I suggest that those who have never seen "Visuvin Makkal Arangam"episodes may see the shorter version of the following episode in
Visuvin Makkal Arangam--Emotional Episode uploaded by ka 02 e 8049 on Feb,23,2008.
This serial is one of the BEST any Tamil Viewer will like(not necessarily enjoy as entertainment)This particular serial shows how the relationships
in the family deteriorates in present day society.The lady Tirumathi.Pa.Kalyani who narrates her experience is running an old age home in Coimbatore.I was really moved by seeing this serial.
Ps:-I am unable to upload this serial here without assistance from an experienced person.I will be happy if someone uploads this in this thread.
What about good parents? I feel we must all make those compromises to ensure that we keep our parents in our eyesight. They should have free access to our home everyday, play with their grandchildren etc. Age moderates the severest of men. Money may be there, but some touch some affection. Is this not the thing we want in our children, despite our big talks on being independent?i saw the video.
i do not know if this is a new society standard. from toronto, i have helped out folks who live here, to find old age homes in chennai for their parents.
while my generation too moved away, there was an effort to bring the parents with them where possible (like canada, australia). or there were remnants of relativess still in india, who could take care of the parents.
nowadays, with smaller families, with only one or two children, and both living out of the country, we need to do some rethinking re parent care.
a few years ago, this happened in a canadian family that i know very well. the old father was living alone isolated in northern canada, and it so happened he died, in the midst of some planned celebration at his only daughter's house, for the grand daughter. the comment that came out, was that it was 'an inconvenient time to die'. folks do forget, that times of death are either times of sorrow or inconvenience.
the sad fact, is that this man left a handsome legacy to his only daughter.
the lady kalyani may be right.
i have also seen old people in my neighbourhood, santhome of the 60s, couples sitting in the thinnais, and from deep inside came the booming abuses of the daughter in law.
i think the abuse of old folks has been there in all times. except now, we are coming to hear more of it. previously it was kept well hidden.
this we never discuss. bad parents. i have seen folks, who i think should never have had children. these are the abusive parents, from whom, the children cannot wait to leave home. yes folks, these do exist.
is it a wonder that the children will have nothing to do with these in later years?
as i am approaching my own old age, i cannot but think of these things.
when it comes to parents, i feel chldren always feel guilty for not having done enough. atleast i do.
with regards to my own children, spouse and self have told them, that we would not financially depend on them. also we would like our independence and live by ourselves.
having said that, we would probably follow the examples of many people we know, whites and desis, who transplant themselves, and buy/rent an apartment, close to where their chldren choose to live. that way, they have their own lives, let the children live their own lives, and both are at hand to support each other.
who knows how the future will unfold?
I t has become common among most of the yopungsters to leave their parents in old age homes and go away that heir responsibilities are over. It is sickening to see them in pathetic plight with woe begone faces. Will not nature react?
Fact that you feel that way shows you in great light.One may even say, I am not good enough for my elders to visit me; that is quite possible too.
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