ram,
all my relatives there in s'pore, echo your sentiments. no regrets.
the military service, the feel, is good. it builds some stamina, self discipline in the boys, and helps them to be on their own, and how to live away from mummy's thayir saadham. also, the weekends, you can come home.
job opportunities are plenty. there is not much political freedom, but much like in india, our community appreciates good governance, over freedom of speech. atleast i think so.
there is only limited seats in the two universities there, and there is the quota system for indians. all my relatives send their children to uk or usa or australia for undergraduate education. apparently they make enough money to afford this. on return, the kids have found jobs without any effort.
re marriage: most still marry through the arranged marriage way. that is one reason why tambrams love this place, i guess. though there are instances of marrying chinese or malay, but only under hindu rules.
all of them have maids. that appears to be a sign that you have 'arrived'. one had a palghat iyer maid. the others are filipino or indonesian, but these maids soon learn to cook sambhar and rasam.
yes, a large number of westerns are moving to s'pore, and like everywhere, they get 'preference'.
i have relatives from india, both on scholarships and those paying full fees, in NUS. they have only good things to say about the quality of education and accommodation, though on the food front, they find it a bit wanting. the proximity to chennai is a big ++.
i had relatives living in KL. on expat terms. they loved it there as they lived like maharajas, in exclusive gated communities. i do not know how it is for the indian, taking a job and living in malaysia. i heard that life is on a slower pace there than s'pore.
the above adulations, does not mean that i approve of s'pore. i am just saying what i see. it is upto the individual to decide whether s'pore is good for them. i know a few s'pore chinese here in toronto, who hate the place and could not wait to get out.