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The Healing Power of Kindness

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you know rajiramji

they would use expressions like 'neenga deivam madiri' and fall at your feet .

I have faced such embarrassment when I got someone - a male relative married of which was considered impossible as one girl had vanished after engagement leaving

him in a bad state. I found him a girl who was similarly placed and I thought it was justice if these rejects marry each other ,lol
 
I do not believe that doctors in USA are working that hard that they can not show kindness. On the contrary lot of hospitals encourage doctors to be kind. Kindness does not cost anything, on the other hand people do not sue doctors who are kind.
There are no more 48 hours shift for doctors. Even intern and residents can not be asked to work for more that 8 hours in USA.
 
, on the other hand people do not sue doctors who are kind.

Nope...I have seen the best of doctors who are like angels to their patients get sued when things go wrong.

When things go wrong..its a law suit..using kindness as the defense in court will be of no use.

That is why its always better to be "professionally kind" to patients and know where to draw the line.

One can smile and still be professional and appear "kind" in a professional way without resorting to the conventional definition of kindness.

After all there is no wicked doctor too...some smile less thats all.
 
madam , regards one can put up with and even enjoy.
But worship?


Dear Krish ji,

I had been in a situation once where I was "worshiped".

Once my father's friend who is a staunch Buddhist brought 3 Tibetian Buddhist Monks to my clinic.

One of them was a Rinponche.

Ok..I treated one of them for an eye infection(I did not charge him...I treated him for free)....after that the 3 Monks stood up and folded their handsin prayer position and bowed to me saying "You are a doctor..a doctor is like a Buddha and we bow to you"

I was feeling totally shocked and embarrassed becos I felt I didnt deserve to be equated with a Buddha and didnt feel happy to see monks bowing to me.

So I quickly fell at their feet becos I did not want to feel glorified.
 
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I do not believe that doctors in USA are working that hard that they can not show kindness. On the contrary lot of hospitals encourage doctors to be kind. .........
I had visited MGH in Boston for ten days when Ram was admitted there. I found only one lady doctor who talked kind words

and others were just business-like. But all the nurses - male or female - were extremely kind to us. The lady physiotherapist

talked the most encouraging and kind words during her house visits, later! :thumb:
 
It's another busy night at the Westminster Free Medical Clinic in Westlake Village, CA. A volunteer records a homeless patient's complicated medical history and takes his vital signs. As a nurse watches, the two talk about his illness and what has been bothering him lately, including his frustration over finding a job and an affordable apartment. The volunteer reassures the patient and reports to the doctor, who performs the exam and then discusses the differential diagnosis with the volunteer.

This scenario looks much like any other occurring daily in homeless shelters across the country. But a closer look reveals that the volunteers are mostly high school students, some as young as 14. Their mentor at the clinic, FP Steven D. Kamajian, takes the youngsters under his wing to teach them how to care for others—and takes extraordinary pains to show the patients kindness and compassion.

Nearly a decade ago, Kamajian began seeing underprivileged patients in a janitor's broom closet in Westminster Presbyterian Church, a member of the Conejo Valley Winter Shelter coalition. The coalition comprises 27 churches and synagogues in Ventura County, near Los Angeles.

A short time later, he founded a free clinic at the church on Wednesday nights. "I went to the pharmaceutical representatives and doctors in the area and asked them to donate medical supplies," he says. "Then I bought empty plastic vials and dispensed medicine to sick patients. If the patient was pregnant and needed to see a gynecologist, I made an appointment and paid for it. It's better to take care of these problems before they become catastrophic."

Says Cindy Vinson, the clinic's manager: "He believes it's his responsibility to provide medical care to those who can't afford it. He's calm and reassuring with patients, and he takes the time to explain their conditions and the treatments. They write him thank-you letters, and on rare occasions when he's not here, I sometimes see patients come close to tears because they want to see him."

Three years after the clinic started, a volunteer's teenage daughter asked to help. "From there it cascaded," says Kamajian. "Students from virtually every high school in the area began to volunteer."
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The clinic has 12 adult and 36 student volunteers, as well as two doctors, a nurse practitioner, and three RNs. Paramedics, respiratory techs, and clinical lab scientists help out as well. "The model is so simple," Kamajian says. "I'm hoping to be able to present it to other communities."


Kamajian finds time for the free clinic despite running his own busy solo practice, in which he doesn't share call. "My wife and two daughters are wonderfully supportive."


This year, some of the Westminster Free Medical Clinic's first student alumni volunteers began medical school. With the lessons they've learned from Kamajian, they'll be fully aware of their responsibility to others, right from the start.Doctors Who Go the Extra Mile: Teaching kids about medicine--and kindness | Medical Economics

This is not an uncommon case.

When I say kindness, I mean professional Kindness.
 
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Rx For Doctors Better Bedside Manner Eases Malpractice Suits
FEBRUARY 15, 2008 BY JERRY I. MEYERS
Communicate or litigate.


That’s the overwhelming advice from lawyers, judges and insurance companies to physicians who want to avoid being sued for medical malpractice.


The willingness of physicians to take the time to talk to their patients in easy-to-understand language will help keep them out of the courtroom, according to more than 30 attorneys, judges and health care professionals interviewed.
https://www.meyersmedmal.com/rx-for-doctors-better-bedside-manner-eases-malpractice-suits/

Kindness can bring a sense of richness and fulfilment to our lives, and as a bonus, promote good health and longevity. Paul Pearsall, a Ph.D. in psychology living in Hawaii, writes in his book The Pleasure Prescription (Hunter House, 1996) "Modern research shows one of the most pleasurable of all human acts is also one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself and for others. Gentle, caring selflessness results in significant health benefits."


Kindness and Health
 
In thinking about kindness and why it feels so good, I visited the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation website and discovered that numerous scientific studies show that acts of kindness result in significant health benefits, both physical and mental. In the book The Healing Power of Doing Good: The Health and Spiritual Benefits of Helping Others, Allan Luks talks about these benefits of helping other.


• A rush of euphoria, followed by a longer period of calm, after performing a kind act is often referred to as a “helper’s high,” involving physical sensations and the release of the body’s natural painkillers, the endorphins. This initial rush is then followed by a longer-lasting period of improved emotional well-being.


• Stress-related health problems improve after performing kind acts. Helping reverses feelings of depression, supplies social contact, and decreases feelings of hostility and isolation that can cause stress, overeating, ulcers, etc. A drop in stress may, for some people, decrease the constriction within the lungs that leads to asthma attacks.


• Helping can enhance our feelings of joyfulness, emotional resilience, and vigor, and can reduce the unhealthy sense of isolation.


• A decrease in both the intensity and the awareness of physical pain can occur.


• The incidence of attitudes, such as chronic hostility, that negatively arouse and damage the body is reduced.


• The health benefits and sense of well-being return for hours or even days whenever the helping act is remembered.


• An increased sense of self-worth, greater happiness, and optimism, as well as a decrease in feelings of helplessness and depression, is achieved.


• Once we establish an “affiliative connection” with someone–a relationship of friendship, love, or some sort of positive bonding–we feel emotions that can strengthen the immune system.


• The practice of caring for strangers translates to immense immune and healing benefits.


• Adopting an altruistic lifestyle is a critical component of mental health.
Health Benefits of Kindness | Care2 Healthy Living
 
All this posts have given me an idea..since many feel kindness helps...we should come up with some hypnotic music in hospitals for patients.Some study needs to be done to know the chords/raga that stimulate and release the feel good hormones in the body.

Let them hear it thru ear phones and get hypnotized into a state of happiness almost like a drug induced "trance" state and programme their mind to imagine they are happy.

This saves a lot of time and human effort...so that medical professionals can concentrate on their work instead of playing Saints!LOL

The rooms for patients can also be equipped with some visual/olfactory effects to enhance the "hypnotic" state.

After all Mass Hypnosis is employed a Religious Brainwashing these days..so same principles can be applied.

I need to ask RR ji which Ragas will induce endorphin release for hypnosis to work the best!
 
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I know Krish Sir that you like to be a 'God father'! :angel:
LOL. How did you find out?

Sometimes when I throw a stone , ripe mangoes fall . These are chance events.

In this case both parties were devastated and did not know how to come out of it.

My chance initiative resulted in marriage.

I had a similar experience when I was looking for a flat for rent , the house owner thought , I had come for an alliance for his son.

I got one of our girls married to the son and forgot about the house for rent.lol

mostly chance events end up yielding unintended results.
 
Kindness is for the do gooders of this world .

We do good not by design but as a random act sometimes

When it yields good results ,we are overjoyed.

when a do gooder comes near me , takes interest in my so called plight , I cringe that I have to be at the receiving end of someones kindness.

I remember however one stranger from a neighbouring state who picked me up bodily after a nasty accident and loaded me into his big car and took me to a trauma centre

4 km away and admitted me for treatment. I do not even know his name
 
Three decades ago hypnotism was quite popular with advertisements for cure and public performances on mysteries of hypnosis. I saw one programme when about 30 volunteers from the audience were selected, hypnotised and made to do acts on stage which they normally would not have done - like laughing, having stomach pain, sleep walking and limping, or imitating a popular personality. There is practically no news on hypnosis now.

All this posts have given me an idea..since many feel kindness helps...we should come up with some hypnotic music in hospitals for patients.Some study needs to be done to know the chords/raga that stimulate and release the feel good hormones in the body.

Let them hear it thru ear phones and get hypnotized into a state of happiness almost like a drug induced "trance" state and programme their mind to imagine they are happy.

This saves a lot of time and human effort...so that medical professionals can concentrate on their work instead of playing Saints!LOL

The rooms for patients can also be equipped with some visual/olfactory effects to enhance the "hypnotic" state.

After all Mass Hypnosis is employed a Religious Brainwashing these days..so same principles can be applied.

I need to ask RR ji which Ragas will induce endorphin release for hypnosis to work the best!
 
How?? By your posts! :ranger:

Some of us use this forum for bragging, right Sir Ji? :blabla:
Bragging is putting it mildly

We oldies brag and boast.

Pardon us young lady

Thats the least we can do lest some think we are useless fellows which we are .lol

Many of us live in the past when future does not appear rosy.

So why not live on past glory .

Not a bad idea really .

It is far better than whining and weeping about fate ,bad stars, karmas and parihara.
 
Just for you Renekaji,

Few people over the age of 10 would list “Happy Birthday” among their favorite songs. But Harvey Alter, now 62, has a special fondness for it. It helped teach him how to talk. One morning in June 2003, Alter, then a self-employed criminologist, was putting a leash on his dog, Sam, in preparation for a walk when suddenly he felt dizzy and disoriented. “My thoughts were intertwined, not making sense,” he said in a recent interview. “I knew I was having a stroke.”

At St. Vincent’s Hospital, doctors diagnosed an ischemic stroke, caused by a blockage in blood flow to part of the left half of his brain. As a result, the right side of his body was temporarily paralyzed, the right side of his face drooped and he had trouble coming up with the right words and stringing them into sentences – a condition called aphasia.

Within hours of his stroke, Alter met with Loni Burke, a speech therapist. At first he was completely nonverbal; within a few days he could say small words. “Mostly, he said, ‘No,’ ” Burke recalled, “because he was frustrated that he couldn’t speak.” After two years of painstaking therapy, Alter’s paralysis had mostly disappeared and his smile was back to normal. But while he could communicate through small words and the help of a chalkboard, complex verbal communication remained elusive.


Using standard speech therapy techniques like reviewing lists of numbers and the days of the week, Burke helped her patient piece together short phrases. But they came slowly and sounded robotic. Then one day, she asked him to sing. “How can I ever sing? I can’t talk,” Alter recalled thinking. But as soon as Burke began to sing “Happy Birthday,” he chimed in. “It sounded good,” he said. “Almost like I didn’t have anything wrong.”


The technique, called melodic intonation therapy, was developed in 1973 by Dr. Martin Albert and colleagues at the Boston Veterans Affairs Hospital. The aim was to help patients with damage to Broca’s area – the speaking center of the brain, located in its left hemisphere. These patients still had relatively healthy right hemispheres. And while the left hemisphere is largely responsible for speaking, the right hemisphere is used in understanding language, as well as processing melodies and rhythms. “You ask yourself, ‘What specifically engages the right hemisphere?’ ” said Dr. Gottfried Schlaug, a neurologist at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston who studies music’s effect on the brain.


Melodic intonation therapy seems to engage the right hemisphere by asking patients to tap out rhythms and repeat simple melodies. Therapists first work with patients to create sing-song sentences that can be set to familiar tunes, then work on removing the melody to leave behind a more normal speaking pattern. But relatively little research has been done to understand how this type of therapy affects the brain of a stroke patient.
Music Therapy Helps Stroke Patients Recover - Health News - redOrbit

It would not help as I am tone deaf, LOL.
 
What is Music Therapy?
Music Therapy is the clinical and evidence-based use of music interventions to accomplish individualized goals within a therapeutic relationship by a credentialed professional who has completed an approved music therapy program.


Music Therapy is an established health profession in which music is used within a therapeutic relationship to address physical, emotional, cognitive, and social needs of individuals. After assessing the strengths and needs of each client, the qualified music therapist provides the indicated treatment including creating, singing, moving to, and/or listening to music. Through musical involvement in the therapeutic context, clients' abilities are strengthened and transferred to other areas of their lives. Music therapy also provides avenues for communication that can be helpful to those who find it difficult to express themselves in words. Research in music therapy supports its effectiveness in many areas such as: overall physical rehabilitation and facilitating movement, increasing people's motivation to become engaged in their treatment, providing emotional support for clients and their families, and providing an outlet for expression of feelings.
What is Music Therapy | What is Music Therapy? | American Music Therapy Association (AMTA)
 
A survey published this weekend showed 90% of surgeons in the UK put music on the theatre's sound system during operations, with half of respondents favouring up-tempo rock, 17% pop music and 11% classical. Plastic surgeons play the most music, it appears; ear, nose and throat specialists the least. Most said music contributed to creating a "harmonious and calm atmosphere"; a third, slightly alarmingly, added that it helped stop them getting bored.


Can music really have this effect? As Rahul Parikh, a San Francisco doctor, points out in a recent column on the subject for Salon.com, the links between music and medicine are many and ancient. The Greek god of healing, Apollo, was often portrayed with a lyre. Many distinguished doctors have also been accomplished musicians. In The Emperor of All Maladies, his remarkable book on cancer, Siddhartha Mukherjee explains that music and medicine often "go hand in hand. Both push manual skill to the limit; both mature with practice; both depend on immediacy, precision and opposable thumbs."
Music for surgery | Life and style | The Guardian
 
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