So, go ahead if you love the person and committed to spend the rest of your life with him/her...the couple maintains that this age gap has never been a matter of concern in their relationship and instead, has made them more committed and understanding towards each other.
Do our sasthras,(smartha) permit or approve the marriage where the bride is elder to the groom
Sita is not older than Rama - pls don’t post distorted facts.The Shastras or scriptures do not advocate anything as to age and difference between the groom and bride. It just explains that procreation, duty to provide for the family, and devotion to each other is key to happiness. Polygamy and polyandry were allowed to preserve the clan and ensure every woman was protected and could bear children.
I understand Yajnavalkya Smriti is considered authoritative, and it doesn’t give a particular age difference but says younger, but I have not studied it.
No such thing. Sita was older than Rama. Bhama has married already and older to Krishna.
Here is the story, I quote from Srimad Bhagavatham 9.23.34 - 9.23.38
9.23.34. The son of Usana was Rucaka , who had five sons — Purujit , Rukma ,Rukmesu, Pṛthu and Jyaamagha . I will now tell the stories about them.
9.23.35 Jyaamagha was a henpecked husband. Though he had no sons, he did not accept another wife, out of fear of his wife, Saibya.
9.23.36 Once, Jyaamagha, during an attack on an enemy country, took a girl for sexual gratification. Upon seeing her, Saibya was very angry and said to her husband, “You cheat, who is this girl sitting on my place in your chariot?” Jyaamagha replied,“ This girl will be your daughter-in-law. “
9.23 37 Saibya replied “ I am sterile and have no cowife. How can this girl be my daughter-in-law? Tell me ” Jyamagha replied “She will be a suitable wife for our future son"
9 23 38 Jyaamagha prayed to the Viswedevas and the Pithris and due to their blessings, Saibya later became pregnant. In due course she gave birth to a child named Vidarbha. Since the girl had been accepted as a daughter - in - law even before his birth, Vidarbha actually married her when he grew up.
I have not seen any birth certificates. So I am not an authority on this subject. I am not distorting any facts. I am posting an opinion. If you read different books, and different interpretations of Various Ramayana the ages of Ram and Sita are all over the place.Sita is not older than Rama - pls don’t post distorted facts.
If you have any proof of the age please post a separate thread and we can carry this conversation there.As per Amish Tripathi’s latest book SITA-Warrior of Mithila, Ram’s age is 4 years less than that of Sita’s. This was validated by the writer in many instancs throughout the book.
If the girl has to be of legal age, and if the guy has to be thrice his age, Indian will not have a population problem. There will be much more out of wedlock relation.Tha Smritis as far as I know are silent on this.Bt they say the groom should be thrice the age of the bride