(i had intended to post this in the just closed thread God Exists...)
I have been in forums before and have left them for good, because I felt I grew out of them. I was prominent in some of them, under a different moniker, and still have (tenuous) contacts with some of my old colleagues there. surprisingly these are folks with whom I fough tooth and nail, and at one point, and probably would have killed me.
But times change, we get to know each other better, and slowly realize that we are not the demons that we caricature each other to be, and slowly the respect and affection sets in, and grows. Atleast that is the way it has been with me.
Long ago, I decided that I will not quit this forum. I was angry once, and left, but then realized what an idiot I was. I have a voice, an opinion and a pov, which is a product of my life, and I have here a vehicle, where I enjoy expressing it.
Some of what I believe, is not exactly what others would like. So, in some threads, some people and I are on opposite sides. But on other threads we are buddies.
I wish people could confine their likes dislikes of views and of each other, to within the threads they are involved. And not carry it outside, especially to the extent, that it is ‘all or nothing’, and hence pack up and leave.
Personally I think, starting another forum, nurturing it and getting an audience, is one helluva task. I have barely time for this one.
A while ago, folks broke up from this forum, and started a competing Brahmin forum. These too were my friends, and more than once, I have been requested to join and participate. I tried but had no time. Praveen started a related website, and I have not been to it more than once, I think.
Which is why, when I see subbudu and the rest, wanting to start a new forum, I think, it is a huge task they are undertaking – time and effort wise, and also to build up an audience.
Like it or not, thanks to its catchy title, tamilbrahmins.com attracts folks, and from various walks of views, and while in most cases, we live unconcernedly side by side, we do clash on occasions. And boy, when we clash, we CLASH. So what? Let us clash, be bloodied, and lick our wounds, and get ready to start another fight. Why quit?
Ok Praveen banned us. So what? It is a short ban. Praveen has repeatedly said that he is not interest in our discussions. Just that he does not want to be nuisanced. There is no moderator per se full time, now that KRS appears to have disappeared. Praveen has a full time job, and this forum is a labour of love. Let us not put him in a position, where he has to intervene at all, in the first place.
I have already said, that those who do not like other views, and try to hide under praveen’s veshti as cowards. I still think these are cowards. Let them come out in the open and slug it out. I think Praveen should only intervene to shut a thread, if it becomes bloody bloodied.
On a personal note, people have written to Praveen against me. and I have heard from Praveen. My response was always this: let them come out in the open or point out which of my post was ‘anti brahmin’?
There are lots of people with very shaky hold on hindu philosophy or the supposed Brahmin way of life, which they think is fast disappearing, due to external forces. None of them could look inwards. To introspect and further analyze why we have changed – convenience, values and above all expunging sheer barbarity of some of our erstwhile customs.
While I will be staying here, loved by some, and a perpetual thorn to others, I request those who wish to start a new forum to think it through.
Tamilbrahmins.com is a good place to be, Praveen is a good guy, and we have invested a lot, in time and effort to nurture it. Let us not throw away our estate here in a huff, and start to wander sindbadian style across the forum seas. That is my only caution to those folks, though I wish them well in their future endeavours.
Thank you.
Ps. I think God Exists.
I have been in forums before and have left them for good, because I felt I grew out of them. I was prominent in some of them, under a different moniker, and still have (tenuous) contacts with some of my old colleagues there. surprisingly these are folks with whom I fough tooth and nail, and at one point, and probably would have killed me.
But times change, we get to know each other better, and slowly realize that we are not the demons that we caricature each other to be, and slowly the respect and affection sets in, and grows. Atleast that is the way it has been with me.
Long ago, I decided that I will not quit this forum. I was angry once, and left, but then realized what an idiot I was. I have a voice, an opinion and a pov, which is a product of my life, and I have here a vehicle, where I enjoy expressing it.
Some of what I believe, is not exactly what others would like. So, in some threads, some people and I are on opposite sides. But on other threads we are buddies.
I wish people could confine their likes dislikes of views and of each other, to within the threads they are involved. And not carry it outside, especially to the extent, that it is ‘all or nothing’, and hence pack up and leave.
Personally I think, starting another forum, nurturing it and getting an audience, is one helluva task. I have barely time for this one.
A while ago, folks broke up from this forum, and started a competing Brahmin forum. These too were my friends, and more than once, I have been requested to join and participate. I tried but had no time. Praveen started a related website, and I have not been to it more than once, I think.
Which is why, when I see subbudu and the rest, wanting to start a new forum, I think, it is a huge task they are undertaking – time and effort wise, and also to build up an audience.
Like it or not, thanks to its catchy title, tamilbrahmins.com attracts folks, and from various walks of views, and while in most cases, we live unconcernedly side by side, we do clash on occasions. And boy, when we clash, we CLASH. So what? Let us clash, be bloodied, and lick our wounds, and get ready to start another fight. Why quit?
Ok Praveen banned us. So what? It is a short ban. Praveen has repeatedly said that he is not interest in our discussions. Just that he does not want to be nuisanced. There is no moderator per se full time, now that KRS appears to have disappeared. Praveen has a full time job, and this forum is a labour of love. Let us not put him in a position, where he has to intervene at all, in the first place.
I have already said, that those who do not like other views, and try to hide under praveen’s veshti as cowards. I still think these are cowards. Let them come out in the open and slug it out. I think Praveen should only intervene to shut a thread, if it becomes bloody bloodied.
On a personal note, people have written to Praveen against me. and I have heard from Praveen. My response was always this: let them come out in the open or point out which of my post was ‘anti brahmin’?
There are lots of people with very shaky hold on hindu philosophy or the supposed Brahmin way of life, which they think is fast disappearing, due to external forces. None of them could look inwards. To introspect and further analyze why we have changed – convenience, values and above all expunging sheer barbarity of some of our erstwhile customs.
While I will be staying here, loved by some, and a perpetual thorn to others, I request those who wish to start a new forum to think it through.
Tamilbrahmins.com is a good place to be, Praveen is a good guy, and we have invested a lot, in time and effort to nurture it. Let us not throw away our estate here in a huff, and start to wander sindbadian style across the forum seas. That is my only caution to those folks, though I wish them well in their future endeavours.
Thank you.
Ps. I think God Exists.
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. This is what civil and reasonable people do, disagree in a civil manner and not tear the other person down.
