Close to some twenty years back marriage used to be considered as union of two souls. Both the couple used to have love, affection, and mutual respect towards each other. Ego and individuality were almost absent in those days relation-ships. Some rare occasional arguments if occurred were used to get settled between the two souls naturally. Families used to be little larger and elders used to have a little part to play in case some misunderstanding used to exist between the couples. Now a days life has become extremely fast, families have shrink-ed to nuclear ones Individuality of both the persons have superseded every other aspects. Both are earning, have their own opinion and wants to win their own arguments, lack of acceptance to others views, lack of willingness to compromise have become today's life trends. come what may no body is ready to compromise on their individuality. That seems to be the main reason behind growing number of divorces. Mediation or a friendly advise in time could save lot of such marriages. Now wonder, people have turned up to live-in relationships which gives the convenience of leave at will without any bondage. God save us!!
There is a lot of generalization here. To an extent there is naivety in that post.
There has always been and there always will be some difficult marriages.
In Ancient times:
Take the case of Sita's marriage. It was divorce (for all practical purpose).
The Arthashastra contains
rules for divorce so it shows that divorce was indeed known in ancient India. More telling though indirect information comes through references in mythology.
The best example is the celebrated romance of
Nala and Damyanti.
In the per-independence days:
Women did not have the financial freedom, the courts, and the society was Man-dominated, and women had to accept that, even if the marriage was unhappy. I personally know of marriages that did not work but the couple stayed together.
Now in the new constitution women have the rights, secondly they are educated and independent.
The society has changed and women do not have to suffer in silence. Women can and does find work outside the home. So she is not forced to be a homemaker alone (cook, cleaner, and pregnant), unless she chooses to do so. The freedom to be independent has been won with lot of tears (not just in India).
Secondly with the people being mobile and not forced to live in joint family has made the society is composed of mostly nuclear family. This has brought all the friction into the marriage. Also with the modern ways people have money and do not have to accept poverty.
There is no glory in accepting that a marriage has failed. It is a FAILURE for both parties.
The entire process of divorce that starts from coping up with emotional ups and downs to contesting for the long awaited divorce decree for several months is definitely a tough affair to get through. A divorce procedure in India extents for almost a year and in some special cases of disputes the procedure may continue for years.
With the advancement of time and social awareness, several acts have been passed by the government to make the present day divorce procedure in India more progressive with respect to gender affairs and related sensitive issues. The Muslim Women Act 1986 was passed to protect the rights of Muslim women on divorce. For inter caste and inter- religion marriages the divorce laws are approved under The Special Marriage Act, 1956.
A contested divorce is filed on the grounds that are mentioned in the acts passed out separately for different Indian religions.
For a mutual divorce procedure in India, you can come to an agreement with your spouse where you may resolve all kinds of disputes regarding maintenance, custody of children and such.
Under Section 13B of the Hindu Marriage Act, a husband and wife can file a mutual divorce only when they have lived apart for at least a year. The couple must jointly mention about their inability to continue the marital relationship due to some unavoidable circumstances. Both the sides must voluntarily agree to dissolve the marriage.
The filing of a mutual divorce by both the husband and the wife is termed as 'the first motion'. A couple can file for a second motion after a gap of six months. The six months time span is provided to the couple so that they get the time to reconsider their marriage.
So divorce is not a trivial matter even for the young and wealthy.
So before we dismiss the divorced person, a little sympathy would be appropriate, after all they have failed publicly.
