why is that widows witha child are not considered for remarriage ? Is it not cruel?
i echo prasad's sentiments. you are pretty narrow minded to think that you will not marry a widow.
a while ago,there was a war widow here, from kargil war, with a 9 year old daughter. a tambram. i do not know if any of our patriotic boys ever offered to give that lady a second chance.
the sooner, i think, we get out the mindset, that men cannot be fathers to widows' children, the better it is.
since millenium, we have widower's with children, the day after the wife dies, running around looking for a new mother.
I feel that widow remarriage is advisable if there is no child. But if there is/are child/children from the first marriage, it will be advisable not to go in for a remarriage. This prevents many complications in the bringing up of the children from both [FONT=inherit !important][FONT=inherit !important]the [/FONT][FONT=inherit !important]marriages[/FONT][/FONT] and consequences in the children's mental make-up.
This also holds good for divorced girls and boys, I feel.
Dear Sri Kunjuppu,
I agree with your views on this subject and wish to add that the choice of widow remarriage should be left to the individual, her circumstances and compulsions. Loosening up of family hold, and economic independence have liberated women to think more diligently about her future in this regard.
Have you realized that most tamil movies that show widow remarriage invariably show a virgin widow(her husband dies on the 1st day of marriage itself before the 1st night)
Its an obsession with virginity I guess.
I was reading an article in the paper here yesterday where this old blind Non Indian lady has been married three times.
Her 1st husband left her when she lost her sight at the age of 27.
Then she remarried another blind person who died after a few years in an accident and then she married for the 3rd time to a sighted person and living very happily with him.
Even though she is blind she does all work herself without any help and can even climb up coconut trees at the age of 60 and go shopping to the market herself.
I was thinking wow great..she knows the value of life and made an attempt to find husbands.
I was just hoping some of our sighted Indian woman will try to be more like her.
When you suggest remarriage to any Indian woman here the 1st thing they shoot back is "what do you think of me? I dont need sex and a man.I come from a good family etc"
I dont know why people want to maintain so call good name of family when society gives two F's for anyone.
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