I would like to open a discussion regarding a trend I have observed regarding women from upper-caste backgrounds (specifically Iyer, Namboothiri, Ambalavasi, etc.) and how they navigate the modern liberal world.
There seems to be a disconnect between the traditional "pedestal" these women are placed on by society and the reality of their modern lifestyles. It often feels like the community grants them a high degree of social entitlement based on their background, yet this persists even when they adopt very liberal lifestyles (such as live-in relationships) that contradict those traditional values.
My argument is that this creates a difficult dynamic for men—particularly those who are atheists, neutral Hindus, or from outside the immediate community—who enter relationships with them. These men often find themselves in a loop where the woman’s emotions and "reality" are treated as absolute truth, leaving no room for rationalism or a second opinion. It feels as though the "traditional power" of their caste status is being leveraged even in a liberal setting.
This creates a massive, often invisible gap between these women and the general population. It can feel like a trap for men who don't understand these deep-seated entitlements, leading to relationships that feel unbalanced or even narcissistic. Has anyone else noticed this contradiction where traditional privilege is used to shield modern behavior?
There seems to be a disconnect between the traditional "pedestal" these women are placed on by society and the reality of their modern lifestyles. It often feels like the community grants them a high degree of social entitlement based on their background, yet this persists even when they adopt very liberal lifestyles (such as live-in relationships) that contradict those traditional values.
My argument is that this creates a difficult dynamic for men—particularly those who are atheists, neutral Hindus, or from outside the immediate community—who enter relationships with them. These men often find themselves in a loop where the woman’s emotions and "reality" are treated as absolute truth, leaving no room for rationalism or a second opinion. It feels as though the "traditional power" of their caste status is being leveraged even in a liberal setting.
This creates a massive, often invisible gap between these women and the general population. It can feel like a trap for men who don't understand these deep-seated entitlements, leading to relationships that feel unbalanced or even narcissistic. Has anyone else noticed this contradiction where traditional privilege is used to shield modern behavior?
