Performance of parents' shraddham by brothers

[kannanpadmanabhan]

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I am raising a question which would have arisen to many members

WHile performing shraddham to parents, what is the rule when there are 2 or more brothers?
Assuming the brothers are living in different households in the same city, what is the rule -whether brothers must do shraddham separately or is it permitted to do together in one of their houses?

If one of the brothers is unmarried, is there a separate rule for him also?

Again when giving the response, it will be helpful if it is also clarified whether it is a mandatory or only a preferred approach.

In case this question is already answered in any earlier discussion, please help me with the link to that discussion and accept my apologies for the repetition, in such a case.

Kannan

 

[kgopalan]

Parents sratham must be done individualy even if they live separately in the next, next houses in the same street. If one brother is bachlor he has to live with any one of his brother. Suppose if the bachlor is living with his mother he has to do sratham separately for his father.in samithathaanam agni. Other brothers must do with aupaasanaagni.separately.

If there is no mother the unmarried brother have to live with one of his brother. In that case the unmarried person need not do separately. he can join with his brother.for sratham. This is the rule as per our sastras.

 

[kannanpadmanabhan]

A related question , Sir.

After Shraddham is over, one needs to perform a Tharpanam for this paternal side

Can you pls advise the rules for this tharpanam?

It will be helpful if you could highlight what is mandatory as per shastras and what has become acceptable practice

For eg, whether it is mandatory to perform it only next day or is it allowed to be done same day?
If next day is a must, what rules of conduct apply till the next morning?
Also what are the suggested timings"
If it is done same day as Shraddham, is it acceptable?
Thanks in advance

 

[nannilam_balasubramanian]

A related question , Sir.

After Shraddham is over, one needs to perform a Tharpanam for this paternal side

Can you pls advise the rules for this tharpanam?

It will be helpful if you could highlight what is mandatory as per shastras and what has become acceptable practice

For eg, whether it is mandatory to perform it only next day or is it allowed to be done same day?
If next day is a must, what rules of conduct apply till the next morning?
Also what are the suggested timings"
If it is done same day as Shraddham, is it acceptable?
Thanks in advance

These days, Tharpanam is done immediately after the Srardham
along with Brahmayagnyam as per present day Sastrigals.

Balasubramanian
Ambattur

 

[renumani]

As per kashi renukachandra swamigal (expert in yagna) instructions, it will be more effective, if all brothers do the shrardha unitedly. If not possible, at the same time.

 

[kgopalan]

pareh ahani Tharpanam must be done only on the next day early morning in Brahma muhurtham time. wake up at 4 A.M. have teeth cleaning and bath. wear dry madi vasthram. On the close of sratha day The remaining portion of black ellu and dharbhai pavithram and koorcham and kattai pul will be given by your sastrigals to you saying that the tharpanam must be done early in the morning.

Now have water and arrange in a brass thaambaalam with pancha pathra uthirini do achamanam sankalpam and aavaahanam of paternal pithrus that is father, grand father, father's granfather and mother, father,s mother, father's grand mother. or father's grand grand mother as the case the case may be do tharpanam and praqdakshinam, abhivadhaye, namaskaram, udhyapanam of pithrus. aachamanam.

For those who are having father and they have done mother's sratham there is no parehani tharpanam. If you have to do after sunrise do sandhya vandhanam and gayathri japam and then do pareh ani tharpanam. which is madhimam.

sastras are saying only to do like this. Some 65 years ago sastrigals will come to the kartha's house early in the morning and will take the kartha to the river cauvery and the kartha after taking bath will do pithru tharpanam and come back to house. Now sastrigals are bluntlyn saying that they caanot come in the early morning and the kartha must do immediately after sratham which is not uthamam but only madhimam.