The first thing a real Barman is suppose to do give education to a poor deserving child. When you do this without expecting anything in return, your duty to the society is done. Secondly, when you get up just start with a silent prayer to Maha Ganapathi and Krishna – both are supposed to be the incarnation of OM. Next recall all your departed ancestors and teachers, friends and every one that have touched your life in one way or other. That gives you the gratitude. This also will tell you if you had a relation with lots of people or you are only selfish. I count about 50 every day for a very long time and offer them my sincere gratitude. We don’t know if it will reach the Atman of those departed, but we do that during Tharpana on Amavasya etc. The point is not if it reaches them, it is you are grateful to them makes you feel part of your clan and the society. Third, every day you help some one you randomly meet and without expecting thanks. It could a simple act like make an older person cross a road, carry their small bag, help them load or unload things, get things for them from shops with their money – any simple act of random kindness is fine. If you remember your first three threads in your thread ceremony, one is to take a vow for education, one to pay homage to your teacher and one to discharge your duties to society.
The threads (Poonul) are for constant reminder and not for the safe keeping of a key as it is done now. Take your coffee etc., attend nature’s call, take a shower for external cleanliness when possible . Light a lamp – to suggest that your internal darkness be gone in small step – Tamasoma jothirga - maya let the darkness be removed and brightness prevail with closed eyes for two or three minutes. This will calm you down and will strength to face your day without fear and with self confidence. But you must believe in it.
Allow children to have fun, treat your spouse with respect and politely suggest things rather than harshly criticize her. You want harmony and not dominance. Help her as much as possible. Then she will make your night a pleasant one. Avoid free loaders and those who praise you. They are poison. If you have one or two real friends you are lucky. Most are free loaders and avoid them and reduce your mental problems.
In the night just before you sleep and when you lie down, close your eyes and recall all those you had thanked in the morning again silently and ask God to show you the right part.
I assume you are not corrupt in anyway.
This is how I live and extremely happy and have almost no complaint. I do not tell the problems, I give solutions which may be modified according to situation. This is the gist of Hinduism as I understand. Going to temple, wearing religious symbols on body signal insecurity. I also do not expect to agree with me and leave it at it. Arguments create only tension and nothing is achieved.