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Parallel cousin marriage

yogaforlife

New member
I am a Tamil Brahmin 27yrs old man, in a relationship with my parallel cousin (my mother's sister's daughter). We both wish to get married. Please share your insights about parallel cousin marriage and guide us.
 

CHANDRU1849

Well-known member
I am a Tamil Brahmin 27yrs old man, in a relationship with my parallel cousin (my mother's sister's daughter). We both wish to get married. Please share your insights about parallel cousin marriage and guide us.
Is she not your cousin sister? Is marrying cousin sister permitted in Hinduism?
 

yogaforlife

New member
I came across the following observations in a web page and thought I will just share this new knowledge (to me) with our members:

Svayambhuva-Manu married Shatarupa, who bore him three daughters by name Akuti, Devahuti and Prasuti. Of these Akuti was given in marriage to the Prajapati Ruchi who had through her a son and a daughter. The son was no other than Hari known by the title 'Yajusham-pati' i.e. lord of the Yajus (mantras) (Bhag. 4-1-6) and the daughter was called Dakshina. Hari as 'lord of the Yajus' was called Yajñadeva whose consort was Dakshini. She was believed to be an amsa (aspect) of Bhuti i.e. Lakshmi. The brother and sister were married as husband and wife. To these were born twelve sons who were collectively called Yama-Devas. Their names were Tosha, Pratosha, Samtosha, Bhadra, Shanti, Idaspati, Idhma, Kavi, Vibhu, Vahni, Sudeva and Rochana....

Marriage of paternal cousins, now condemned, is not unknown to Hindu tradition. Marichi and Daksha were brothers and Kasyapa, the son of the former, married Aditi and other daughters of the latter. These instances seem to bring the early Hindu marriage system into a line with the Egyptian system and suggest that the present Muhammadan custom of marrying paternal cousin sisters was not unknown to the ancient Hindus as to the Egyptians. Aegyptus, the son of Belus, gave his fifty sons in marriage to the fifty daughters of his brother Danaus

Reference: A post in tamilbrahmins page
 

prasad1

Well-known member
Is she not your cousin sister? Is marrying cousin sister permitted in Hinduism?

Chandruji,
Among Tamilian and Telegu community marrying Mama or Athan is common. Marrying Mama or Athan 's children is even more common. They are cousins too.

I grew up in the north, and it used to be common to tease South Indians for that. Because in North India they do not differentiate between brothers and cousins.

Hinduism permits or does not prohibits any cousin marriages.

Marriage between close family members is discouraged for health reasons and the Indian Constitution.
 

prasad1

Well-known member
That marriages between blood relations might lead to health issues for the child has been suspected for several years. Now, a detailed analysis of the issue involving over 11,000 children, born out of consanguineous marriages, revealed congenital anomalies in 386 of them. This figure of 3 per cent contrasts with the 1.6 per cent in children born of out of non-blood-relations unions. Dr Eamonn Sheridan and associates from leads, U.K. analysed these babies termed “Born in Bradford” to obtain these results. Bradford is a small area in the UK where Pakistani Muslims constitute 16.8 per cent of the population. A close knit group, they practice consanguinity; 75 per cent of them marry first cousins.


We in South India too have communities that practise consanguineous marriages. Gotram (ancestral lineage) is taken seriously and marriage does not occur, generally, between a man and a woman of the same gotram. Thus a brother does not marry his own sister. But he can (if even used to be “should”) namely, first cousin. Using the same logic, an uncle-niece marriage is allowed and practised too. Recall what a daughter-in-law refers to her mother-in-law as in Tamil ( Mamiyar, wife of my mother’s brother).

https://www.thehindu.com/sci-tech/health/the-biology-of-first-cousin-marriages/article4902050.ece
 

Raji Ram

Well-known member
The question in the OP has to be discussed with family members; not in a forum!!

Even if forum members support this marriage, will family agree?
 

yogaforlife

New member
We too have read about these health issues when two people of close relation get married. Thank you for sharing it. We would like to first get clarified if this is legal in Hinduism. Kindly share your knowledge about it.
 

yogaforlife

New member
To take the initiative of convincing our family members, we ourselves want to know the consequences first about this relationship. Please share your insight if this is legal and valid in our Brahmin community.
 

a-TB

Active member
TB and most Indians will not accept the marriage is legitimate. Best is to find someone else to date and forget your cousin sister. Think of her welfare and do the best for her. If you love her, let her have a legitimate marriage
 

yogaforlife

New member
We are under same confusion too. But we are unable to give up this relationship either. If we know the proper legal impacts, we can come to a conclusion. Kindly guide us on the legal aspect.
 

CHANDRU1849

Well-known member
Chandruji,
Among Tamilian and Telegu community marrying Mama or Athan is common. Marrying Mama or Athan 's children is even more common. They are cousins too.

I grew up in the north, and it used to be common to tease South Indians for that. Because in North India they do not differentiate between brothers and cousins.

Hinduism permits or does not prohibits any cousin marriages.

Marriage between close family members is discouraged for health reasons and the Indian Constitution.
Prasadji

Medical Science advises avoiding marriages among close relatives.

Do Tamil Iyers marry Chithi's son or daughter?
 

prasad1

Well-known member
Prasadji

Do Tamil Iyers marry Chithi's son or daughter?

NO.
But they accept Mama or Mama's son, similarly, they accept Athai's son. That too is close cousins.

Why is it so difficult to accept facts of our society, particularly when it is wrong on multiple counts.
 
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Jaykay767

Well-known member
Cross cousin marriages are common among Tamils/South Indians and Tamil Brahmins.

mahabharatam famously documents the marriages of Krishna, Arjuna' Abhimanyu, etc..all have cross cousin marriages. Also documented in our Puranas. So it is not prohibited,

key is both of them should have different gotrams.
 

Raji Ram

Well-known member
OMG!!

Amma and Amma's sister have different gōtrams, unless they marry the same man or brothers!!

So.... :faint:
 

Jaykay767

Well-known member
OMG!!

Amma and Amma's sister have different gōtrams, unless they marry the same man or brothers!!

So.... :faint:
LOL

i was referring to the OP who is taking of parallel cousins and not cross cousins..lol

hence the last line that at least gotram has to be different..
 

Jaykay767

Well-known member
Or it can be son and daughter of 2 brothers in which case the gotram will be the same.

I mean, Cross cousin generally refers to son and daughter between brothers and sisters
 

Jaykay767

Well-known member
Not that it has not happened. If one of them give Dattu of their progeny to another gotram relative they can marry.

you just need to find ambitious ambis who can manage this confusion. Lol
 

prasad1

Well-known member
This discussion is not going anywhere fast.
Going back to the OP.

It is not a good idea to marry any close relatives. It will adversely affect the children born of such relations.

Your immediate family would not like it as society looks down on it.

So if I were to be in your shoes, i would not do it.

May better judgement prevail.
 
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