I am 71 years old and hearing impaired. 50% of hearing is lost in both ears. I lost my father in 2004 and mother in 2007 and have been performing sraddhams diligently. I tell the Vadhyar of my difficulty in hearing and request him to tell the manthrams slowly so that I can repeat it correctly. But I find that all the Purohits/Pandits go in their metered recital and I either skip or mispronounce the manthrams. This has been agitating my mind and I am feeling guilty that I have not performed the sraddham correctly and become sad. Despite wearing hearing aids, I find it difficult to catch the manthrams. We do not perform sraddham daily unlike sandhyavandhanams or other pujas so that we are able to memorise /know the manthrams by-heart. I also have the book 'sraddha prayogam' by Anna.
I had been performing the sraddham at home and since my wife found it difficult to cook and also to attend to the requirements during the time I perform the homam and sraddham, we thought of doing it in Sankara matt, T Nagar. I found that the sastrigal hurried up things and the sraddham will be over before 11.30 a.m. Also the cooks were not good. One sastrigal actually caught hold of my hand and poured the havis etc himself into agni. So much in a hurry.
Then I again started performing the sraddham at home with a hired cook. The cook will cook the food always talking over mobile and throwing salt left and right into the food items. And charged a hefty fees.
The vadhyar was also in his usual hurry chanting the manthras in his meter as accustomed to him despite my requesting to repeat upon which he becomes angry.
My vadhyar sends different people each time for the sraddham and all are alike. I have repeatedly requested my vadhyar to send the same person. Sometimes the same sastrigal comes but he is his usual self. None of the vadhyars are interested in making the karta perform the sraddham correctly. They are interested in money only.
I perform Amavasya tharpanam without fail and also on all the days (15/16 days) during the Mahalaya Paksham, and I recite the manthras with the help of the book, sending dhakshina to the vadhyar.
I now feel very sad and am in a dilemma whether to perform sraddham as per parvana vidhi or as hiranya vidhi. I feel guilty. Can anyone help me decide.
S. Subramanian, Pallavaram, Chennai 600043
I had been performing the sraddham at home and since my wife found it difficult to cook and also to attend to the requirements during the time I perform the homam and sraddham, we thought of doing it in Sankara matt, T Nagar. I found that the sastrigal hurried up things and the sraddham will be over before 11.30 a.m. Also the cooks were not good. One sastrigal actually caught hold of my hand and poured the havis etc himself into agni. So much in a hurry.
Then I again started performing the sraddham at home with a hired cook. The cook will cook the food always talking over mobile and throwing salt left and right into the food items. And charged a hefty fees.
The vadhyar was also in his usual hurry chanting the manthras in his meter as accustomed to him despite my requesting to repeat upon which he becomes angry.
My vadhyar sends different people each time for the sraddham and all are alike. I have repeatedly requested my vadhyar to send the same person. Sometimes the same sastrigal comes but he is his usual self. None of the vadhyars are interested in making the karta perform the sraddham correctly. They are interested in money only.
I perform Amavasya tharpanam without fail and also on all the days (15/16 days) during the Mahalaya Paksham, and I recite the manthras with the help of the book, sending dhakshina to the vadhyar.
I now feel very sad and am in a dilemma whether to perform sraddham as per parvana vidhi or as hiranya vidhi. I feel guilty. Can anyone help me decide.
S. Subramanian, Pallavaram, Chennai 600043