English male robot Alan. Her tone of voice is quite aggressive too, you should really listen to the audio.
I just heard the most hilarious news article: Robot-To-Robot Chat Yields Curious Conversation : NPR
Click in to see how the Indian female robot Shruti totally dominates the English male robot Alan. Her tone of voice is quite aggressive too, you should really listen to the audio.
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so,tanjore or thanja - oor
is our common roots.though my guru at least deha guru is a pattar aka kerala brahmin (adi sankara acharya ).Thatamangalam= Thatha + Mangalam has my moms name in it plus our poorvigam.
That is what Oscar Wilde said….
“How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.”
“Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.”
“It takes a thoroughly good woman to do a thoroughly stupid thing”
I am sure women would call him Oscar Wild while men would perhaps call him Oscar Wise!
“How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.”
“Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.”
“It takes a thoroughly good woman to do a thoroughly stupid thing”
I am sure women would call him Oscar Wild while men would perhaps call him Oscar Wise!
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haridas,,
with all respects and utmost respects to oscar for his literary merits, i think, being a homosexual, the treatment of women, as far as oscar is concerned, would be more a figment of imagination, than experience?
as heterosexual men, i do not know, if ever you and i, can ever comment on the preferences or the characterestics of our gay genderfolks.
we can always say, that oscar has a good imagination, but still, being married for 31+ years, i can atleast vouch for the behaviour of one mrs K. i am sure that you feel sure of mrs HDS similarly too?
i afraid, that oscar was not able to vouch mrs OW, since in reality a mrs OW if she existed at all, would have been of the male gender, depending on the role play that Oscar had with his partners.
i am not sure, living in those times, whether oscar would have ever been able to express his gay love openly.
so,tanjore or thanja - oor
wow everyone is talking about ancestry here.I think I also should start a few words on my ancestry.
1)Homo Sapien
2)Paternal Lineage from Paramakudi,Ramanathapuram.
3)Maternal Lineage from Lahore(when it was still India)
4)Ancestors migrated to Malaysia and here I am.
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