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Chastity begins at home..

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The argument that woman for pleasure and thirst are free to rely on out-of-relationships (and hence need not care about chastity) is actually misogynic in nature.

It is again exploitation of women by those men looking to use women as a commodity for their immediate needs, who would want to throw them off after their needs are over. People who propagate commodotization of women under the garb of their sexual liberation are indeed misogynic.

Chastity is common for man and woman in a relationship.

If a woman or man want to walk out of that relationship for want of sexual (or economic or emotional) freedom, they should be welcome to do so, with all honesty and transparency. They should have the maturity to select their next choices and be truthful to those choices.

There are always exceptions, but exceptions are not the rule.

In sanatana dharma, in brahmadeya marriage, a man and woman are supposed to become a friend first. It is their friendship that lays the foundation for their sexual interaction. As they discover more and more about themselves, they evolve to have their own relationship that is not defined by similar relationships others have.

When friendship lays the foundation of marriage, the question of chastity does not even arise. True friends know what each other want/desire and get that for them or bear with their shortcomings. They decide what they can bear and what they cannot. Society does not decide it for them.

-TBT

Nope...a woman decides what she wants to do.
In fact men are the ones easily exploited these days.

Its not about anyone using anyone here in a negative manner.

Everyone in this world is a consumer..we use photons..quark..hadronsLOL

ok kidding...i mean we all consume nature and material for sustenance.

A husband uses a wife...a wife uses a husband..an employer uses an employee and vice versa...its mutual using for a symbiotic relationship.

Death too is used by the living.
A dead animal in the woods is consumed by other animals.

Nothing in the world is not used and everything in the world uses another.

Sweet dreams are made of this
Who am I to disagree?
I travel the world
And the seven seas,
Everybody's looking for something.
Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
 
பெண்ணின் குரல்/குறள்

கற்க கசடற கற்பை கற்றபின்
நிற்க அதற்கு தக.
 
Ofcourse we are endowed with will and consciousness to decide what we want to do.

There is a dharma, laws of universe, that gives sustenance. Those who follow the dharma, the laws of universe, sustain and evolve. Those who do not perish.

If man 'uses' woman and throws her out, a woman 'uses' man and throws him out, then such a society does not evolve.

It perishes.

Not kidding, but if electrons get bound to nucleus following some laws of Universe, then we have an atom and we have further evolution. If they have remained apart, just using as and when needed, not obeying the laws of universe, then no evolution. :p

-TBT
 
Situational song!
A woman singing about all her Ex's and her Oh's who keep coming back to her and wont leave her!

She keeps complaining :..(actually I wonder why she keeps complaining..when she has so many men desiring her!LOL)

One, two, three, they gonna run back to me
'Cause I'm the best baby that they never gotta keep
One, two, three, they gonna run back to me

I agree, this is a situation song!
 
I would not like to use the terms like Chastity, adultery which are freely used here. There is nothing holy about chastity and nothing unholy about adultery in the context of an individual known only to the involved souls. If they are to come to the public domain, then it affects the society. and society will disapprove of it. While the individual is concerned about only the next few years, society is about centuries.

So, having said that, let us take a look at the woman sexuality. A woman has as much right as the man to be proud of her sexuality. She has to be aware of her body, system and its demands. She has also to satisfy those demands to live happily.

Since time immemorial there has been instances of woman sexuality expressing itself boldly and loudly. We have instances of women unsatisfied with what was available within the bounds of a marriage looking for relief and looking for finding their momentary heaven on earth outside the marriage.

There are women who have met with their accident of a marriage with a man whose interests and passions are outlandish or whose interests and passions are just less than a zero. This results in a life which becomes a drudgery. Every day dawns as the dreaded arrival of another tonne of burden that has to be lived out.

There are also women who have to handle every day and night a husband who is sold on opiates and alcohol. Such women if they happen to be very sensitive types would certainly look for alternative solutions.

There are women who are intellectuals or brilliant artists whose sharpness of intellect or the creativity that comes with arts meeting with totally insensitive morons for husbands. Such women are keenly aware of their sexuallity and dares to break traditional barriers and get free.

Every such woman can not become a member of a car key club and get relief from a blind date.

So such deliberately chosen accidents do happen and will continue to happen.

The fiction drama of Kovalan, Kannagi and Madhavi which has been discussed here is also a story of such a heart-rending dilemma of a woman and man . Madhavi was a multifaceted personality and was a very accomplished young woman and Kovalan had a common frequency with her to oscillate. It was waiting to happen and it happened. Madhavi as well as Kovalan found something in each other which they could not find in others. That is briefly the story and the rest of the narrative is just drama.

So let us get out of the chastity/adultery mindset and look at it as a genuine problem of the involved pathetic men and women.

At the society level of course a marriage is sacrosanct. We can not have adultery within the marriage as normal. Then we will have to discuss a whole lot of other similar things here including sodomy and that is prohibited.

This will be the appropriate situation song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmz4INt6WUE
 
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So let us get out of the chastity/adultery mindset and look at it as a genuine problem of the involved pathetic men and women.

This will be the appropriate situation song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmz4INt6WUE
(#30)

This situation song is not appropriate for.Gods! இறைவன் காெடுத்த வரத் தை இறைவனே நம்பவில்லை! கண்களால் கண்ட கற்பின் அணிகலன் had to pass the Hall Mark Fire test!
 
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